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36-40,
*uke57
writes:I've been dating my girlfriend for the last year and we get along fine, but lately I've been getting bored with the relationship. We were away from each over for 2 months and missed each other terribly, and I've been back for three weeks now, and things have suddenly become stale.She's Japanese american and in that sense very quiet and so I have to encourage her to actually talk to me. She usually asks one question about my day, as opposed to my interrogation where I ask her minute details about hers. We do have sex as often as once a day, but it's always the same position, and it's getting boring. I've told her this, and the next time she let me do other stuff, but it sort of evolved back into the same position by the end (missionary...).I know it's sort of backwards, where the guy would rather talk than have sex, but really I want her to just talk to me. I try to bring up topics that I know she's interested in, but she'll say a few things and that's it. She never follows up on my stories either so I just don't know what to do to get her to talk more. It makes me feel like she's not interested in me and more interested in the sex... - (we're young, 22 and 20)... Reply to this Question
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reader, citic101  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 move on sounds like things have run their course
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 u have tried talking to her, but this is just the way she is. i dont think she can change for you.
for you both to continue u have to accept her the way she is
(which may be a little dull for you)
try giving her another chance and speak to her again.
if this continues remember a relationship without that spark or passion will die a slow death.
good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): First you need to ask yourself how you really feel about her. Do you love her and want to care for her or not. Even if you do, you need to start thinking about whether she feels the sam way. You on't want to be in a relationship that is just one-way. If she doesn't take any effort to talk to you and connect with you then maybe you should start looking else where. Before you do that you should talk to her properly and tell her how you feel. If nothing comes of that then maybe you should just move on
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