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writes:My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have small hands so when I finger myself I can't reach my g-spot. Is there anything I can try to make masterbating more enjoyable? Also what do guys enjoy watching when a girl masterbates in front of him?
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reader, Karlin24 +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Men like to watch, it's part of their nature. If you don't enjoy masterbating, you're not doing it right. Get a vibrator and trust me, it will be your new favorite hobby. You don't have to get one that is inserted if you're not comfortable with that, just one with a vibrating set of bunny ears or the like to put on your clit and you will be happy as hell and so will he when he watches.
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reader, MansonGroupie  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Most guys love this. I don't exactly know what it is about female masturbation that gets them going, but I love watching my boyfriend masturbate...I guess that's the same thing!
Perhaps you should invest in a good vibrator, that will allow you to reach your g-spot and is great for using on other parts of the body too!
In order to make sure you're comfortable, try using a vibrator by yourself first.
To get you in the mood and to relax, maybe try watching a couple of videos/porn/masturbation to get a feel for what you might like to try.
Ultimately though, if you don't feel that this is something you feel happy about doing, DON'T do it. Or, ask him to masturbate for you first!
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reader, citic101  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Guys like to see the girl masturbating in front of him to watch her excitment , her breathing getting quicker and quicker . Sweat on her forhead, her fingers getting quicker and until she arches her back moans and then still !
sounds wonderful to me. Buy a vibrator, will make you cum and it will be close to your G spot. Your boyfriend will love it and after a little you want be shy and you will love it to
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reader, xXAlexxX +, writes (1 July 2009):
Guys do like this - they're very visual, and get turned on by watching things.
If you don't feel comforatble doing it, then don't, but if you just need some ideas - why not get him to buy you a small vibrator (you could even go shoping for one togther) and use that?
Otherwise,uh,practice in private, and maybe focos more on your clit than finding your G-spot 'cos that can be hard to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Well my ex also enjoyed me masturbating in front of him. The only thing was that the way I do in my own privacy is not really worth a show. So I did it like the porn stars do which brought me little to no pleasure at all but he enjoyed it which in turn made it a pleasurable experience for us both. Wide spread legs, noises and facial expressions seem to do the trick for my guy. Although I was only 'acting' like it felt good it got him so turned on that the sex was really great!
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Masturbation is usually the way that women discover exactly what they need to do to have an orgasm. Some women have great orgasms by stroking, rubbing and caressing their clitoris. Others have orgasms with penetrative movements. The thing to remember is that all women are completely different in their sexual responses. Only YOU will know what is best for you. So there is no such thing as not being good at it. You simply have to do what feels nice for you. Maybe you need to try manipulating your clitoris, or use a vibrator to reach your g-spot, if thats what works for you.
When guys want to watch their partner masturbate, it is usually because they want to see HOW their partner does it, and because it is incredibly erotic. A womans body goes through various stages of arousal, some more obvious than others. During sexual intercourse, men don't get to see these stages in progress. But given a chance to sit back, and observe, it is very educational, as well as the sexiest few minutes a man could wish to experience.
We need the good 'female' aunts, like Samantha, SatinDesire, Kelly, and TasteofIndia to answer, not me!
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Well I have heard that it drives most guys through the roof to watch a woman "touch" herself. My boyfriend isn't like that, I wish he was. But if you don't feel comfortable doing it don't. Sometimes all it takes is time.
My suggestion, if you want to try it... Practise when your alone. Get to know your own body by yourself first. You don't need to get to your G spot. Have you ever tried clitoral stimulation? "Touch" yourself in front of him and if you really ned that G spot sensation just pull him into it.
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