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age
30-35,
*hmybuddha
writes:I have this crush on a friend I have known for quite sometime now, and have only recently realised that I might have feelings for him. But I'm not sure if I really like him, or if I just want a boyfriend. I've never exactly had an official boyfriend before, just fleeting dates with a few guys - they never ended up being anything satisfying.. Sometimes I am hurt and left wondering if I am worth anything at all. Other times, I suppress this innate desire to get intimate with a man, and I guess these pent up emotions have led me to do stupid things like meet up with strange men, and actually engage in casual non-penetrative sex. It was only with the last stranger that I realised I was setting myself up for disaster, acting like a slut - he told me that he didn't like that our first date went too fast because he didn't know me and it was meaningless for him. He really hurt my feelings and I thought he was having fun, but I guess I was wrong and it is all my fault.I still want to experience being intimate though... so I'm not sure; is what I'm feeling for my friend real? I don't want to destroy a more than 2 year friendship. I'm not sure if he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I do feel like we have a connection. What should I do? Keep quiet?
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reader, bailee  +, writes (30 June 2009):
wow...good question.the sleeping around thing should stop.if you want this friendship to become more, then he can't be thinking you're sleeping around with a whole bunch of other guys. honesty can get you so far in relationships. if you do tell him how you thinkk you feel, it could make the friendship more akward if he doesn't feel the same way.but it's worth taking a chance and telling him how you feel.he could feel the same way and it could be the start of something new!! but if he doesn't feel the same way, you can say "i hope we can still be friends"...chances are he'll say yes to that!but i think you should tell him :)definatly tell him!best of luckk---
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 No you should tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way , you might have found a great boyfriend if not he will understand if hes a nice guy and just want to be friends
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reader, xo.diamond.ox  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 TELL HIM HOW U FEEL
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