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writes:I am 15 at the moment.How important are your school friends/ your popularity at school?I have lots of friends at school and am sort of friends with everyone, yet I don't seem to really fit in anywhere? I am never inivited to particular group things and I don't think many people take me seriously as a good/close friend.Will my popularity at school and the friends I make at school mean that much to me in several years time, or even a decade...?personal opinions and personal experiences please! thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): no of course not:)i am excactly the same, im friends with everyone, just not in a defined group just be yourself and itl all turn good in the end, i reckon.catchya
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reader, jlc1867  +, writes (31 August 2008):
well, i personally have lot's of different friends & fit into a lot of different groups.you will come to realize that those people that you see that seem like they have it all, & you are jealous of, really aren't that amazing. Just be friends with everyone, meet different people. Don't put people down or even yourself because of what other people will think. People come to like individuals if they are nice & just fun to talk to or be with, not because everyone else likes them. You also might want to find a couple really close friends, that you come to being able to trust with anything. They are the one's that help you the most throughout school. Focus on doing good in school & not worrying about what others think of you. You will appreciat it a lot in the long run.
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reader, chloe71z +, writes (31 August 2008):
 im 29 and I can count on one hand how many of the 30 some odd friends that I had in high school that I still keep in touch with. Once you graduate you'll go off to your college and them to thiers. Before you know it you have your bachlers in a field and you go to your reunion and half of the guys lost half there hair and the girls are either pregnant or have 3 kids already. At mine 1/3 of the guys and girls from my senior class where in Irac or afghanistan fighting for our country. Almost all of us had children by now. What im trying to say is just hold on to the friends that you hold dear to your heart and try not to loose sight of them and them you. Good friends are hard to come by. Dont forget that. Take care and God Bless
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reader, graciie; +, writes (31 August 2008):
popularity isnt everything.
its nice dont get me wrong.
but when your older would you rather have a nice job and house.
then to be able to say you were prom queen?
i think your better of having alot of friends
then one certain set then you have alot of people you can chat to be partners with in class or see out of school so you will never be bored. i think its alot nicer.
xo
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reader, desperate_angel +, writes (30 August 2008):
 when i was in that age at school, yes i think sometimes that popularity and friends are important so that you could fit into society. But lately as i move into senior years its not the popularity and how much friends you have which are important, it is how you made up yourself to achieve on something. In my last year in highschool, my standing in class and my grades are a lot that matters to me. I dont care if i will eat alone during lunch break, it doesnt matter to me if on weekends i will not hang out with my friends. Anyway during the last times of the year you will feel that your stress and school burdens will lessen. It just needs sometimes sacrifices and patience.
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (30 August 2008):
 I'm fifteen as well, and to be honest, I used to be one of those popular, stuck-up people with all the friends in the world. It's definitely not as fun as it's cracked up to be. There's different drama every day, and it all seems to be linked to you. It's stressful, and quite frankly, I've come to see that school is way more important than how many friends you have or how popular you are. Ten years from now, you won't be talking to any one of those friends. It's just fact. I'm not saying stop being friends with yours, but don't make them your number one priority, because most likely you won't be friends with them in the long run.But that's just my opinion. (:~Emma
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (30 August 2008):
 okay same position can give it to you straightish :P
keep the neutrality between all groups i have to say it can come in handy a lot if one group gets into a fight with another etc. it won't matter in ten years time because the people you are hanging around with now will have gone their different ways, you will be very lucky as my mum says if u have five friends u had in high school.
just see what happens next term a lot can change as u move up years (:
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (30 August 2008):
 i know what this is like
i was just like that. exept i had crap about me being fat. lol x
its a good thing if u stay urself sand blend in with anyone
in a while, ull find out who ur real friends are. they'll allways be there for you. then ull feel popular than ever.
maybe you should get out therr more.
i hope this has helped
honey x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): i think that it is good for you to have friends all over. i just graduated from high school and i had a set group of friends but i also had lots of people i knew and they would come to me for advice. it honestly doesnt matter if you are popular through high school. just be nice to everyone and in the end you will have way more friends than anyone else you know. oh ya and as far as no one inviting you places.....invite yourself "hey guys what going on tonight, oh do you care if i come" its not a big deal. or you could have little get togethers at your house those are always tons and tons of fun.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (30 August 2008):
hey, its normal to worry about the way you are now affecting your future. i feel exactally the same but ive learnt its ok not to fit in its better being unique and having a vareity of mates. popularity is important for many people but if you spend so long dwelling on it your wasting time on being you! you dont need a huge group of mates to have fun a few close friends are just as good if not better! you only remain friends with a handful of people you know through high school anyway so the chances are you wont even know half the people you see every day at the moment.it will all change as you get older good luck, let me know how it goes =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Hi, Im 17 and in a similar situation. I get on well with everyone in the 6th form, but i have no real close friends. I wish did, but then im happy with the way I am and that i get on with everyone. As you go through life you'll most likely have new friends and may not see many of your school friends. Im off to uni next year and can't wait as ill be able to meet new people, and make new mates.
All the Best
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (30 August 2008):
 I fitted in with everyone at my school too but i also had a large group of friends who i stayed with most of the time and then when school finished i missed them at first but then i just moved on and now i just keep in contact with a small amount of them but i still see people out and about sometimes and always stop for a chat.
If you leave school with no school friends then you may be bored and miss socialing with people.
That's juat my opinion
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