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writes:hello,i hope someone out there can help me.i am almost 30 and my husband of three years is 12 years older than me.the age difference was never an issue because i loved him and i still do, but now i find that i worry about his age. this is mainly because we've been trying for a baby for a while now, seen doctors who say it's fine with us both, but time is passing by.i dont want him to be a new father in his 40s or 50s......who knows how long it will take.please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): i know that you desperately want a baby soon, please stop worrying. Nature will take its course.
Age is just a number when the right people are together. if you and your hubby are "right" together why worry.
and as you know about the old saying - practice makes perfect, so practice, practice, practice, just enjoy the experience, and have fun making your baby together. Come on, smile!!!!!!!!It's going to be ok.
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reader, M0R3N@  +, writes (26 March 2009):
hey well. im 15 my boyfriend is 24 n i am pregnant i say there is no problem with that if u love him go ahead and do ur thing!
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reader, CrazyMind  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 [You say you don't want him to be a new father in his 40s or 50s....
You're 29, he's 12 years older. So, he's already in his 40s.]
To be honest, there's nothing you can do, except keep up the bed-work and it should eventually pay off. If you want a child together, then you can't turn back the clocks so he can have it earlier. There's no shame in becoming a parent in your 40s or 50s.
My dad is (was?) 49 years older than me. Did I see this as a problem? No. Ok, granted; I'm not his first child; but in your situation, there's nothing you can do to turn back time. You've just got to forget about the fact he's in his 40s, and get into bed [or elsewhere, if you prefer!] and get on to making that child together!
I wish you all the best with getting pregnant.
- Crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): HiYOU don't want him to be a father in his 40's or 50's....what Does HE WANT ?I understand your concerns but is it not better that the child have complete LOVE regardless of fathers age?.......Some young fathers leave a lot to be desired ..is age really an issue? Have you written your poor husband off? Do you think in twenty years he will be pushing up daisy's?He may not be playing football but he can play snooker...go fishing....what ever ....but above ALL if he loves his child he is a real FATHER regardless of age. Its love that lives not the number.I hope you get your baby soon...pressure of age won't help either of you to conceive.Via con dios.
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