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writes:So there is this guy I have been talking to for about 8 months now, 3 months into our "relationship" I found out he had a gf and lied about a lot of things. I was okay with that becausde she lives in another state and I want his friendship more than anything. So I talked to him in the best way I thought and just let him know he doesn't have to lie to me. Then he all of a sudden stops calling, stops coming around, and then out the blue he hits me up. I talk to him and I thought things were straightened out between us, so he tells me there are no other gurls in his life, he broke up with his girl all the bull. This past weekend he was at my house, I went through his phone and every message was from another girl saying she left this at his house, and why doesn't he come around or call like he use to... so I forwarded all the messages from every girl to one another including the gf. I wasn't even upset because I knew he was lying but he wanted to take me for a fool, so now I'm like "dude, it's cool, we can be friends just stop lying to me about this petty crap" and he has stopped talking to me. Is there a chance he can overcome this and talk to me again or did I ruin my chances?
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reader, CrazyMind  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Not knowing how his mind works, or what he's thinking, I can't say if he'll speak to you again. But, if he knows you went through his phone and forwarded messages to people he didn't want them forwarded to, I'd guess that he's pretty annoyed with you.However, as you've said - he lied to you, and him trying to play a load of girls at the same time has come back and bit him on the arse.So, you ask if you've ruined your chances...But, I ask... why would you want to be with a compulsive liar? He's lied to you several times already - I doubt he'll suddenly stop. Find a lad that's worth your time, and don't waste any more time with a guy that's just going to lie to you.- Crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): im going thru the same thing but the worst part is im in love with him after 1 whole year ...it is sooo hard to let go cuz thru out the whole "relationship" well basilly for most part he tried n lied to me also he was seing some other girl (not a girlfried)..is a complicated story...but the case is he may change if he really want u back in his life give him time leave him alone ...n there mayb another chance but mean while just ur do your thing n try to move on...dont let him of the hook that easily make sure u let him know that u wont deal with lies and dishonesty...bcuz he will keep doin it...
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