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writes:Me and my girlfriend are in a a slight situation. She won't give me oral (or fellatio) yet she insists i give her oral saying it will satisfy us both. I told her unless she gives me oral I won't give her oral.Ws I right, or am I just thinking of myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): If she is INSISTING but not returning the favor- let her do without! There are other ways to turn up her fire too.
Tho I do suggest you ask and find out why, it may
just be a little matter of swallowing. That can be overcome! Lovemaking is mutual pleasuring. Since he likes
it, but she doesn't it, why not make a special treat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): Do you really want her to desire you or do you just want sex for your enjoyment? Do you want her to have an orgasm, or maybe multiple orgasms? Do you want her to want to have sex with you and often?
You as a male - probably - have no problem having an orgasm after a few minutes of intercourse. Right? You can probaly come after a few minutes of hand action. But does she come after a few minutes of intercourse?
Guys think women have bodies that react the same way that their bodies do, but the physiology is different. Desire is something that builds for a woman and without desire, there is no pleasure.
Sex for women is the whole process starting with hand holding, kissing, hugging, touching, stroking, oral sex, etc. etc because it allows a womnan's body the opportunity to build desire; to prepare for intercourse. If you don't like giving her oral sex, at least ask her what you can do to help her build her desire for you. They younger guys learn that 10 or 15 minutes of sincere physical attention can get them a whole lot more sex, and better sex, the more satisfied men and women will be sexually.
When he says it is for the both of you, she is trying to tell you this. Go educate yourself about a woman's body.
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reader, davie  +, writes (16 October 2007):
She is the one thinking of just herself! She obviously wants it but doesn't want to give it. It is quite a selfish approach.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 In this case, yes, what is good for the goose is good for the gander, provided you don't understand it as "if I give you this, then you MUST give me that". Giving someone pleasure because you want to, without expecting anything in return, IS indeed good for the goose and for the gander. Giving oral sex just because you want her to give it to you is bad for the goose and for the gander.
If you enjoy giving her oral, then do. If you don't, don't. And she would need to put up with your NOT wanting it, just as you have to put up with her NOT wanting to give you oral.
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reader, Charley Coles +, writes (15 October 2007):
Don't all boys think about them selves really. Well to be honest show her some curiosity give her it first and she will want it back I'm a girl and i should know. Just turn her on give her oral or the best way is to tease her until she cant resist. Don't think about your self 24/7
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