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I am honest and like others to be the same . care about others and expect that they care about me. Good friend but hate bad friends they dont stay around that long !
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She says she doesn't see us "that way"
Q. well ive been friends with this girl for about 5 yars we get along realy well she is amazing.... but ive developed feelings for her and last week dropped the bomb that these feelings were there..... and she just said she doesnt see us in that way...
A. 14 November 2010: what she means is that she doesnt "fancy you" or you "dont float her boat" if after 5 years nothing has happend it will not , but if you realy like her you have to play it smart by getting a girlfriend showing her that you are a "catch" women love ... (read in full...)
Is it rare for people to want unconditional love?
Q. Is it better to be honest with one's partner or to withhold the truth about something that you know might lead them to reconsdider being in the relationship? I see so many people advocate for dishonesty in relationships, and I don't understand it. ...
A. 14 November 2010: Tell them the truth , if they love you they will accept that you are trying to help them... (read in full...)
There is massive miscommunication between what we really want from each other
Q. (Mod note: please break up your massive wall of text next time with proper paragraph formatting. Many people fall away from such things.) My head is everywhere and I really need help and advice. I'm sorry that this is so long but I felt like all...
A. 6 July 2009: Sounds like you love him and he loves you ! I would tell him to stop playing games and you stop playing games when he calls pick up the phone and just talk. Get back together you want to and he wants to , I cant understand all the fuss ? some... (read in full...)
3 years and now he wants a break!
Q. if your a 3 year relationship and he asks for break should i give him space and how will i know were going to get back together and is it good to be friends?...
A. 6 July 2009: He wants out but is using the "break" as the reason !... (read in full...)
Time to move on?
Q. Could use some advice. My girlfriend broke up with me. Over a huge misubderstanding, she has not given me a chance to explain. We agreed to meet and talk last Friday. I contacted her in the morning and she took the entire day to get back to me to ...
A. 6 July 2009: Move on she is playing you for a fool ! I am sure she is moving on with "whomever" !... (read in full...)
Husband constantly brings up past issues, what should I do?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 12 years, we have 4 children, and I am a stay at home mom. He controls everything, in the 12 years we have had our ups and downs, and mostly because I tend to not tell the truth about situations because his ...
A. 6 July 2009: He sounds like a pig , you should move on and keep the house and take him to court and take everything he will ever have. after 12 yrs of marriage and 4 kids I am sure he has found someone else and is using this as an excuse.
good luck... (read in full...)
Bored with the relationship!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for the last year and we get along fine, but lately I've been getting bored with the relationship. We were away from each over for 2 months and missed each other terribly, and I've been back for three weeks now, and...
A. 2 July 2009: move on sounds like things have run their course ... (read in full...)
He thinks a threesome will save our relationship, but will he lose respect for me instead?
Q. My boyfriend of about a year wants a threesome. (If you have read my other post, you might laugh and think it is a crazy idea.) Last week he said he would like to have a threesome. Since we do not know anyone to do it with it is mostly all fa...
A. 2 July 2009: If you would accept a threesome with a women would he also accept a threesome with a guy ?
As you say you dont know anyone to have the threesome with and might be hard to find , so for now why not play along and say maybe that should hold him... (read in full...)
Should I make appointments for relaxation for both of us?
Q. Should I make appointments for a day of relaxation for both of us? Or is it too much too soon? Okay, so I've been in a relationship with this great guy (6 months dating). Anyways, we planned a weekend get-away..and I just thought 'Hey, why not bo...
A. 2 July 2009: If you dont mind paying for it I would say sure why not ... (read in full...)
Why won't she let us move on?
Q. My question is complex, but here goes, me and my girlfriend of 12 years always argue and break up, our relationship is not a happy one, she doesnt admit it but I know shes not happy. Why does she keep working her way back into my life even though ...
A. 2 July 2009: perhaps the reason she "works her way back into your life " is beacuse You keep letting her do it . Perhaps she thinks no other guy wants her and you will always take her back. If she phones , dont answer If she emails , dont answer ... (read in full...)
For him: oral sex while he watches porn. For me: 3 minutes, no kissing, no passion. Help!
Q. I live with a guy for almost a year we have had are share of troubles. At first he said he didnt love me but he has grow to love me but we never have sex maybe once a month but he always wants me to give him oral sex everyday while he watchs porn. ...
A. 2 July 2009: Dump him , sounds like he doesnt love you that much. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going overseas soon and I'm worried. Should I be?
Q. My bf is going overseas for 6 weeks soon and I am really quite worried. He said he would love for me to come but he planned the trip way in advance before we even met, so by the time we met it was too late for me to go as I woudlnt be able to save ...
A. 2 July 2009: Lots of drinking, a wild tour, guys and girls his own age, foreign places ..... With that combination I am sure he isnt going to have sex with EVER girl he comes across !
Dont worry because he isnt getting it at home , why would you think he... (read in full...)
Things weren't perfect, but this cat issue is pushing me over the edge...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been living together for 5 months, without getting too deep, she has some medical issues, including some stress and anxiety issues. Shame on me for not really getting to understand the extent of these issues, but I'm ...
A. 1 July 2009: kick her out you know what to do , She doesnt work uses her computer all day , sounds like a lazy so and so ! you know what has to be done ... (read in full...)
I have a mad crush on my friends mom and she knows. Help, what should I do?
Q. I have a mad crush on my friends mom. She knows too because I stayed over at their house once. In the morning she noticed I was aroused by her in a robe but told me to "take care of it" at home. Then two weeks later I was with my friend playing ...
A. 1 July 2009: older women and younger guy its the thing. She wants you and much as you want her but she is perhaps worried you will open your mouth and tell everyone. Meet her again , flirt , give her compliments and then see what happens ! ... (read in full...)
Things weren't perfect, but this cat issue is pushing me over the edge...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been living together for 5 months, without getting too deep, she has some medical issues, including some stress and anxiety issues. Shame on me for not really getting to understand the extent of these issues, but I'm ...
A. 1 July 2009: No ... Its a dirty cat doings its business on your carpet if your going to split with her you are going to hurt her so best to tell her its you or the cat !... (read in full...)
I don't want her to think she can lie to me and treat me like a fool, but I don't want to lose her either
Q. Bit of a long one this. A few months ago i met up with an old school friend. before we met up we'd been emailing and texting each other a lot. during this time our feelings for each other grew. we both felt an emotional and sexual connection. we met ...
A. 1 July 2009: Let bygones be bygones and move on and forget the past. You said you are madly in love with her and so dont risk it but raking over old coals !... (read in full...)
Homosexuality versus Christianity
Q. So i wanted to know. Like eversince 15yrs i started finding women attractive and for some reason at age 5 me and my best friend had some lesbo interaction. I dont know what it is but some women just have an affect on me and i end up liking them. Now ...
A. 1 July 2009: Dont worry "God" doesnt care if you love a women or men or what ever as there isnt a " GOD " he is just a tale made up to keep us in line and to obey the church. We laught at the greeks for beleiving in Zeus, Apollo and Hera an in future the on... (read in full...)
I'm chinese and my bf is indian, parents would disown me if I married him. What should I do?
Q. I am Chinese and I've been dating my secret indian bf of nearly 2 years . I told my parents about two years ago (I'm 21 now) that I was in love with him and my dad threatened to disown me. So I said I would think about and deal with it myself and ...
A. 1 July 2009: your family is very important. Dont get married respect your father and family . When this man is long gone out of your your family will still be there for you. I lived in HK for 9 yrs and so I think i have a little understanding my ex is Chinese ... (read in full...)
Why masturbate in front of them?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Guys like to see the girl masturbating in front of him to watch her excitment , her breathing getting quicker and quicker . Sweat on her forhead, her fingers getting quicker and until she arches her back moans and then still !
sounds wonderfu... (read in full...)
Unless I shave all my body hair, she won't have sex!
Q. My girlfriend has pretty much made it clear that she will refuse to have any sexual relations with me unless i shave of all of my body hair. I have never had to do this and it makes me a little uneasy. Is this normal for some girls to hate hair this ...
A. 1 July 2009: Yes sounds normal . If you like her sure go for it. Use electric clips and then a good razor ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't give me any money to pay the bills, and I think he's cheating
Q. ok i dont want to bore everybody with my problem i will try to make it short and plain i am british living abroad with partner unmarried with two kids both to him he works away from home long distance driver i only see him once a week for one day ...
A. 1 July 2009: phone the British embassy and tell them your story and see what they can do for you. ... (read in full...)
I can't finish without my vibrator -- is this a problem?
Q. So all my life I had trouble orgasming. I didn't have my first until I was 21 and bought myself my first vibrator (though I'd tried with hands without success). My boyfriend is freaking amazing in bed and I have never been so turned on by anyone, ...
A. 1 July 2009: Dont think too much, just be pleased that you can have an orgasm. You're lucky that your boyfriend spends an hour with his tongue I am sure most guys would give up after 20 minutes. Its all very normal dont worry ... (read in full...)
I feel my friend and I have a connection, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I have this crush on a friend I have known for quite sometime now, and have only recently realised that I might have feelings for him. But I'm not sure if I really like him, or if I just want a boyfriend. I've never exactly had an official boyf...
A. 30 June 2009: No you should tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way , you might have found a great boyfriend if not he will understand if hes a nice guy and just want to be friends ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want more than friendship with me. How do I get him back?
Q. i have been married to my husband for 2 years, but we have been seperated 4 a yr now. he wanted me to move back in with him and i told him yes but i never got off my butt and moved back in with him. a couple of weeks i found out he had another woman ...
A. 30 June 2009: yes you did the right thing telling him you will not give him rent . Move on with your life this man doesn't seem worth while Do you really want him back even if you could get him ? you can do better ... (read in full...)
Although my wife and I are seperating, we still have sex. Is this wrong and will it hurt me in the long run?
Q. I'm separating with my wife after 18 years together. We have two children, mortgage, but she cheated on me. I forgave her, but she continued with other men, and did some truly slutty things while drunk so it's over, and it's actually her who's ...
A. 30 June 2009: Yes its a bit strange , the house is going the family is going but the wife is still around. If its over and you cant get back together then make it over ... (read in full...)
Help! Should I quit my job?
Q. I am a fairly young teacher and I teach special ed with a lot of really high needs students. Feeding tubes, diapering... the works. I took this job when a very experienced teacher retired. I work with five other colleagues and plenty of assistants ...
A. 30 June 2009: Do you belong to a union ? if so speak to your union rep about your concerns. perhaps speak with the principal and speak your mind ... (read in full...)
If I told my boyfriend about me cheating... do you think he'll forgive me?
Q. Okay well I still havent told my boyfriend I have cheated because I dont want to hurt him and I dont want to destroy the great relationship I have with him now! I seriously do not think I would ever cheat on him again cause the guilt I have felt so ...
A. 30 June 2009: It wasnt your fault you were very drunk and it sounds like you didnt do that much anyway. Dont tell your boyfriend you feel less guilt but then you make him feel bad. You have been good for the last 2 months, so you have changed . as you said you ... (read in full...)
Should I have a lesbian affair?
Q. I am a married, female, 40 years old with children. I've known I was gay since college, but have always hid it and have never been with a woman before. I recently met a woman who is also in a relationship with another man. I am almost positive ...
A. 30 June 2009: YES YES YES ....you should go for it.
You have only one life to lead you are at a great time to enjoy and explore. My girlfriend at 5 female lovers when she was young and always has happy memories of them.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
Fiance watches porn every day but turns me down for sex
Q. Ello all. My fiance who I've been with for 5 years and counting has been watching porn EVERY day that I'm not home, which can be 7 days a week. But I'm only gone for about 3-4 hrs at a time. We had this issue before and it seemed to go away but now ...
A. 30 June 2009: Can you watch porn together on TV/DVD . Shouldnt couples be able to watch porn together its 2009 after all ... (read in full...)
What's so wrong with my enjoying the female form?
Q. My girlfriend is very upset because I enjoy watching porn. We've been together for little over 2 years, and she lost her virginity to me. I love her, she is such a great girl, she is different from other girls I've ever met or been with. I've told ...
A. 30 June 2009: First rule when a women asks you "oh do these girls look better than me "? you say " No way you are the most beautiful girl for me and your body is great" you lie !
shes thinks " when he f..ks me he is thinking of F...ING the girls on his movie or... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 30 June 2009: what type of porn does she watch ? do you ever watch porn on the DVD ? Now you know she watches porn buy what she looks at on the net and watch it together and masturbate together. They you get more sex she gets to watch porn and your all happy ... (read in full...)
Lesbian sex does not feel that good to me... is something wrong?
Q. okay... I am bisexual and i have a girlfriend, I stayed the night with her last night and we had sex. i am a virgin when it comes to guys and it was my first time having sex with a girl. i gave her oral and she liked it... then she gave me oral but ...
A. 30 June 2009: perhaps you dont fancy her that much or wasnt so good in bed ... (read in full...)
We got naked for a few minutes, was this an invitation to sex?
Q. My friend Adam and I have both had heterosexual histories...however, I have been having sexual fantasies about him since I was about 13. Nothing ever happened but the last time we got drunk together, we were walking on a trail. He suggested we get ...
A. 30 June 2009: yes sounds like they could be a lot more in this. Next time tell him that you like him a LOT and see what he says , if he is your friend and you have the wrong end of the stick shouldn't be to much harm done. Good luck ... (read in full...)
I'm shy but really turned on by them!
Q. Im a straight woman (I'm pretty sure, anyways). I have these two co-workers who openly declare themselves as bisexual. They are both into the punk/goth thing. I think they think I'm a really square Hmong girl but I've had a lot of sexual fantasies ...
A. 30 June 2009: Ask them out and have a few drinks and take it from there afew smiles and a kiss or two should make all your dreams true. Good luck sounds great ... (read in full...)
Can I ever get out of this tangled mess he created?
Q. Hello there. I'm a 29-year-old married man with 2 kids. I've been having an affair with my father-in-law for the past month in secret. He instigated this affair, and I agreed to it - we were both drunk at the time watching a game of socce...
A. 30 June 2009: You ring him and say that its over and you love your wife and kids and thats it FINAL ........ if your wife found out or your kids your life would be HELL !!!! You DO NOT have sex with your father -in law ! Another guy ok but not your wifes father !... (read in full...)
Is this age gap (13 years) too big?
Q. I am 19, and have recently fallen for a guy who is 32! He really nice and not pressuring me into anything, in fact it's completely the opposite, everything is on my terms and upto me, so theres no pressure on his side. The truth is, I find guys ...
A. 30 June 2009: sounds like the perfect age. you shouldnt worry the age is fine ... (read in full...)
Opinions on age differences
Q. Is it okay for a 18 year old guy to date a 31 year old woman?...
A. 30 June 2009: yes .... go for it ... (read in full...)
Should I give her another message to let her know how I feel?
Q. I have a crush on someone, she is so beautiful and every time I see her I get butterflies in my stomach. I don't know if I love her or not because I don't know what love feels like. I added her as a friend on facebook and she added me back but she ...
A. 30 June 2009: sounds like you are in love . she has your message and she knows how to get in contact with you , best to play it cool and let her text you.... (read in full...)
I'm 38 and hes 24. Is this going to work in the long term?
Q. Okay so I'm a young 38 (very active) and my boyfriend is 24 (active as well) honestly, what are the chances of things working out long-term with such a huge age difference? We are exactly the same - we joke about it often, and sometimes if I have ...
A. 30 June 2009: Enjoy your relationship while it lasts if your happy now that is all that is important. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Should I end it with the older guy and find love with a guy my own age? Opinions please!
Q. I've known my boyfriend for 4 yrs and we've been a couple and living together for 3yrs... so here's the Deal...He's twice my age: I'm 21 he's 44. We haven't talked about it with our families yet...but they practically pretty much already know sin...
A. 30 June 2009: We seem to meet the right people at the wrong time Your life is just starting you are young and you should be free. The best age is your age right now you have the world as your oyster. Do you realy want to get married and have kids even befor... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want more than friendship with me. How do I get him back?
Q. i have been married to my husband for 2 years, but we have been seperated 4 a yr now. he wanted me to move back in with him and i told him yes but i never got off my butt and moved back in with him. a couple of weeks i found out he had another woman ...
A. 30 June 2009: He doesnt sound like Prince Charming.... why is he asking you for rent ? Your baby is 12 months old and he split with you and is now with another women. Hes a RAT ! ... (read in full...)
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