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writes:i'm 15 years old and im too scared to have sex. i had a boyfriend at this beginning of this year, and i'd done everything but sex. i started my periods when i was in year 5 and i have fully matured. when it came to having sex, he literally could not get it up! i was so tight, yet i was relaxed and very wet. i need help, is there anything i can do myself to help?
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (15 April 2009):
 When are you 16? Is it just a matter of time before you are 16 so to you the age of consent is academic rather than being 16 being about a year away?
To be honest we are all nervous and it is daunting at first, so don't worry about that.
Perhaps you are just not quite ready? You have not said how long you have been with your boyfriend but many girls like to wait a good 2 months or something so they get to know him first. It's often good to work towards it, having done everything else first, this way it's only a small step away so to speak. Although you said you have done everything but, I am not sure what timescale this has been, if at the back of your mind, an extra couple of weeks would help?
Perhaps even have at least one time when you feel ready but don't in advance and then in your mind you know you are ready the following week.
It sounds like he is nervous too, so I assume you are both a virgin. In that case there is really no rush or pressure. As well as being relaxed in your head, you need to be relaxed down below too.
Please don't forget to use a condom.
Fiona
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Heya. If you're too scared to have sex, then just tell your partner that you're not ready - if they're worth having as a partner, then they'll understand and wait for you.Don't ever feel pressured into having sex, it's not good for you. You want your first time to be something you remember for good reasons.On helping yourself, you say you were so tight, perhaps masturbation could help here, stretching yourself in your own time, and in a manner that doesn't hurt you - if you allow someone to stick their erect penis in while you're really tight, it will hurt!Best of luck to you, and take things at a pace you feel comfortable with.- Crazy.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You need to talk sex through with your boyfriend because you both weren't relaxed. If you were both completely confortable with it he would be able to "get it up" and would be able to fit inside you. If a baby can come out from there his penis will be able to go up there easily.
Wait a while. at 15 your still young, you don't need to rush into things like sex. Wait until you are both confortble and take one step at a time. Communication is the key!
Livia
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reader, Who  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 "...is there anything i can do myself to help?"Yes. You can wait.You are fully matured in many ways but not this way. You know this is true because your body will not go "all the way" even though you want to. This is nothing zillions of other teenagers have not gone throuhg since the beggining of time. There is no rush, you will be ready soon enough. Use the time waiting to find the right boy, who respects and cares about you; it will make the first time better than what it will be like if you start too soon.
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