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writes:ok so there is this guy who is my friend. He has feelings for me but he ain't going to confess his feelings for me. He thinks that i don't know he has feelings for me, the truth is i know he has feelings for me. Since he is not going to confess, then i have to take the first move. How do i make him feel comfortable in confessing his feelings for me?? How do i even ask him to confess??? please help me! advice is needed!! Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): If he's too shy or doesn't want to then, provided that you have feelings for him, tell him how you feel. If he fancies you then you shouldn't be too worried about being rejected.
Otherwise, bring up the subject gradually. About relationships, maybe hint what you look for in someone and ask him the same. Just generally talk about it. That might spark him to speak up. Especially if you drop a few hints at the same time.
Or you could just ask him simply how he feels for you.
He could be building up him confidence to do it so don't force it out of him if he's not ready.
Good Luck. X
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 If you know, then why do you need to have it vocalised?
For some people it is the opposite way around. People say, 'I love you,' but don't mean it. Just get on with enjoying each other's company. If you know there are genuine feelings then accept that. If he wants to say I love you he will eventually. Some men don't want to trivialise what they feel is such an important statement. It can also carry a lot of expectations and at at your ages, I'm assuming he is about the same, then that can feel like signing up to play mummy and daddy. So enjoy what you have and build your relationship from there.
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reader, Confuzzled012  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 What makes you sure he has feelings for you? I really hope you aren't just assuming he does from pure ego.
BUt it's a simple question: Do you have feelings for me?
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