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My name is Toni-Michelle and I’m completely animal mad! I have two cats, two gerbils and lots of tropical fish!
I live in Nottingham, UK and plan to one-day jet off to sunnier climes! I'm heavily into rock music (all types).
I don’t have any pieces of paper to say that I’m qualified to help people though I’ve been through my fair share of troubles and would like to help or maybe even prevent others getting into the same situations I was in.
I’ve been beaten up by various men, married/divorced, my ex husband went to prison, another ex was a rather unsavoury character who was convicted of something which I don’t think I’m allowed to mention on here, I was a severe self harmer (& have many unsightly scars), I have OCD, I’m bisexual and have explored, enjoyed & experimented with the ‘female side’ and ultimately decided that, although I fancy women, I communicate better with men in terms of relationships (women are too good at arguing!!! Lol), I’ve researched the human mind, hormones & behaviours online to better understand depression and it's effects on relationships to help me to understand others needs.
I love helping people and, although my answers may not always be correct or what everybody wants to hear, I do my best and try to pass on as much helpful advice as possible whether it be something I’ve experienced or someone close to me has gone through.
I am not judgemental, however, I have strong views on and place high importance on matters relating to marriage, commitment, fidelity, respect and being happy.
Any questions, please send me a message :)
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Should I try anal? Does it hurt?
Q. Dear cupid. I cant stop thinking about receiving anal sex do you think i should go ahead and have it Does it hurt very much the first time as I never went all the way before with a man ...
A. 2 September 2010: I think you should definitely try all (well, most) things at least once! Anal can be amazing, so long as you're relaxed and well lubricated. Yes, it can be painful, especially if you tense up, however your partner should stop if it become... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight to get back with my ex!
Q. what are the best ways to make yourself vomit and how fast does it make you skinnier? because i want to get back with my ex and im just way to fat. so i need help and i think vomitting is the fastest way. ...
A. 26 August 2010: ...Just to add; I also think you'll find it doesn't work, as I did...... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight to get back with my ex!
Q. what are the best ways to make yourself vomit and how fast does it make you skinnier? because i want to get back with my ex and im just way to fat. so i need help and i think vomitting is the fastest way. ...
A. 26 August 2010: You are joking, right??
Take it from someone who has done, and ocasionally does still do it, it's awful and will make you very ill!
The backs of my teeth are black in places due to the stomach acid eroding them, I have constant acid/heartburn, ... (read in full...)
The guy I liked got excited when he found out I was a virgin, is that a good or bad thing?
Q. Hey..well there was a guy I liked and he went to school with my sister's bf soo he would ask questions about me soo one day he ask my sister's bf am I a virgin and my sister bf said yes and then the boy got excited and said he was goin to jack me ...
A. 5 August 2010: That is a very, very bad thing!
Steer well clear of this guy, he'll take your virginity then run!
Be careful.x... (read in full...)
I'm in love... with a dead woman!!!
Q. Ok people...this might sound insane but i cant help it. About a year back i saw a picture of a girl and read her life story and i think i am falling over for her. I think i am in love... but the catch is... she died way back during the second ...
A. 18 November 2009: Wow, you sound so much like me!
Maybe I'm strange too??
I have a fascination to the point of, I guess obsession with Layne Staley...Not sure it's possible to fall for a dead guy, but I have!!! I don't mean I just like the way he looks, I get ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hasn't talked to me about getting an abortion. What should I do?
Q. My Girlfriend is going to the abortion clinic without me she is making all these decision without concerning me what should I do?...
A. 28 October 2009: A lot of men are going to hate me for this but here goes, this is her decision and all you can do is support her.
Men, you may think that this is a decision that women take lightly, it very rarely is! Not only does she have to carry the baby for... (read in full...)
I don't like my stature...
Q. i have a low self esteem problem.it's got to do with my height (am short), abt 5ft. i have been a radio presenter for a long time and people love my shows.besides am a good communicator and in journalism school now. i should be happy and proud ...
A. 28 October 2009: Hi there,
I understand where you're coming from (from an outsiders perspective).
I'm 5ft 8' and my boyfriend is 5ft 2'. Personally I love him all the more for his height, the best things really do come in smaller packages!!!
He's cute, yet ... (read in full...)
She says she can't stand me asking if she's seeing someone else, but she never wants to have sex! So she must be cheating, right?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having a problem seeing things from the same point of view. We've been together for almost two years and I have told her from the start that as long as we have sex and I am sexually satisfied, that we'll be happy and I w...
A. 28 October 2009: Sorry to say this but, you selfish pig!I try not to be judgmental but you take the biscuit..
...I know 'I have been verbally and occasionally physically abusive with her'...What the hell??? I wouldn't want to have sex with you either, in fact I woul... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Q. ok I was here last week asking if i was blowing it out of proportion. With all of your help and friend and family i realized i was not blowing it out of proportion. I decided that i want a divorce and to move back to the place we just left. i have ...
A. 15 October 2009: Hi,
Sorry for the delay in getting back to you (haven’t been too well lately!).
I’m glad you went to the counselling though, to be honest; I didn’t think it would set your mind at ease right away.
Trust isn’t something you learn over... (read in full...)
Had an abortion, now I'm craving chocolate. Am I pregnant again?
Q. I'm due my period on the 12 oct 09. I'm craving for chocolates,and I've done a p test but it's negative. Am I pregnant? Because I had a abortion on the 10 aug 09.and im trying for a baby....
A. 9 October 2009: Let me get this straight, you had an abortion in August of this year and you're now trying for a baby in October??
If that's the case, it's seriously screwed up, plus you could be doing harm to yourself if you haven't had all of the check ups/afte... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Q. ok I was here last week asking if i was blowing it out of proportion. With all of your help and friend and family i realized i was not blowing it out of proportion. I decided that i want a divorce and to move back to the place we just left. i have ...
A. 5 October 2009: Hello again,
I'm just posting to see how things are going.
Did you go to the Marriage Counselling appointment? If so, how did it go?
Have you both had the opportunity to talk in more depth about what happened and where to go from here?
... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Q. ok I was here last week asking if i was blowing it out of proportion. With all of your help and friend and family i realized i was not blowing it out of proportion. I decided that i want a divorce and to move back to the place we just left. i have ...
A. 25 September 2009: Thank you for getting back to me.
I can completely understand why you are confused and I really do feel for you, I’m so sorry.
Well firstly, it seems that he himself is experiencing some kind of confusion. You don’t give his age but I assume... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Q. ok I was here last week asking if i was blowing it out of proportion. With all of your help and friend and family i realized i was not blowing it out of proportion. I decided that i want a divorce and to move back to the place we just left. i have ...
A. 24 September 2009: What was your previous question? It would seem that whatever it was, you were given the advice to leave both by the Aunts & Uncles on here and your family...
All I can say at this minute is that you obviously haven't been happy and...le... (read in full...)
Is it safe for a man to ejaculate inside the woman's anus?
Q. is it safe for a man to cum inside the womens anus? does it cause colon problems?...
A. 23 September 2009: I've never had any problems with this and, as far as I know, there isn't any risk of colon problems etc...
The anus isn't designed for sex, however it does have to deal with worse substances (eg poop) than cum.
The only issues you're likely to en... (read in full...)
I cant stand his accusations any more!
Q. I don't know if this is abuse or not. I have been dating my boyfriend (he is from Europe) for almost a year and a half. It started a year ago when he would tell me that I am looking at other men (when I don't) and that I wanted to be with other men ...
A. 11 September 2009: You are not being over-dramatic or sensitive, Sweetie. You’re being controlled and manipulated!
I don’t know what this guys background is so I’m reluctant to call him every name under the sun…though I easily could!
He is obviously very i... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's depressed and I'm wondering how I can help him?
Q. Hi, ive been going out with my my bf for about four months and as we were housemates and friends first we live together. hes just started full time work a few weeks ago and is often really tired and stressed out by the time he comes home. i know...
A. 18 August 2009: You poor thing, I know exactly how you feel and am in the same situation myself at the minute!
Trust me, it will get a lot worse before it gets better. He apologises when he says something hurtful now, you have to be prepared for the fact that he ... (read in full...)
I've been told I am a little feminine, do women find this attractive?
Q. Hey, does girls find a guy who behave little like a woman attractive? Well its just that some of my girl friends usually drop a joking statement that i behave like a lady. But not the way i walk cos i walk like guy. But they say its the way i laugh,...
A. 14 August 2009: In a word...Yes!
Femininity in a man can be extremely attractive!
Be you, be happy and try not to worry. There aren't many men out there like this and I'm sure you'll make one hell of a catch for a lucky lady out there :)
x... (read in full...)
Past is the past right? I'm concerned by the number of her sexual partners!
Q. Hi Ive been seeing a new partner for a few months now.. i did the old fashioned courting, but eventually the moment came to have sex. The night was fab..no problems there, but while lying there chatting.. the topic of how many partners we ha...
A. 14 August 2009: PS-I wouldn't say it's a normal amount, nor would I say it's an abnormal amount.
Each of us get to where we are today by taking different paths. As long as we realise along the way that certain things are often better left where they are, in the p... (read in full...)
Past is the past right? I'm concerned by the number of her sexual partners!
Q. Hi Ive been seeing a new partner for a few months now.. i did the old fashioned courting, but eventually the moment came to have sex. The night was fab..no problems there, but while lying there chatting.. the topic of how many partners we ha...
A. 14 August 2009: Hello,
I'll probably get labelled for saying this but, at 24, my number exceeds your partner's!
I relaise it's difficult, I was with a guy once who told me he had lost count when he reached 85!!! That was a shock but, in time, it didn't make a... (read in full...)
Men, please help me? Is watching tranny porn normal?
Q. Almost a year ago this month we met. He was obsessed with my sex!! Wanted it all the time, everyday every night....now he is always tired when he comes home from work. Or he complains about how it sucks getting old his body is out of shape. I left ...
A. 13 August 2009: Get out! Get out! Get out!
I've been in this exact same situation and I tried to convince myself that it didn't mean anything, that it was my fault, all in my head, blah, blah, blah!
This guy is a pervert and no amount of sticking by him ... (read in full...)
What's the big deal about letting a man ejaculate in a woman's mouth?
Q. Why is it that alot of people have a problem with the question of a woman giving oral sex and letting a man ejaculate in her mouth or her swallowing? I ask it and some feel the need to humiliate or belittle or call me a jerk or use the word "de...
A. 11 August 2009: That’s understandable and I think it’s great that your love for her means more than the act!
You say she’s done this for you before but doesn’t anymore, maybe in time and starting slowly (not expecting to cum in her mouth every time), she may indu... (read in full...)
What's the big deal about letting a man ejaculate in a woman's mouth?
Q. Why is it that alot of people have a problem with the question of a woman giving oral sex and letting a man ejaculate in her mouth or her swallowing? I ask it and some feel the need to humiliate or belittle or call me a jerk or use the word "de...
A. 10 August 2009: You seem a little hostile and may I even say, a tad disrespectful?!
Not all women enjoy the taste/texture of cum, some do. Some find it degrading, others don’t.
I don’t think that any woman should be put in a position where she feels that she H... (read in full...)
I want to be in a relationship with an older man but I'm unsure...what do you think?
Q. Ok so Im 17 going on 18 next year and I like an older guy and hes 26 years old going on 27 in september. Were friends and hes really nice. I know just because guys are nice doesnt mean theyll be like that all the time. And because of our age ...
A. 10 August 2009: Personally I've always gone for older guys...Which has its advantages but MANY disadvantages!
When I was 16 I got into a relationship with a 32 year old man. Unfortunately I had no life experience and he did, the relationship lasted approx o... (read in full...)
I have a small lump "down there" and I'm worried about it!
Q. hi guys, this is a kind of embarrasing, and I'm worried about it but don't want to be worried if it's nothing, I'm 14 years old 15 in a month, and i'm a virgin (never even kissed a guy lol) and I have a small lump, kinda like a big spot, down there. ...
A. 30 July 2009: It could be a cyst.
Is it hard or soft? Does it move around under the skin at all when pushed?
I don't think it's anything to worry about but more info would be great.
xx... (read in full...)
Poop problem!
Q. Recently I haven't done anything different as far as I know but whenever I go to the toilet for a poop my anus tears a little on the outside and a littl bit of blood is produced and it's quite painful. Anyone have any idea what could be the cause of ...
A. 29 July 2009: It sounds like you may have a fissure, these are very common and rarely cause any problems. There is a product on the market called Anusol-This a suppositary which heals and moisturises the area.
I have something very similar, though often wi... (read in full...)
Should I have anal with my boyfriend?
Q. ok i need help cuz my boyfriend wants to have anal but i dont know if i should. i want to know more stuff about anal before i do it. ive heard that it hurts alot and that their might be remains of poo on the condom when your done. then i also heard ...
A. 24 July 2009: Hun, Yes, it can be very painful and yes, it can be messy. The fact that you're asking seems that you aren't so sure about this and I would definitely say that if you're not 100% positive that this is what you want, DO NOT do it! I believe... (read in full...)
How do you know when you have had an orgasm and when you have pleased your man?
Q. i need help on this and fast. well first off i feel real Dumb for asking this but how do you know when youve had an orgasm? and how do you know when you have fully pleased your man? i feel real sumb for asking that but i wanna make sure that what im ...
A. 24 July 2009: P.S-You're not dumb! We're here to help, and (almost) all of the questions are something that one/many of us have had to ask at some point.xx... (read in full...)
How do you know when you have had an orgasm and when you have pleased your man?
Q. i need help on this and fast. well first off i feel real Dumb for asking this but how do you know when youve had an orgasm? and how do you know when you have fully pleased your man? i feel real sumb for asking that but i wanna make sure that what im ...
A. 24 July 2009: Hunnie, You'll know when you've had an orgasm. It's an intense feeling which leaves you feeling as though you're floating on air...and throbbing (in a good way) downstairs!
If you're enjoying the sensations but haven't quite found that 'magical plac... (read in full...)
What do you think he meant by his comment?
Q. Hey guys what would you say this meant! when a guy says.. "(my names) Nice, but it'll never happen, you know..." One way i think hes saying it will never happen but its the You know... bit tht makes me think if he has feelings but for some rea...
A. 24 July 2009: I'd say he's either very immature and not able to deal with emotions...or, he just sees you as a friend.
Does he know you like him in 'that way'? if not, there could be a chance that he's just trying to save face as he believes you don't see him ... (read in full...)
My husband has been browsing on a cheater's website, what do I do now?
Q. This is tough so forgive how long it is. I don't see how I could be wrong though. Someone kept clearing the history in our internet browser. At first I was worried my 9 year old son had started looking at pornography and trying to cover his tra...
A. 24 July 2009: Oh Hun, what an awful thing to find out. You're doing well to have stayed calm!!!
I agree with Lilly Rose, you have to show him what you found and ask why he did this. Maybe it's simply a case of 'curiosity' getting the better of him, however,... (read in full...)
I'd like to hear from lads who've actually received this kind of sex.
Q. I'm a gay lad and my new boyfriend has offered to give me anal intercouse. I've never experienced it but would like see what it feels like. I've read all about it and know it can be extremely pleasurable. My boyfriend says he can give me a ...
A. 3 July 2009: I know you want to hear from men but, speaking as a woman who has had anal sex...It's amazing, if done properly.
Plenty of lubrication and a relaxed atmosphere are needed for your first time.
It's a gorgeous feeling and, as the anonymous reader... (read in full...)
I'm on the Pill but we don't use condoms, could I still get pregnant?
Q. hey i'm sophie, 16 right so i've been on the pill for nearly 6 months now and everytime me and my fiancé have sex we don't use a condom. Can i still get pregnant? i'm slightly worried. please help....
A. 2 July 2009: Hello Sophie, The pill is relatively safe but not a 100% guarantee. I got pregnant whilst on the pill and I'd been taking it for two years. I'd advise that you use a condom when making love to be on the safe side, this will also reduce the r... (read in full...)
Any baby name ideas that go well with Gerrard?
Q. Hey everyone, I know you lot are a clever bunch so thinking you could help us out here :) i've been thinking of baby names, and would like to use my late grandfathers name as a middle name, which is Gerrard, but I want it to go with manson, which'll ...
A. 2 July 2009: This won't be of much use but I have to say that Manson would be the coolest first name!!! xx... (read in full...)
Someone please help! I don't know what to do about my ex-boyfriend!
Q. Hi I broke up with my boyfriend that I have been seeing on and off for the past 4 years he treated me terrible not just terrible but how noone should ever be treated! he sprayed me in the face with pepper spray, he slit all my tires, he called me ...
A. 2 July 2009: Oh you poor thing, I cannot believe that anyone thinks they have the right to treat another person so appallingly! First things first, No, you are not crazy! Guys like this are manipulative and controlling, they take time to get into your though... (read in full...)
Dealing with his depression
Q. Hi everyone, I’m new here and have been milling around trying to answer folk’s questions. Well, here goes… My partner and I have been together for seven months and we hit it off from the moment we met nearly a year ago. We have pretty much e...
A. 2 July 2009: Thank you all so, so much for your replies, it is very much appreciated and has given me more strength.
He is very good with taking his medication and is seeing a counsellor to help with his past demons and to brighten his future. I got a bit upse... (read in full...)
Why masturbate in front of them?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Most guys love this. I don't exactly know what it is about female masturbation that gets them going, but I love watching my boyfriend masturbate...I guess that's the same thing!
Perhaps you should invest in a good vibrator, that will allow yo... (read in full...)
Left with the tattoo, but not him!
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for like about three years, about five months ago, we got matching tattoos. I got his initals and he got mine. We both got it on the back of our neck. Now we are broken up and I am trying to get over it but everytime I ...
A. 1 July 2009: I have my boyfriends name tattooed on my arm (maybe that makes me silly too?).
I agree with Samii though, you'd be better off getting it covered. If it's on your neck, it will be quite small and easily covered if you have a design in mind.
Y... (read in full...)
He sends and receives dirty texts from random women and tells me this is normal behaviour!
Q. My bf (we've been together 5 years) looks at porn on the internet a lot (which I don't mind) BUT he also checks out adult dating sites, uses adult text messaging services to send/receive dirty texts to random women (including naked pics and texts ...
A. 30 June 2009: The hardest thing is letting go. Once you've taken this step, you'll hurt for a while but will ultimately feel stronger and better about yourself. Don't ever, ever think that there's anything wrong with you! He's got a problem and a complete lack ... (read in full...)
He sends and receives dirty texts from random women and tells me this is normal behaviour!
Q. My bf (we've been together 5 years) looks at porn on the internet a lot (which I don't mind) BUT he also checks out adult dating sites, uses adult text messaging services to send/receive dirty texts to random women (including naked pics and texts ...
A. 30 June 2009: My ex partner did pretty much the same thing, apart from the fact that he did it by letter...a sort of 'kinky pen-pal' if you will. I didn't know anything about it until curiosity got the better of me and I read the letters, that's when I discover... (read in full...)
Help, I need to know... Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. I have found a text message on my boyfriend's mobile phone. From a woman who has cropped up many a time in our past 2 years together. it said 'i miss you, i want you, I need you'. Is he cheating? Should I confront him? Is there any way that thi...
A. 29 June 2009: Well, on that score, I'd definitely say that you need to confront him. This isn't fair on you at all and if he has lied about it before, he is more than capable of doing it again. I agree with the anonymous reader below, if you get a gut feelin... (read in full...)
Help, I need to know... Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. I have found a text message on my boyfriend's mobile phone. From a woman who has cropped up many a time in our past 2 years together. it said 'i miss you, i want you, I need you'. Is he cheating? Should I confront him? Is there any way that thi...
A. 29 June 2009: This is a toughie. What were your reasons for checking his phone in the first place? Has he given you any indication that he may have cheated in the past? Is this other girl an ex, a friend??
Obviously you are hurt and upset at the minute, ... (read in full...)
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