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writes:Can I expect my man to do 50% of the household work? or should I just be happy with the fact that "he is trying". He has been "trying" for 2 years now and he still needs help to keep clean. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I wonder what you mean by "trying". Does that mean he does a little bit and then quits? Or does it mean he does things his way and you want them done your way?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 My dad helps around the house alot. My mum does more than 50% as she's around more. My dad cooks the dinner every night though, he irons a bit and he has a day off sunday so does the whole housework on that day! I guess I'm quite lucky I been raised in a household where everything equal, you won't believe how many times at school or whatever where I heard women complain about men, saying they can't clean! it's a bunch of crap, they 'cant' clean because you let them get away with it!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 There are no hard and fast rules . It is a matter of compromise . You cannot split the chores 50% down the center. It is no more a marriage but a business partnership.
What happened to the love?
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reader, davie  +, writes (12 February 2008):
Like the others have said - if you're both working than yes you should be sharing the household chores. He doesn't need to try he just needs to do them! Unless if he's working and you're not, or if he's working more than you as then it is reasonable for you to be doing more.
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reader, Passthrough  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 If you are both working, yes, he should be doing his share of the housework.
If you're working 20 hours to his 40-hours, you are accountable for 2 chores out of 3.
If your high-pay high-stress 40-hours a week job is a breeze compared to his 40-hour/week bank job, have the guy cut you some slack :-D
How about this: Have a nice talk with him, figure out whos working what, how much stress it is, and also consider means of making it so he picks up after himself more than you do, even if he's working a straight 40 to your work-at-home schedule.
Also remember (But not to sound sexist) if you're cleaning and doing laundry, he's fixing whats broke, keeping the car in shape, and doing most of the yardwork/grungework. Dont forget, one's meager laundry skills are no match for one who can weild a wrench and screwdriver with relative ease :-D
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): to the anonymous poster how if he is working how about he only give her 50% of the house he pays for or givs her 50% less money not trying to be sexist but if the man works and the women doesnt the man shouldnt have to clean!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I think that a couple should each share 50% of the household duties. My ex-husband didn't do 50% of the house chores and I eventually resented him. For your guy to try helps, but when you're doing the cleaning, it gets old. The thing about being a couple is that it should be 50/50...not necessarily on each individual thing, because he may do more of the outside work, while you do more of the inside stuff, or vice-versa. As long as the effort is made by BOTH persons, then it averages out. Just remember that you are worth it and if he cares, he will help you as much as you help him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Ummmm...do you think he'd want 50% of the meals that are cooked? And at least 50% of his laundry folded? I say, he better do 50% of the housework for those things and more that the woman tends to assume.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): umm it kinda depends if you are working, he should do the cleaning and vice cersa if you both are working then it should be 50% however he may just be a messy guy. I can't really give much more advice on it without more information.
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