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writes:one of my closest friends just came out that he is gay. and another of my closest friends is now picking on him because of it. before he came out they were like brothers. but now they hate each other. how can i help stop the fighting between them. without hurting my friendship with either one of them? Reply to this Question
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reader, jamiej  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 It's a difficult time for both - your one mate has just come to terms with his sexuality, the other is prob feeling very upset that his friend "lied" to him.You need to support the lad who's just come out, and I'd have an open honest chat with the other lad - then you can understand his concerns/problems, and try and help him get through them
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (7 February 2008):
 tell the other friend whos being mean to grow up. Hes immature and doesn't understand. If he doesn't learn to appreciate the FRIENDship then hes not a tre friend. Also take into consideration he may be a lil worried this friend may develop feeling just ask you gay friend to tell your straight friend hes not interested in him so dont worry and can they still be friends. Sit them both down in a room and mediate x
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 February 2008):
The simple answer is that you might not be able to intervene without hurting one of them. If you don't your gay friend may be offended and if you do the friend with the problem might be offended.
The first post offers good advice. Try and talk to the friend with a problem. Raise the issue with him in a calm sort of way and hope he sees reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
I have lots of gay friends, To realise your sexuality and openly come out is a hard thing to do as this kind of thing happens, Hunny take your friend to one side not the one thats just come out the one thats got a problem, Sit with him and talk, Tell him that people are different and if we we not the world would be a strange place, Tell him that we have to accept people i.e friends for those differences and try as hard as we can to understand them, That his friend is still the same person as he always was and these days its hard to find good friends so why loose one just because of his choices in life. It matters not what we choose to be in life but what kind of people we are and if our hearts are kind and caring thats all that counts. Talk to your friend that has just come out and tell him that it must have been hard for him and you understand, with some luck and a few prayers hunny your friend will understand that being gay doesnt make his friend a different person, Its also hard for you as you are young so give it time and hopefully things will be ok TAKE CARE OF YOU HUNNY LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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