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writes:I've never had a girlfriend, although kissed a few girls - but no relationship. Am I looking in the wrong place? I'm 17 and about to finish school. Where will I find girls? All my mates have got girlfriends but I havent!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): thats not so bad, the time will come, but if u really want 2 find sum1, i suggest that u go sumplace wher u KNOW grls hang out. mabey the movies, bowlin mabey.
Anywher.
Hope this help, cya
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 May 2008):
You are 17 so life isn't quite over yet -- there's still time left to find a girlfriend. I was never in a relationship until I was 20. Sure I would have liked to have been in one earlier on but if it doesn't happen it just doesn't happen. If you really want to meet someone then you'll have to put yourself in situations where that could happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Are you always with your mates? Because if you hang out in big groups (particularly of lads) then girls won't really come across, or will try not to show an interest. So if you try and spend a little time on your own when you're around a girl you like, then she'll feel more comfortable coming across :]
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reader, bfly36  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 i think if u continue to be yourself and make goals for urself the right person will come into your life, the more u look for something the less u will find it. Keep up ur personal appearance and smell good, girls like that, good luck.
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reader, stuckinthemiddle81 +, writes (7 May 2008):
 I'm gonna tell you something everyone has told me since I hit puberty at 12, "You will find someone when you LEAST expect it." And, let me tell you, I wanted to rip their f*cking faces off when ever I heard people say that: my mom, my cousins, my aunts, uncles--TEACHERS, for God sakes! I had never had a boyfriend. I only kissed a boy in high school (my first kiss at 14). I finally got a real boyfriend and was "deflowered" last year...when I turned 26. I know, I know, it sounds horrible and too prudish. But all my life I wanted a boyfriend so badly because all my girlfriends had one or more. I was so envious of those who had a boyfriend, even of those celebrity girls my age who had a boyfriend. I wrote poems about it, I became a little depressed whenever I saw a couple kissing to the point where I wanted to knock their heads together out of anger! BUT-I realized that I shouldn't make such a big deal out of the whole relationship issue because I was missing out on so much more. I was avoiding my friends, my parents and avoided enjoying anything that I use to like. So I threw myself into my work, my family, and I went on a few dates with some creepy guys and said, "Ok, maybe its not my time to have a boyfriend yet." A few months after dating those creepos, one day a guy emails me on MySpace and we find that we have the same weird sense of humor and interests in bad movies. Months later, after being friends and hanging out casually, we became boyfriend and girlfriend without us really realizing it. Our relationship is going into one year and seven months so far.
What I'm trying to say is, what all those old people would usually tell you {(or me when I was your age), is you have your whole life ahead of you and I know it makes you feel awkward and jealous to be around your buddies and their chicks but look at it this way: When you finally get yourself a girlfriend, she's going to be the nicest, coolest girl out there because you took your time in finding a girl and actually know what you want in one.
I hope I helped some.
Good luck, sweetie!
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