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writes:My best friend always goes after the guys I like. Knowing this, I try not to tell her who I like. This guy Cruz and I made it obvious that we had a thing. One step from dating. I wasn't sure that I had feelings for him until two weeks ago, during Christmas Break, my friend staring flirting with him. Now they are dating and she knows that we had a thing but is acting like she did nothing. She even asks me for advice and to third wheel! I love her but somethings got to give. They have only been "dating" for a week. We're in high school. What should I do???
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (21 January 2014):
Then she is not your best friend. Either tell her about all this and see how she finally responds when you two meet a guy. She may think she looks better than u or have low self esteem and pulling your guys boost her confidence. Just explain your feelings. And if she a real friend at all she'll notice and back off.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 January 2014):
 Well your "friend" didn't MAKE Cruz date her. She asked him, apparently he accepted (or the other way around).
If Cruz had REALLY felt the same way about you, as you do about him - he wouldn't have started to date YOUR friend.
I would also NOT give her dating advice and I certainly wouldn't want to be their 3rd wheel.
I would stop hanging out with her for a while, let her do her thing. You find other people to hang out with and remember don't talk smack behind her back. If she asks why you don't want to hang out anymore, I would tell her that you don't like what she did.
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reader, BriannaObelSmith +, writes (21 January 2014):
Well lots of girls are trying to keep other girls from guys because girls get jealous. Hmm thats weird how she always goes after guys you like. Well if she was my friend i'll ask her why she always do this and why always she goes after the guys i like *only*. The answer can be showed by her body language. If she looked nervous and started to give non sense amswers. Then she does it on propuse. Body language speeks everything. Trust me!
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reader, Adeboyefa  +, writes (21 January 2014):
 Stop seeing her as your best friend because she is not. Keep her at an arm's length but don't fight her. Make her a "good-morning-how-are-you" friend.
As for the guys,don't cry over spilt milk. A decent guy will not go for your best friend.
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reader, Thickchick100 +, writes (21 January 2014):
I had the same problem but I simply explained to her that I didn't like the way she came off to him I told her I liked him and that what she did was wrong.tell her that she should think about what she is doing. make sure you say it confidently. If she doesn't accept it tell her you don't know how you can continue the friendship wish them luck and simply walk away!
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