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writes: I'm sixteen years old and I've never met this guy but we talk constantly and he calls me lovely, and love and amazing and he says I make him laugh. He asks me randomly about guys I talk to - to see if I like them. He says that he likes... might even love me. And I really actually do like him... what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, bOy CrAzY;}  +, writes (26 March 2009):
Oh my gosh!!! You've never even met the guy!!! It sounds sweet and all that he says that stuff to you but he might not be all you think that he is love!!!;) some guys just love to dick with girls heads !! If you want to meet him fine but you just have to pay the consequinces if something bad happens:( that's all I'm saying !! Good luck
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reader, CrazyMind  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I agree with damluvaam here.
Can I ask - how old is this guy? You say your friend knows him - is this again from 'real life' or from the internet?
You say you feel stupid because you actually like him.
There's no reason to feel stupid about this.
To be honest, you could consider me a flirt. It's not that I'm trying to hit on any of the girls I talk to, but I'm basically a nice guy who's their if they need me. And, I let them know I care about them - it's just how I am.
You mentioned "he calls me lovely, and love and amazing and he says I make him laugh" And, I notice that I do this - again just something I've done, and I really have tried to cut back on it - I now know the effect of confusion it can have on the people I talk to - when I say just friends, but then call them these sorts of names, and finish conversations with "love ya xXx"
He could be in a similar situation as me - he may genuinely care about you - but also cares for others, and wants to make sure you know he cares. So, sorry to possibly bash your self-esteem, but it may be something that he does to any/most girls he talks to.
Him saying he might love you... hmm. I don't know how your relationship is, but I doubt that he does; sorry.
Just make sure you know what you're dealing with - and remember to be safe.
- Crazy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know him because of the internet...but my friend knows him. so no ...he's not a creeper of any sort.
that is true i've thought about how many girls he tells this a lot...
i just feel kinda stupid because i actually like him. but maybe it is best to just be friends like you say.
i actually didn't come up with the question "should i ask him out" it was one the cite made up...so i wasn't really wondering that i was just wondering...if someone thinks he's a sincere guy or maybe just a flirt.
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (26 March 2009):
You say you've never met the guy.So, how do you know him? Is it an internet relationship, or is it a friend of a friend, etc.?You'll have heard it all before - about staying safe when on the internet etc. but it's true - you don't know for sure who you're talking to - it could be anyone. When you do meet up, follow the advice of taking someone with you.As for if you should ask him out or not - do you think it's a necessary stage in your relationship? You both like eachother, but you've never met eachother. things could be totally different face-to-face. Do you want to be going out with someone, then when asked "have you met them" having to turn around and say "no" (or lie)Also, you don't know how many other girls this guy is saying this to.From what you've said (not much) my gut instinct would be a no. You can stay friends, sure. You can even decide that you're not going to go out with anyone else. But, I wouldn't advise actually asking him out unless you feel it's completely the right thing to do. And at the moment, you don't think it is. (You wouldn't be asking us otherwise)Just enjoy what the friendship brings. (Including the freedom for you to kiss a guy you meet one day without having to feel guilty because you're going out with someone you've never me)Please keep updated! - Crazy x
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