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writes:For the past year, I've been running into a crush at a local bar. I've known him for a while through a ex-friend (I can't ask my friend about him), but I never sat down and spoke to him. I would always say hi to him, and he would say hi back and just walk away. Or I would say hi and ask him how he was, and when I would turn to say hi to another guy or friend, he would walk away. It seems like whenever we would have a conversation, it was because I kept on 'poking' at him to talk to me. At one point, I kind of just gave up and stopped saying hi, hoping that he would say Hi to me or initiate some conversation - but he never did! So I went back to saying hi to him. He is a social guy - I always see him around friends. My girlfriends told me he looks at me, and sometimes I catch him too. It's very strange. I feel like he likes me (he's nervous when he talks to me) but then why is he acting like this?
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 May 2008):
If he acts nervious when he talks to you he probably doesn't come up and talk to you more as he's just that... nervous! If this has been going on for a year maybe you should just ask him out and then you'll know one way or the other. He may feel the same way you do but be feeling too nervous.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 May 2008):
 There's no clue why he's acting like this... My first impression, general nervousness? Oh, and he is attracted to you if he's stealing glances, but he may be shy about making that all-important "first move".
It sounds like you need to make it a little easier for him to make the next move... something like going into this place alone and sitting at the bar near him. Give him the chance to talk.
Of course, you could just take the slightly more aggressive role and approach him and get the conversation (and the ball) rolling... just a thought.
Good luck!!
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reader, JesseENG +, writes (7 May 2008):
Sounds like he likes ya. Maybe you need to burst his bubble and establish a connection between the two of you. It might make him more comfortable. Like if you both had interest in a similar sport or something.
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