Fiance watches porn every day but turns me down for sex

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ello all. My fiance who I've been with for 5 years and counting has been watching porn EVERY day that I'm not home, which can be 7 days a week. But I'm only gone for about 3-4 hrs at a time. We had this issue before and it seemed to go away but now its come back and I'm not sure what to do. He got extremely mad last time I brought it up and we almost split up because of it. I thought it was a dumb reason to end a 3 year (at the time) relationship over porn, so I said I was sorry and I would drop it. I have been having issues with my period where its been lasting for about 7 months now. When I have a 2-3 day break from it I try to get him to have sex and he turns me down. Ive even put on lingerie and tried to get him in the mood that way and he still turns me down. Don't get me wrong our sex life isn't dead completely. Were down to about once a month if my period takes a break. But he knows I have no issues with pleasuring him when he wants it. I even offered to the other day before work and he shocked me by saying no. Other then the lack of sex and the porn every day, nothing else has changed to make think hes not in love with me any more or anything. I just don't know what to do about the porn. Should I just ignore it? Should I tell him its making me feel like he doesn't want to have sex with me any more and risk him to get mad at me again? I'm just so...I don't know.

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