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writes:I am 19, and have recently fallen for a guy who is 32! He really nice and not pressuring me into anything, in fact it's completely the opposite, everything is on my terms and upto me, so theres no pressure on his side. The truth is, I find guys my own age to immature, and am myself quite mature for my age, so I don't see a problem with seeing a guy his age. I just want to know if this age gap seems too big or if theres anything wrong with dating a guy who's 13 years older than me, when I'm only 19!
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 sounds like the perfect age. you shouldnt worry the age is fine
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Well i'm 21 and i'm talking to a man that's 31 going on 32. He's a very nice man and he doesn't preesure me into anyhting I don't want to do either. He was the one who suggested we build a friendship first. So age is nothing but a number, and it does in fact depend on you and the other person. Follow your heart, it'll take you where you need to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): I hope they do too. Happy relationships are awesome. !
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reader, confused-girl +, writes (18 June 2009):
confused-girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your answers! I'm prepared to take whatever anyone says about the relationship because he makes me feel happy and feel good about myself, which is more than anyone has done in a long time! I'm just going to make sure we take things slow and do things properly! Another thing is the age doesn't seem to matter to him, he seems to generally like me for who I am, but he knows the age thing may matter to me, coz it took him a while to tell me his age when I first met him! I hope things go well between us =) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Hey!
I have feel exactly the same as you!..I think that 13 years is completley fine!...atleast you are legal!...and it seems that he is not pressuring you in anyway..so its fine :)
if you are happy in this relatioship dont let anyone tell you whats right or wrong...being happy is all that matters!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Hi there,
If he makes you feel good about yourself and happy. Love should have no age limits. I feel exactly the same as you as in guys our age are just a bit too imature (I'm 21) Relax, have fun and don't worry about what others may say. As long as you care for each other, who cares about anything else!? Good luck!! Xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): It doesn't matter what we think, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks, so if judgement should be placed on you, either here or in your day to day life as you walk around together, then pay no attention. Love has no age limitations. there's no rule book with an age range you must abide, and there is not a thing wrong with those 13 years. It's simply a number and since you're of a legal age, then that it will remain.
Just cause he was born first doens't mean you can't be together!
Now.. we're passed the "is it ok" part. Let's go to the "can you handle it" part. Don't get me wrong, i'm sure you can!
But do realize that if you committ to him and tell him you want to be with him, then it would be unfair to back out of it later becuase of the age. So prepare ahead of time for the stares of confused/disapproving people that be cast on you as you publicly dine, shop, etc. Be prepared for the words, the judgement, the overally butthole of the world. They're are most likely similar stares to those that i get walking around 8.5 months pregnant without rings because my fingers are swollen and without a man becuase he's deplyed. It's pretty disheartening.
So please don't let it get you down! If you like him, then you like him and that's all that matters!
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): It's not entirely impossible. My parents have an age gap of 14 years! Maybe you should understand this guy better and you'll slowly be able to judge if he is a good boyfriend.
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