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writes:I met this girl, she has a girlfriend, but we went on a drunken night out and ended up sleeping together. We then have had a couple of times where we nearly slept together again, but both stopped it as it wasn't fair on her girlfriend. Problem is, we feel the same and have spoke about it briefly. However I dont know if she is just saying this to try and get the best of both worlds and actually shes not bothered about me at all. So my question is... Should I try and make her jealous and when we are out start flirting with people to see if she reacts? If she does, then does that mean that she is telling the truth? I have stayed away from her a bit lately because I dont want my feelings to grow, but I want to find out how she really feels...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 January 2013):
 does not matter how she feels she has a gf
if she dumped her gf for you or cheated on her gf with you
and then became your gf would you ever trust her out of your sight?
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female
reader, cmarieky +, writes (18 January 2013):
How do u find out if she has feelings for u? You don't, she's taken, which means off limits. Regardless of whether she sends u signs, tells u she's unhappy or whatever else. The point is she's taken.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): what you need to do is leave this girl alone. she has a girlfriend. if she legitimately breaks up with her, then have at it. but don't be that girl chasing after someone who is already taken. how would you feel if you were this girls girlfriend and there was some other girl chasing her and wanting to sleep with her behind your back? it doesn't feel good. so don't be that girl. as i said, tell her once she's single, she can come talk to you. and besides, she's proven she's a liar and a cheater already. so why would you want to be with this person, anyway? she'll more than likely only wind up doing to you what she's doing to her unsuspecting gf right now. once again, don't be that girl, either.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 January 2013):
Some people like to have relationships with one sex but don't feel fully satisfied if they can't experience the other. One time I slept with a girl after we had a party and the next morning she told me the chick sleeping on our couch was her girlfriend. I felt bad but that was their arrangement.
I'm reasonably sure your fling is emotionally committed to her gf and got what she wanted out of you. Flirting in front of someone to get a reaction is kind of immature, I wouldn't recommend it.
She already told you how she felt, take her by her word and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): I wouldnt start playing games with her because even if she fancied yiu but diddnt like you enough to leave her girlfriend for you then she could still get funny about it or she might but not show it. So better to just be
Honest with herthen you know where you stand you need to talk to her about how strong her feelings are for you and see how she feels about her girlfriend and whether she sees more of a future with you. If she does want to stay with her girlfriend then i think you should move on because it would be hard on you to see her and not be with her.
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