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writes:I just started seeing this guy and we are just getting to know each other. We both seemed to have been hitting it off. But i'm a bit troubled by what happened when he introduced me to his parents. He introduced me to his parents who are Irish and I am Irish as well but he introduced me as being black Irish. I have heard this term before something about Irish people having dark hair. But I have also heard this term used to describe Catholic Irish which I am. He is not, nor his family, and they are all blonde. Does anyone think that it was a knock at me like saying I was not realy Irish, or am I over reacting? Or he was just stating that I have dark hair and eyes? Reply to this Question
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reader, debbie6  +, writes (7 May 2008):
Are you living in England? Ive heard the term 'plastic Irish' which means your not fully Irish as you have an English accent. Or it is probably soft humour, maybe your beliefs are different from his, I wouldn't take offence by it. I'm Irish too
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): I've only heard of green Irish.
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 May 2008):
I've no idea. I think you should ask him what he meant by it.
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reader, SpicySweet +, writes (7 May 2008):
 How did everyone react? Was there soft laughter and did it feel out of adoration? Or did it feel cold and disrespectful? Or was there not even laughter at all, was it just an accepting nod? I agree with Jamer...if he's bringing you into his home, I doubt he means to disrespect you, unless you know him to have a cruel sort of humor. You need to put together what you do know about him and how the statement was intended, which is perfectly ok to ask him, just say in a sweet voice that you're curious how he meant that.
Or if you can, roll with the punches and throw something light back out there like "Brown is the new black irish so it's not so intimidating". Ok, that might sound kinda stupid but be creative if you don't like the sound of it. And if these are good people, they will admire and love you for more than your labeling of being "black irish". Peace :)
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (7 May 2008):
 not being irish ive never heard of either saying but guessing
If hes parents are old irish and were in Ireland around the years of turmoil it could be about your religon just as a term they may have used to desribe catholics or simply yes it may be your hair
But either way take it with a pinch of salt, i doubt he meant to insult you if he likes you enough to introduce you to his parents
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