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writes:Well basically, I am 14 and I am not fully 'developed' yet. Like I haven't started my period and my boobs are basically like mosquito bites. This is because my mum developed really late. She didn't start her period til she was 16 but the annoying thing is.. I think that this guy I know is quite 'Fit'. and he thinks I am 'Fit' too but he said to his friend he wouldn't go out with me because I am 'flat chested'. It doesn't bother me.. because it's 'all in good time' but it really annoys me. I mean, why can't guys like a girl for who they are?! and not for what 'cup size they are' or stuff like that. argh.! just had to get that off my chest. Any advice/opinions would be appreciated. xta.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): If he really didn't like you, he wouldn't feel much on the subject of you- and he might've answered like a normal, non-shallow-freak person and said, 'Oh her? Aw nah don't really reckon her ae.' Except... he was probably thinking how incredibly gorgeous you are and how you'd probably never wanna go out with him- so when his mate asked him bout you he felt sad inside and tried to hide his feelings and sort of defend himself by making some completely crass, degrading comment about you.
Haha. Well. Don't know your situation but it's possible... ;)
And even if he really meant his stupid comment... why be bothered by this sad shallow person?
I will now use metaphorical fruits to try and help you...
Does everyone only like big oranges, and not small ones? Do big oranges taste better than small oranges?
Should the oranges feel sad because the banana tells them they aren't big enough?
Isn't that banana just rotten and shouldn't it just go split itself?
No. No. No. Yes. ;)
Enjoy your day now
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reader, DJ NAZ +, writes (25 August 2009):
i am a 14 year old boy too and i am currently in a relationship with a girl that is flat chested...I think it is wrong that some lads wont go out with a girl because of thier size my oppinion is move on...As a 14 year old boy i think it is a mixture of everything that makes you love them and want to go ot with a girl E.G. Lokks. Personality, Characteristics and many more things NOT JUST BREAST SISES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey- Thanks For The Advice Guys. =]
Helped Alot.
Ta. x
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reader, jj1988 +, writes (26 March 2009):
He's shallow. But one day he'll grow up and realise how ridiculous he was.
In the meantime you'll have found yourself a decent guy who isn't riddled with insecurities that make him judge a girl based on something this daft.
All the best :)
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reader, tux  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I think us aunts are forgetting that we aren't dealing with a man, let alone a real man.. :) We are dealing with young people, who can be more prone to peer pressure.. I have a feeling that this is more the problem with this lad.. He is probably getting slack from his buddies for liking a flat-chested girl, even though a lot of girls around that age are still developing.
He may very well like you, but is just succumbing unfortunately to that pressure.. At that age, they like playing that game.. they fill that they must fit in to their group.. But well as time goes by, they will lose some of that stupid game and come around.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Seriously, Cootie Central...
Here's the issue - if you start taking this seriously, you are doing yourself the biggest disservice by missing the point.
You know that by His being concerned ONLY about those things, like your breast size, he is totally superficial You are a smart young lady and you ALSO know that you will soon be blooming as your Mom did -
BUT YOU ARE MISSING THE *actual* POINT!!!
He is focusing solely on the size of your boobs & THE SIZE OF YOUR BOOBS IS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS. To focus on your boobs alone it a total sign of a lack of ***Respect For Your Feelings***.
If he were a real man, he would focus on your feelings, instead of revealing his True Character to you, which is that he is only interested in having sex! BE THANKFUL THAT HE HAS REVEALED HIS TRUE CHARACTER TO YOU!!!
Flattering?
NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's only flattering if he puts your feeling first. He's telling you that he wants to jump your bones at the expense of your feelings!!!!
I agree with the other who have said run in the opposite direction. He's not great boyfriend material. A great boyfriend makes you feel like you are the best thing to have been born on the face of the planet...
When someone else causes you pain, confusion and discomfort at your expense, don't invite them in and offer them you heart on a plate. He is being an emotional bully. You should know that a lot of guys talk their girlfriends into boob jobs ~ and ~ they don't need boob jobs! They need to lose the Boob who asked the to have one!!!
You are young, mature and intelligent, you haven't any responsibility here to be nice to this jerk. I'd bail and look for someone who is worthy of you.
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reader, asian tealeaf +, writes (26 March 2009):
 ur young, the breasts will definitely come round for sure, heres a little something for u. how would this guy feel if some girl would not date him because his penis was, a little to small for her liking? OUCH! u want to hit a guys ego and manliness,this is almost every mans soft spot. by the time he comes round , if he does, i would tell him, sorry, i dont date guys with small tiny dicks, i want a man, not a little boy. hmmm, i wonder how he would like that? then id tell him the reason for u saying that. real men dont ever make such comments to girls, only knowing too well, what its like for themselves. sounds like hes a little immature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): dont worry about it at all.. like everyone is saying a true gentlemen will take u for who u are and not something to 'play' with. i understand where your coming from when i was your age my friends had developed faster then me, im 21 and size 32b, it dont get me down anymore case i have had alot of admirers and all my exes wwere wonderful men who took me for my personailty not one complained about the size of my boobs.
dont worry hunny this guys a jerk, if he dont mature up soon enough it will be him thats left on his own!
you dont need to feel less worthy, cause your much more then that!
xxx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 March 2009):
 HAHAHAHA.
Touché!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Taste of India Writes "Guys will eventually mature and start looking for quality, not just a body to mess around with. They'll start thinking with their brains and not their... you know whats."
What is the difference between Guys and Government bonds?
Bonds Mature
FA
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I agree with the others.I'm a teenage guy myself, and am often disgusted by the way other guys talk about girls. My best advice would be to ignore him completely. You need to find someone who accepts you for who you are; and because of your personality - not because of your body.And, about being flat-chested. Don't let this bother you. 'Anonymous' said they prefer smaller boobs. This is the same for me, though personality, and the actual person comes way before physical attributes. [My girlfriend has DD - she hates them] Somebody else mentioned that you can wear whatever top you like etc. - also a bonus. And, you don't have the jerks staring at you because of your chest - having boobs can often cause a lot of unwanted attention.To answer your question about why guys look for boobs.... i'd put it down to hormones. What you need to do is find a guy that isn't a jerk, and that accepts you for who you are, not what your body is doing.All the best;Crazy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Give the guy a break!!! Isn't he entitled to have his own taste in girls? Is it now compulsory to fancy ugly ducklings? Democracy - yea right.
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reader, georgiexx +, writes (25 March 2009):
 darling don't give him the time of day... simple. you seem like a rather intelligent young woman, and respect yourself, you will find someone who respects you equally. don't worry about your 'development' everyone is different and trust me its nothing to worry about. love yourself x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (25 March 2009):
Ugh, what a jerk!!!!!
First off, you don't want this guy OR his friend. What he said just shows exactly what he wants from a girlfriend - not a relationship, but some boobs to play with. He can get a blow up doll for that!
Trust me sweetness, they will grow up. You will too, you'll develop, but that's not the point. Guys will eventually mature and start looking for quality, not just a body to mess around with. They'll start thinking with their brains and not their... you know whats. Besides, tons of guys love smaller chests on their lady - it means they're nice and perky! But, don't even worry about that. You want a guy who likes you for what's on the inside, not the out. All though I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful (and of course, fellas will appreciate that too).
Forget about that guy, he's a creepo!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Hi there,
i know this may not be much of a conselation as i am not him but i think small boobs are the best :) Don't let him get you down. Everyone has different fancies. And anyway, you may have small boobs but it seems he has a small mind! find someone that can appreciate you for who you are!
Good luck!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Boys are stupid and have cooties (sorry guys).
Who knows why they are the way they are. But if he can't take the time to discover your winning personality and charm, then he can just bugger off.
And honey, being a little flat is not a bad thing. Later in life you can wear all the cute shirts with stringy straps and not have to worry about bra straps showing. Big boos suck sometimes.
Some guys are just boob-guys. I think it goes back to an oral fixation and mommy-issues.... You just keep being you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Well, because teen age boys are a bundle of raging hormones and to some of them who are less intelligent than the ones who don't think like this, he is interested in copping a feel (have you hear that term, it's and oldy but a goody) and about possibly getting some sex....
Don't be sad that his guy did not want to go out with you. Let him use and abuse some other girl!
Try not to be in such a hurry to date boys, you have plenty of time and you will mature physically soon enough. Just enjoy being a kid for a change and hang out with a lot of differnt friends both boys and girls and yo will have a whole lot more fun anyway...
Don't blame your mom and your genetics everything works out for the best any way.....I was a late bloomer, too and I got through it unscathed!
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