He says he feels a bit smothered by me yet he is still showing a lot of interest...
Q. In December I stated dating a great guy who I fell in love with very quickly. When we would chat, we had the same things in common and the comment 'where have you been' was not only said but felt by both of us. The other remarkable thing I felt we ...
A. 24 March 2009: What a confusing situation! It sounds like he is crazy about you but at the same time running away from any form of a relationship. Sounds to me like there could be more to the story. He might have an issue you don't know about, an interest in s... (read in full...)
Her libido is way off the richter scale!!!
Q. I've been with my fiancee for two and a half years. I couldn't ask for a better lady. She's intelligent and absolutely stunning. The thing is though, she has a massive sex drive. She's never satisfied with just vaginal intercourse, she has to have...
A. 24 March 2009: This is a really complex situation. You need to think really hard about how this is making you feel and how it could make her feel if you talk to her. She has a high sex drive, she wants sex and she wants you. Talking to her won't change that. She... (read in full...)
How do you tell people "we met on the internet" or do you?
Q. Hi guys. I'm 22 and i'm a virgin - and had minimal experience with girls. I've decided I want to have sex whenever it feels right for me (i.e. not wait until I find 'the one', but a one night stand is a possibility if the opportunity pres...
A. 26 September 2008: Just say you met on the internet. It's not uncommon and people for some reason people generally find it fascinating.... (read in full...)
What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake?
Q. What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake? I have been with my wife for 7 years (married 6) and for the last year or two I have been insanely unhappy. I'm in no way perfect, so I won'...
A. 30 July 2008: The breakup of a marriage can hurt children BUT remember unhappy parents in a strained home environment also damages children.
Unfortunately she probably knows you won't walk so treats you however she wants. If you're going to stay you need to ... (read in full...)
My older girlfriend is pressuring me for sex!
Q. Hey Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months know and we love each other i am 15 and she is 18, and she is ready to lose her virginity but i do no think that i am. I have told her this and she said to me that she will 'go somewhere el...
A. 30 July 2008: If you're not ready you're not ready. It is that simple. It sounds like she is almost being demanding, is that love?... (read in full...)
Should we have underage sex? I'm not sure...
Q. my girl friend told me the other day that she wonted sex but i dont no if we should because of are age im 14 and she is 13 but i dont wont to say no because i dont wont it to effected are relationship wot do i do?...
A. 30 July 2008: If you are not ready for sex you should say no. If that damages the relationship then she isn't a very worthy person as having sex for the first time isn't something to be demanded. I never had sex until I was quite a bit older than yourself but ... (read in full...)
My husband is being very strnage and 2 faced about our divorce....
Q. my husband of 25 yrs and i seperated 3months ago, we have three children together, 23, 21 and 8 yrs old, a divorce has been filed, today was supose to be our final hearing, but a continunace was filed for october. hes been living with another woman, ...
A. 30 July 2008: I think he doesn't know what he wants and that really doesn't cut it. His behaviour must be very hurtful to yourself. You very wisely told him if he came back no more running off but he ran off. You are the victim here. Explain the situation to your ... (read in full...)
My husband's male friend is at our home, almost every other weekend, our sexual acts have changed, could my husband be cheating on me with his male friend?
Q. My husband has a best friend that he hangs out with all of the time. He has recently gotten to the point where he goes outside to talk with him. I came home one day on my lunch break and when his friend called he was speaking in codes, and finally ...
A. 30 July 2008: That is a tricky situation. Even if you did ask him, as being suggested, if he said an outright NO would you believe him? Even if he is bisexual or gay he might be terrified of losing you and say he isn't. Like one of the other posters asked is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my family I'm bisexual?
Q. Hey Guys, Basically Im 16 and Ive recently discovered im bisexual. Im Not out yet, except to a few close friends. I really want to tell my family, and get the whole thing off my chest, but almost my whole family are homophobic. I have a gay cousin w...
A. 19 July 2008: No it isn't unnatural. If you think you might be gay then I wouldn't tell your parents you a bisexual as this will just confuse them! If you think you might be gay wait until you know that for sure. If you think their reaction might be bad maybe ... (read in full...)
How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home?
Q. How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home? I know if they really want to be alone chances are they’ll find a way even if parents don’t allow them but what are your views on allowing your kids ...
A. 7 May 2008: My parents felt it depended on how responsible/mature I was. I think 18 is old enough as I don't know about the UK but in Australia you're considered an adult at 18.... (read in full...)
When I'm not around he's a totally different person.
Q. My husband made friends with a co worker, all 3 of us work together, although I'm not there that much because it isn't my main job. He had been helping her move, hugging her, posing for pics, playing golf with her ex husband, and even had a secr...
A. 7 May 2008: I don't blame you for being upset. He is your husband. If he is helping a co-worker move house then that is absolutely fine but I don't see why he wouldn't tell you or mention it. He may have only not told you because he was worried you'd be ... (read in full...)
All my mates have got girlfriends but I havent!!
Q. I've never had a girlfriend, although kissed a few girls - but no relationship. Am I looking in the wrong place? I'm 17 and about to finish school. Where will I find girls? All my mates have got girlfriends but I havent!!...
A. 7 May 2008: You are 17 so life isn't quite over yet -- there's still time left to find a girlfriend. I was never in a relationship until I was 20. Sure I would have liked to have been in one earlier on but if it doesn't happen it just doesn't happen. If you ... (read in full...)
What is the sweetest thing that he/she ever said to you?
Q. I don't really need advice, I'm just curious. What is the sweetest thing that he/she ever said to you?...
A. 7 May 2008: It probably sounds quite common but I think a random genuine out of the blue "I Love You" is just great.... (read in full...)
He's nervous when he talks to me...why is he acting like this?
Q. For the past year, I've been running into a crush at a local bar. I've known him for a while through a ex-friend (I can't ask my friend about him), but I never sat down and spoke to him. I would always say hi to him, and he would say hi back and ...
A. 7 May 2008: If he acts nervious when he talks to you he probably doesn't come up and talk to you more as he's just that... nervous! If this has been going on for a year maybe you should just ask him out and then you'll know one way or the other. He may feel the ... (read in full...)
Was he having a knock at me by introducing me to his parents as being 'Black Irish'?
Q. I just started seeing this guy and we are just getting to know each other. We both seemed to have been hitting it off. But i'm a bit troubled by what happened when he introduced me to his parents. He introduced me to his parents who are Irish an...
A. 7 May 2008: I've no idea. I think you should ask him what he meant by it.... (read in full...)
Pros and Cons....is he worth it? He's changed a few things, will he change them all?
Q. My boyfriend, 30: Pros: Buys me flowers. Cooks dinners time to time. Helps clean house, dishes, tends the yard. Tells me I'm beautiful almost every day and that he loves me. Always calls me. Wants marriage, babies, the works with me. Good looking...
A. 7 May 2008: You're right in that no one is perfect. You need to work out whether or not you can live with his bad qualities and what your limitations are. Is he doing anything about them or will they be permenant? What things would need to change for you to ... (read in full...)
How do we get out of the same old boring routine?
Q. i am in an almost 5yr relationship w/ my byfrnd. i am 34 he is 33. we live together, but it is more like roomates, how do we get out of this bored routine?...
A. 18 April 2008: If he has made it clear that he doesn't love you then I don't see why changing your bored routine will make things any better. You deserve to be with someone who loves you.... (read in full...)
How can I get over her sexual past as this is the only problem in the relationship??
Q. I'm currently in a serious relationship with a girl I love. The only problem is that I cant get over her sexual past (which really isnt that bad) She's 21 and has been with 6 guys, all of them short flings that lasted a couple weeks. (the tot. ...
A. 1 March 2008: In future don't ask your partner about their sexual past as it's in the past and what you don't know won't bother you.... (read in full...)
I am bi and have fallen for my best mate
Q. Im bi and i've fallen in love with my best friend. He knows i fancy him but im pretty sure he dosent know im in love with him. I cant just go on pretending and im thinking of making a move. What do i do?...
A. 29 February 2008: If he is gay or bi then sure give it a go but otherwise you are probably best not to try or even tell him as it will probably just make him feel uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
I am considering cheating
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs have 2 children but have had an all but non existent sex life during the marriage. I have tried seducing her buying presents doing all the household chores and even explaining that i will have to walk away from the ...
A. 29 February 2008: Maybe you should tell your wife how you're thinking and feeling - that might be the jolt she needs to realise just how serious this is. If she doesn't feel like sex for some reason she should go to the doctor.... (read in full...)
On A Search For Either Escorts Or Massage Parlours Any Advice Welcome.
Q. Hi All I have never had a girlfriend or sex and I am in my 20's, I am fed up waiting for the right female to come along as I know it will probably never happen so I have decided to look for sex either in a massage parlour or hire an escort as I n...
A. 29 February 2008: I would also advise you against it. If you want sex then go on an online dating site and say that's what you're looking for.... (read in full...)
Can I expect my man to do 50% of the household work?
Q. Can I expect my man to do 50% of the household work? or should I just be happy with the fact that "he is trying". He has been "trying" for 2 years now and he still needs help to keep clean....
A. 12 February 2008: Like the others have said - if you're both working than yes you should be sharing the household chores. He doesn't need to try he just needs to do them! Unless if he's working and you're not, or if he's working more than you as then it is reasonable ... (read in full...)
Afraid what others will think if I get back with him
Q. My boy friend broke up with me 4 days ago, but then called me. We had a long talk and he told me how much he missed me and how I was the only one for him. All my friends tell me to let go because I deserve a better guy, but I think I still like him. ...
A. 12 February 2008: If you always do what you think your friends approve of most you'll never do what you want to do. If you want to get back with him then get back with him. I say listen to your heart.... (read in full...)
Am I related to my boyfriend??????
Q. my boyfriends grandma was my moms half sister does that mean we are closely related?...
A. 11 February 2008: You are "half first cousins once removed" so no, not too closely related.... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a curse or bad karma?
Q. I wonder if there is any chance , that there is such a thing as curse or karma? I try to live this life ,with the best intentions, yet everything falls apart on me. I thought, you make your own luck. It really does not happen in my life. I was nev...
A. 11 February 2008: Some believe in karma and some don't. I would say in reality there is always an element of chance to how our lives play out. Doing everything right unfortunately doesn't mean everything will got perfectly. All we can do is do our best and hope for ... (read in full...)
Is my gay bf becoming confused about his sexuality? I discovered he is watching heterosexual porn, but won't confirm my suspicions!
Q. Hello, I'll get straight on to it. I'm a gay male in a long term relationship with another gay male. We have been together for 6.5 years, and though neither of us are "first timers" as far as long relationships go, I consider him to be my first re...
A. 11 February 2008: Tell him you saw the straight and lesbian porn in the trash can on his computer - and then ask what that's all about. A confrontation may be what it takes to start getting some answers. If he holds back you ask more intensely. Explain that it is ... (read in full...)
Does bi curious make you gay?
Q. just wondering, is it normal to be bi-curious? and does being bi-curious make someone gay? thanks....
A. 11 February 2008: Bi-Curious would suggest you are possibly bisexual.... (read in full...)
Is our age difference too big?
Q. I need some advice and my story might be a little long so please bear with me. I have fallen for a guy who is a regular customer at the store where I work. The problem is there is quite a big age difference between us. Iam almost 21 and he is 38. He ...
A. 11 February 2008: It takes more than being of similar age to make a good relationship. If all the other elements are there then go for it - providing he is willing to give it a good go and stop worrying about the age gap.... (read in full...)
I don't want to have an affair but I don't want a life without passion...what should I do??
Q. I was 22 (1990) when I met my ex who at the time was 46. We dated for 2 1/2 years. We had so much fun together. We enjoyed each others' company. The sex was unbelievable. Everything about the relationship was passionate. He was really hung up on ...
A. 11 February 2008: The best scenario you have is to try and create more passion between yourself and your husband.... (read in full...)
My wife won't make love to me anymore and when we do she says it lasts too long.
Q. Whenever i try to make love with my wife she says no. She say she is tried but she can go to the gym at 4:30 am and go to yogi class at 6:00pm the same day. I tell her once or twice during the week we can make love instead of her going to the gym....
A. 11 February 2008: Well we're all different and all like different things. Have you taken on board what she's said? She has given you one pirce of information and that is that it takes too long. For some two hours is probably two long for sex. Maybe if it was half an ... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me so badly?
Q. My boyfriend has been treating me really bad and I don't know how to tell him how he's been treating me because whenever I try to tell him he gets mad. He never wants to talk unless we're having sex. If we're not having sex and I try to talk to him ...
A. 11 February 2008: You might love him however he's demonstrating no love to you. He sounds mean, controlliny and nasty. The only reason I can think of why he is treating you so badly is because he's not a very nice person.... (read in full...)
Shall I carry on seeing him and break my parent's hearts or break his??
Q. Dear all, I would be so grateful to anyone who reads this, i appreciate I am one of many letters on this forum, but your advice would not just help me but anyone else in my situation. Thank you in advance for taking your time to read this.......
A. 11 February 2008: Only you can decide what to do and I can understand your anxiety over the choices to make. As the other post said it is your parents who have caused this problem. If they weren't so racially intolerant and more accepting of their daughter's choices ... (read in full...)
Is this a strange habit of my boyfriend's?
Q. My boyfriend masturbates whilst playing on his xbox360. several times i have walked in on hhim holding the controller in one hand and his penis in the other. he does it with many different games, from racing games to war games. i've tried to ignore ...
A. 7 February 2008: I don't see it as any big deal. Some guys masturbate while sitting around on their own doing all sorts of things. He probably isn't masturbating because of the xbox360 (as that would be a problem!) but just because he's sitting around and feeling ... (read in full...)
My close friend has come out as gay, and now another close friend of mine is picking on him. How can I sort out our friendship?
Q. one of my closest friends just came out that he is gay. and another of my closest friends is now picking on him because of it. before he came out they were like brothers. but now they hate each other. how can i help stop the fighting between them. ...
A. 7 February 2008: The simple answer is that you might not be able to intervene without hurting one of them. If you don't your gay friend may be offended and if you do the friend with the problem might be offended.
The first post offers good advice. Try and talk to ... (read in full...)
I found out she's bisexual.. It's freaking me out!
Q. I'm not homophobic, and I have nothing against people that choose not to be straight, but my quite close friend has basically told me she's bisexual... Now I feel watched by her when I'm around her. I know it's ridiculous, and that if she was a gu...
A. 7 February 2008: Wow back up sister... "I have nothing against people that choose not to be straight" -- she wouldn't have chosen not to be straight. There is debate over what causes sexual orientation but what is for certain is that it isn't a choice.
She i... (read in full...)
He's all I can think about.
Q. Hi, I'm bisexual and I have a friend who's the same age and sex as me who I have been sexually attracted to for several years. He was my roommate in high school for 1 year and I have never come out to him. I have fantasies about him and have been ...
A. 6 February 2008: Well if you want there to be the chance of something happening you could tell him you are bisexual and also ask him why he is angry with you. That would be a start and give you more to go with.... (read in full...)
Would love to reveal my sexual orientation to my parents and friends, but I am scared of their reaction. How do I put it?
Q. I'm 22 and live in London UK. I have known that I'm gay since early adolescence. I started to meet guys off the internet, and go to gay bars and clubs. Up to now, the only people I have told I'm gay are other gay men, who have absolutely no ...
A. 1 February 2008: I tried to throw my parents off the scent but my Mum still suspected I was gay. The reality is you'll never know their reaction until you tell them. You could try getting them to think you might be gay so when you tell them it isn't such a shock ... (read in full...)
What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are in a a slight situation. She won't give me oral (or fellatio) yet she insists i give her oral saying it will satisfy us both. I told her unless she gives me oral I won't give her oral. Ws I right, or am I just thinking...
A. 16 October 2007: She is the one thinking of just herself! She obviously wants it but doesn't want to give it. It is quite a selfish approach.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to be attracted to me.
Q. I have had several chats just recently with my boyfriend about how I feel like he isn't that bothered about me, and just likes being in a relationship with anyone rather specifically me. He says he loves me, and got very emotional when I was ...
A. 16 October 2007: You need to find out why he doesn't want sex, which could be easier said than done.... (read in full...)
Is she letting me know these things because she wants to move on, or is she genuinely looking for answers?
Q. Hi, I'm 39 and my girl is 27. We both love each other, and have been together 5 years. She is starting to question things...she wonders why we don't talk deeply and where are we heading? (her brother who is younger just got engaged). She an...
A. 24 May 2007: Wake up! You have said it yourself -- her "younger" brother just got engaged and here she is older and not engaged or married -- HINT HINT!!!
Maybe if you love her and want to spent the rest of your life with her you should commit and ask her to m... (read in full...)
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