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Trained peer mentor and mediator.
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A request to all the young teens out there
Q. well i have realised that in the past few weeks there are so many young girls coming up with just one problem thats PREGNANCY.. why are the young teens underage(11-17) so unaware of the consequences it is soo sad that at the age of 13 or 14 instead...
A. 20 April 2009: I totally agree with this.
Within the past month, I've come to know of two of my friends that have become pregnant. At 16, C, along with her boyfriend, is happy that she's pregnant. Then there's A, who knows that she'll be a single mum, the guy made... (read in full...)
How do I convince my mother that I need to be on birth control pills?
Q. Hi there, I'm fourteen, turning fifteen in about two weeks. Just a few days ago, I sorta got into a relationship with a boy who's very close to my age and in my grade (so age isn't a problem). I say sorta because nothing's official, but we...
A. 20 April 2009: Heya.
I'm not fully aware of the law regarding to contraception in the US, but I know that in the UK it is free (on the NHS)
Perhaps try a Planned Parenthood clinic, or make an appointment with your doctor if possible - patient confidential... (read in full...)
Why would an older guy like a much younger girl?
Q. Why would an older guy like a much younger girl? I'm concrned for my younger sister who is a freshman at 14, dating a senior at 18. I told her no good will come of it, but she isn't listening. If someone could help me to understand why he was so ...
A. 16 April 2009: Nobody except him can tell you his true motives for the relationship. It could be that he wants to have hooked up with a younger girl, but then it could equally be that he truly loves her - I'm 18 myself and go out with a girl who turns 15 tomorrow. ... (read in full...)
How can I say no without making things awkward with the employer?
Q. Times are tough for me financially right now, and I'm trying to set myself up in a new country, newly married etc. I've been sort of forced to take this part-time nannying job while I look for other work. The child is 2 years old, and the family i...
A. 15 April 2009: I think one way you could resolve this is by sitting down and writing out a formal contract, outlining the hours you work, your wages, when and how you get paid, etc. etc.
Write up a rough draft, take it to your employer to see if they have any... (read in full...)
Why do we cry when someone dies?
Q. Hey y'all! Ummm I just need to ask this but why do we cry when someone dies? Or leaves us? Or anything like that why do you think we cry other than when we get hurt? Cause I can't help but cry everytime I see my fathers pictures and think of his ...
A. 15 April 2009: I can't answer why we cry, but can say that there's nothing to be ashamed of in crying.
Whenever I think of my dad, I know there's a feeling that I'll cry, and sometimes I do. Whenever I think about my one regret: Not telling him I loved him, I t... (read in full...)
Sex is too painful for my fiancee!
Q. OK, i have been with this girl for a year now, we are 15 years old. We really do love each other, we actually recently became engaged. Please don't comment on the engagement part though. She says that she is ready to have sex, we have tried twice, ...
A. 15 April 2009: The pain could be that she is quite tight, and may also be dry. Lead up to sex with foreplay, and be sure to use lubrication. Also, get her to try masturbation [or you can do it for her... may help] which can loosen her up.
Don't take things t... (read in full...)
Showing some scary symptoms....what is happening to me?
Q. hi. i now this is nothing to do with the subject but im very frightend and i need some quick advice. im 17 and im having these strange symptoms. * Cant Breath. * Blurry Vision. * My hands feel huge. * My head feels huge. * My Left Arm is w...
A. 15 April 2009: As others have said, you need professional medical advice. And, nothing you find on the internet should ever replace actual conversation with a medical professional..
Go and see your GP asap.
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Some of the symptoms are akin to having a mig... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome but can barely perform in bed when he is with me!
Q. My boyfriend is constantly masterbating and watches porn from 1-8 hours a day. He searches partner finders in hopes to add a third party in the bedroom. However, whenever we have sex he can only perform half of the ime....
A. 15 April 2009: I don't see a question here...!
Your boyfriend may be looking for something that could make him perform, but if you're not comfortable with the idea, then reject it.
Another thing to remember when choosing to have a threesome is safety - if h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has made me anorexic and still wants me to lose weight, what can I do?
Q. I got with my bf when I was 11 years old and since I turned 13 he started controling my life. I am now 15 and he is nerly 18 and when I was 13 he told me I was fat and told me I had to loose weight. I weighed 8 st 2 at the time and he wanted me to ...
A. 15 April 2009: "he has also made me dye my hair black and wear lots of eyeliner because he likes the emo look, I hate it but it kept him happy."
Hun, woah. You need to get yourself out of this relationship. He doesn't respect you for who you are, and he wants yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has made me anorexic and still wants me to lose weight, what can I do?
Q. I got with my bf when I was 11 years old and since I turned 13 he started controling my life. I am now 15 and he is nerly 18 and when I was 13 he told me I was fat and told me I had to loose weight. I weighed 8 st 2 at the time and he wanted me to ...
A. 15 April 2009: Reading what you've listed that you eat, I don't think that you're taking in enough calories (although I haven't checked) Speak to your GP/a doctor about a healthy eating plan, and then try to stick to it. Try increasing how much you eat - throw ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has made me anorexic and still wants me to lose weight, what can I do?
Q. I got with my bf when I was 11 years old and since I turned 13 he started controling my life. I am now 15 and he is nerly 18 and when I was 13 he told me I was fat and told me I had to loose weight. I weighed 8 st 2 at the time and he wanted me to ...
A. 15 April 2009: Hunni, you say you don't want to lose him, but I think losing him would be the best thing you can do - you deserve much better than him; you need to find somebody who accepts you for who you are, and who doesn't try and control your life. Plea... (read in full...)
Too scared to have sex!
Q. i'm 15 years old and im too scared to have sex. i had a boyfriend at this beginning of this year, and i'd done everything but sex. i started my periods when i was in year 5 and i have fully matured. when it came to having sex, he literally could not ...
A. 15 April 2009: Heya. If you're too scared to have sex, then just tell your partner that you're not ready - if they're worth having as a partner, then they'll understand and wait for you. Don't ever feel pressured into having sex, it's not good for you. You wan... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex
Q. Me a girl had unprotected sex, and she has not been on the pill for two weeks, but started to take it again after we had sex, will she be protected? ...
A. 15 April 2009: I'd say maybe not, given that not taking the pill regularly, but forgetting one morning and then having sex means you could get pregnant. The combined pill stops ovulation, which means the woman doesn't release an egg for fertilisation. [... (read in full...)
My sister is obsessed with my boyfriend
Q. i am 20 years old n i am dealing with the sensitive heart of a 17 year old girl to begin with there was this daily saop that used to come on an indian tv show..it was like this huge hit soap ever based on teens life more a like the gossip girl of ...
A. 14 April 2009: Firstly, I feel sorry for your situation. As soon as you're revealed, then the probability of constant paparazzi following you around could be high. With regards to your sister, I'd suggest being open about it, let her know the truth - she'd pr... (read in full...)
B/f's ex will be at his b-day celebration..how can I keep things from being ruined?
Q. My partners birthday is coming so we are going to his home town and meeting up with his old friends who are now good friends with me too. Since one of his good friends is with my partners ex girlfriend it is likely she'll be there too. I don't like ...
A. 14 April 2009: It's a tricky situation that will occur, but remember one thing - your boyfriend is with you, and not this other girl - he's chosen you over her. Don't let her ruin your evening; and treat her as you'd treat anybody else there - be nice and cour... (read in full...)
Have I done anything illegal with that girl ..Please read this xx
Q. i was dating a girl who is 5 years younger to me ...she was 16 and half when she started seeing each other ...i am a very shy guy and usually wont talk to any girl that is why i never had any girlfriend ... i knew my limits and the age of my girl...
A. 14 April 2009: "please calm me down guys..dont fuel my anxiety by answering like that.. " Answering the true and correct answer... It may well have been illegal in your state, if you incited a minor to engage in sexual activity. On the other hand, if she do... (read in full...)
Have I done anything illegal with that girl ..Please read this xx
Q. i was dating a girl who is 5 years younger to me ...she was 16 and half when she started seeing each other ...i am a very shy guy and usually wont talk to any girl that is why i never had any girlfriend ... i knew my limits and the age of my girl...
A. 14 April 2009: [Mod, if possible, please append this to my previous comment] One thing that's harder to check with American law, is that it may be an offense under State law, and as I don't know what State you're in, i can't check! Regards, Crazy.... (read in full...)
Have I done anything illegal with that girl ..Please read this xx
Q. i was dating a girl who is 5 years younger to me ...she was 16 and half when she started seeing each other ...i am a very shy guy and usually wont talk to any girl that is why i never had any girlfriend ... i knew my limits and the age of my girl...
A. 14 April 2009: Right now, I can't answer your question for you; as I'm not sure of the details of American law. However, I know that under UK law, it would be illegal. Section 10 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003 "Causing or inciting a child to engage in se... (read in full...)
Other forms of birth control?
Q. I have been sexually active since I was 15, I am 18 now. I have been on the pill in the past but I have a very hard time remembering to take it. My current b/f and I have sex regularly but neither of us really likes the way condoms feels. I like ...
A. 14 April 2009: Let me point you to http://www.brook.org.uk http://www.brook.org.uk/content/M3_1_contraception.asp lists 14 different contraceptive methods, including the contraceptive injection, which lasts for 8 to 12 weeks; the implant, which lasts for up to ... (read in full...)
I used my best friend's sister for sex and now she's pregnant! What do I do now?
Q. I started messing around with my best friend's little sister, and now she is pregnant. I have been friends with the guy since elementary school and I have a girlfriend who is always in college. I LOVE my g/f and planned on asking her to marry me...
A. 14 April 2009: This response shall focus on the pregnant girl... First things first, is talk to the 17yo that you got pregnant about what SHE wants to do. If you're stupid enough to have unprotected sex, then you have to live with the consequences of that. A... (read in full...)
We text 24/7 but never heard his voice or met him. Next step?
Q. there is this guy named "J". He is soooo sweet and nice and i have no problem with him whatsoever. but their is a problem with our relationship. its that i never even heard his voice. he found me on facebook, and we started from there. we talk o...
A. 14 April 2009: First things first, is make sure that you know who you're talking to. Do you know this person via other friends, or is it somebody random off the internet? If/when you do decide to meet, make sure it's in a public place, and preferably don't go ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to younger teens... is this sick?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and I'm from the UK. I've suddenly become attracted to younger teens, 13+. Is this normal? I'm scared because I don't want to turn into a paedophile, do I need to seek further advice for this? Has anyone else gone through the same ...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm 18 myself, and the situation you are in, I have found myself in. My advice would be to not associate too greatly with this 13yo you have found yourself interested in. You say you think the she likes you, but she is at a very impressionable age, ... (read in full...)
Almost my whole school has labeled me as a "slut'...
Q. I started having sex 2 years ago and soon found myself sleeping with different guys at parties almost every weekend. There really isnt anything sexually that I didnt try and almost my whole school has labeled me as a "slut'. I know that I deseve it ...
A. 14 April 2009: Firstly, I'd like to wish you luck with changing. Changing yourself is something that's not always easy to do, and it can be easy to slip back into what you're used to doing. One thing that's harder, though, is changing everybody else. A lot of... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?
Q. I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I live in a dorm and people here all just, they pretty much go after me and talk with each other about how I'm scared to have sex just cuz I havent ever done it. Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?...
A. 14 April 2009: As an 18yo virgin, I say there's nothing wrong with it. Your virginity is something special to you, and is something you can only give away once. In a society bombarded with sex, from media and peer pressure, it can be all too easy to bow to t... (read in full...)
Is this a sin?
Q. Im so embarassed because I recently started to masturbate and need help. I've read pages on the internet saying how it isnt a sin and some saying that it is. So idk what to do?! I want to but I feel guilty and weird like I'm sinning really bad. ahhh ...
A. 14 April 2009: I think the idea of masturbation being a sin comes from what you're thinking while you're masturbating - whether or not you're lusting while you masturbate, or simply doing so without any sexual fantasies in mind. You say you want to do it, but th... (read in full...)
I need to get it sorted but I've never been so scared to go to the doctor
Q. My foreskin is really tight and it hurts when it's pulled back. had this problem all my life. yeah i know, see a doctor right? well it's bloody hard to do that for a few reasons: 1/ I'm embarrassed. 2/ I can't bring myself to say what the problem ...
A. 1 April 2009: On pressing 'Add Your Answer' I spent some time wondering if I should tick to post anonymously or not. I decided no. It shouldn't be something you're embarrassed about.
I'm not sure exactly what your problem is - I can't see your penis, but I... (read in full...)
Would you consider this cheating?
Q. Hi people, this morning I was walking down the hall of my school with my friends and then I meet up with my best friend. We were walking down the hall and we go past my boyfriend and all my friends say that they saw him hug and kiss a different ...
A. 27 March 2009: For some people, they may see hugging someone and kissing them on the cheek acceptable [mouth = no], but others may see it as totally inappropriate if they're with another person.
Ask your boyfriend if he did or not - and don't reject if he denie... (read in full...)
I cant give her what the poor girl expects as I don't feel that way!
Q. hello dear uncles and aunts ....its a bit lengthy stuff but please bear with me ...i have foolishly messed up my life ....im 21 and my girlfriend is 18...i kinda have a strange problem....before i come to it i would like to tel u that my girlfriend ...
A. 27 March 2009: I agree with the two posts below.
I've not got much to say, except you need to just get it over and done with.
One thing I shall say, though, is this:
You've put "i will not leave her but support her and help her move on!" BAD move. Saying you... (read in full...)
How do you know if it's really true love?
Q. How do you know if it's really true love, or just a thought or image, or being desperate? How do you know the difference?...
A. 26 March 2009: Can you live without this person in your life?
If the answer is yes, then my instinct would be to say it's not true love.
Though, if the answer is no, it's not a straight forward "it's true love, then." And, you may think you can't live without ... (read in full...)
Is he just nervous?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and he is a virgin and I am not. We have discussed having sex and have even tried a few times with protection but whenever we are about to he stops and doesn't want to try any more... Why is ...
A. 26 March 2009: It may not be that he's nervous - just that he thinks he wants it, nearly does it, and then is unsure.
If he's unsure - which he is - maybe it's that he isn't mentally read for a sexual relationship just yet.
Take a break from thinking, and tr... (read in full...)
So what possible things could I be doing wrong? I just don't understand why I always have to be number two.
Q. I always seem to like a guy and he'll like me... at first... till he meets someone else and then they always say they'd like me if something happened between them and the other girl. It kind of hurts always being the second choice ya know? I...
A. 26 March 2009: [AngelEyes... not all guys are dumb. Don't stereotype a gender!]
But I agree - be true to yourself. I understand it hurts to be feeling second best, and it can seriously damage your self esteem.
I doubt that there's anything wrong with you/d... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out? What should I do?
Q. I'm sixteen years old and I've never met this guy but we talk constantly and he calls me lovely, and love and amazing and he says I make him laugh. He asks me randomly about guys I talk to - to see if I like them. He says that he likes... might ...
A. 26 March 2009: I agree with damluvaam here.
Can I ask - how old is this guy? You say your friend knows him - is this again from 'real life' or from the internet?
You say you feel stupid because you actually like him.
There's no reason to feel stupid about thi... (read in full...)
Should I flirt with him? Is he interested?
Q. I'm comfused because first robert liked me and we were close then he started not talking at all to me and keeping his distance. Now hes all almost the same again but he keeps telling a girl that nobody likes him and he wants someone. Duh why won't ...
A. 26 March 2009: How do you know if he's still interested in you without asking him?
Well, you could always shift a conversation to talking about relationships - that's technically asking him, but then you're both on the subject, slightly easier.
Other... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out? What should I do?
Q. I'm sixteen years old and I've never met this guy but we talk constantly and he calls me lovely, and love and amazing and he says I make him laugh. He asks me randomly about guys I talk to - to see if I like them. He says that he likes... might ...
A. 26 March 2009: You say you've never met the guy. So, how do you know him? Is it an internet relationship, or is it a friend of a friend, etc.? You'll have heard it all before - about staying safe when on the internet etc. but it's true - you don't know for sur... (read in full...)
Having kittens here!
Q. My cat has just had a kitten about 4 hours ago. Now I'm new at this and dont quite know what's all going on. Will she have more kittens? or since she had one 4 hours ago that will be it? ...
A. 26 March 2009: Put simply.... it depends how many kittens she had inside her!
It may depend on the breed etc., but I'm not cat expert.
According to http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070227080409AAFbOLC , the average is around 4.
I'd say do ... (read in full...)
I want the old Hali back!
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and my friend Hali and I decided not to be friends any more cause well it's a really long story so let's just say she liked me more than a friend and I didn't like her that way (cause I had a gf at the time) and I mean she's really pretty ...
A. 26 March 2009: hey Andrew. It seems like your rejection had a huge impact on her, and understandably you regret that she's changed because of you.
You've set your name as 'andrew loves hali' - can I assume that your feelings for her have changed?
My advi... (read in full...)
I can handle him dating other girls, but not the lies!
Q. So there is this guy I have been talking to for about 8 months now, 3 months into our "relationship" I found out he had a gf and lied about a lot of things. I was okay with that becausde she lives in another state and I want his friendship more than ...
A. 26 March 2009: Not knowing how his mind works, or what he's thinking, I can't say if he'll speak to you again. But, if he knows you went through his phone and forwarded messages to people he didn't want them forwarded to, I'd guess that he's pretty annoyed with ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to know some of my b/f tricks!
Q. I have givin blow jobs before, but not to my new boyfriend. He wants to know some of my tricks. What should i tell him...
A. 26 March 2009: I'd say go for honesty. Tell him the truth.
If you want your relationship to work, honesty and trust are key. Be open with what you've done - he may not like it at first, but he'll realise that you're trusting him and wanting to be completely open... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my husband being an older father
Q. hello, i hope someone out there can help me. i am almost 30 and my husband of three years is 12 years older than me. the age difference was never an issue because i loved him and i still do, but now i find that i worry about his age. this is mai...
A. 26 March 2009: [You say you don't want him to be a new father in his 40s or 50s....
You're 29, he's 12 years older. So, he's already in his 40s.]
To be honest, there's nothing you can do, except keep up the bed-work and it should eventually pay off. If you ... (read in full...)
He won't go out with me because I'm "flat chested" Grrrrr
Q. Well basically, I am 14 and I am not fully 'developed' yet. Like I haven't started my period and my boobs are basically like mosquito bites. This is because my mum developed really late. She didn't start her period til she was 16 but the annoying ...
A. 25 March 2009: I agree with the others. I'm a teenage guy myself, and am often disgusted by the way other guys talk about girls. My best advice would be to ignore him completely. You need to find someone who accepts you for who you are; and because of your ... (read in full...)
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