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writes:Hey Guys,Basically Im 16 and Ive recently discovered im bisexual. Im Not out yet, except to a few close friends. I really want to tell my family, and get the whole thing off my chest, but almost my whole family are homophobic. I have a gay cousin who is thought of as a freak by the rest of the family. They believe that any same sex relationships are unnatural. I dont really know why im typing this, i guess i just want to know whether i should tell my family or not?? and is being gay or bisexual unnatural. Id really appreciate any help thanks.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 July 2008):
 My advice is NOT to out yourself until such a time as you are completely independent of your family to support yourself. Until then, keep it quiet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): Sorry,got some things twisted with my first response.Didn't
look at your gender.But you basically know what I mean and
would from the way I put it.I hope it helps.Want to talk more about it,send me a message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): It's not unnatural.There are thousands of gay couples.But Ithink that you should tell your family.There's nothing wrong with being bi.If they don't accept you,then that'stheir problem and biased decision and sooner or later theywill regret it.But your family has a right to know.What if you're away for a long time and while you are,you find thatspecial someone who's a girl and they want to visit or know if anything's happened.You going to hide her and beashamed of her?What if they want you to visit and bring your soulmate?Are you going to bring home a boy you don't even know and let them think that that's your mate?Please don't.If you're bi,then it's ok,and if they can't accept it,then that's just the way it is.And don't get so down.Youmight end up with a man.Who knows.....
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (19 July 2008):
It is ok to be attracted to who ever you are attracted to. As far as telling your family since you are bi and they are so negative I would wait until you had a serious relationship with a man. You may end up spending the rest of your life with a man or woman and I think that if you tell your family they may pressure you to be with women more than men and you might find your soul mate with a man. If you fall in love with a man then tell then because then they wont be able to try to change your mind.
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reader, davie  +, writes (19 July 2008):
No it isn't unnatural. If you think you might be gay then I wouldn't tell your parents you a bisexual as this will just confuse them! If you think you might be gay wait until you know that for sure. If you think their reaction might be bad maybe wait a few years to tell them. I was 20 before my parents found out I was gay.
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