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writes:My partners birthday is coming so we are going to his home town and meeting up with his old friends who are now good friends with me too. Since one of his good friends is with my partners ex girlfriend it is likely she'll be there too. I don't like her, she is a bitch and my boyfriend knows both. It's a case of if she can't come his friend won't come so no chance of turning her down. Yet i don't want to ruin his night by being miserable about her being there and i don't want to have the entire night ruined for myself because she's there. Basically i need a way to perk myself up about the situation while i'm there, a way to help me get a mental grip on the situation and have a good time despite her presence, thanks for your help x x x
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (14 April 2009):
 It's a tricky situation that will occur, but remember one thing - your boyfriend is with you, and not this other girl - he's chosen you over her.Don't let her ruin your evening; and treat her as you'd treat anybody else there - be nice and courteous, and she may treat you the same back.I'd say it's unlikely that your boyfriend would try anything with her - you're there, and also she now goes out with one of his good friends.Try not to make it visibly aware that you don't like her presence - she may be a bitch, but try and build up a friendship there, it may help. And, don't restrict your boyfriend from talking to her - if she notices that you don't want her there, and if she's a true bitch as you said, then she'll try and talk to him all the more, just to p*ss you off.- Crazy.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Well I would tell her not to come,lol. However then she would think that she is a bigger person than me. Dress in a nice outfit get your hair and nails done, make yourself look amazing because this will help you to feel better on the inside too! Just be polite to her, speak if she speaks to you, even give her a smile. As long as you treat her ok she will be thinking 'why is she being like this with me?' Its annoying to her! More annoying that you being moody with your boyfriend!! If she steps out of line during the night then take her aside and tell her what she has done and why it is wrong, if you let her get away with anything then you will regret it! Make clear rules for your boyfriend...no kissing (as in greeting kisses and hugs) keep chat to a minimum...etc. If all else fails then chuck a drink over her by 'accident' make sure its one that will stain and then she'll feel horrible for the rest of the evning an may even go home! X
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