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I don't know if I should I make the first move?
Q. Heya, the thing is that i have been meeting a guy on and off for about two years. He'd be the guy that id always be able to talk to and have a laugh with. We have both had other relationships in this time aswell. There have been a few times when we ...
A. 28 December 2007: Well sometimes things just dont cut out for us as we want them to. Its just risks we have to take. That was pretty rude what he did so take it as a sign as he just isnt worth it. Move on and dont feel low for anyone that treats you that way. Im ... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 26 December 2007: Merry Christmas to you and to everyone at Dear Cupid. Its been a blessing to be apart of this site. I have learned many things as much as i have helped. Thank you all for everything and have a very MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should I make the first move?
Q. Heya, the thing is that i have been meeting a guy on and off for about two years. He'd be the guy that id always be able to talk to and have a laugh with. We have both had other relationships in this time aswell. There have been a few times when we ...
A. 26 December 2007: Well i think the only way you will truly know that he is really feeling you is if you spend a lot of time with him and take notice of his behaviors with you. Ask him for a drink like you suggested or maybe grab a bite. It isnt wrong of you to ask ... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship will work this way?
Q. Hello, I would like to ask you for advice please. Me and my girlfriend are dating each other a year and something. We always had different friends. She hates alcohol thats why she would never hang out with my friends again. Now, she goes dancing ...
A. 26 December 2007: I admire the fact that the both of you can send some time together and yet have time to spend with friends. So to answer your question, YES! I do believe that your relationship can work out. Whatever it is that bothers you, talk to her about it. Let ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man!
Q. I am a 17 year old and I'm in love with one of my 30 year old managers...We've been seeing each other for a while...we've even had sex. But there is one problem he is married and has 2 kids of his own. I really want our relationship and love to ...
A. 18 December 2007: Sweetie, im sorry to say but he is just not worth it. You cant even consider something serious with a 30 year old man who has a family of his own and yet he has the time to do these immature and selfish acts. What he is doing to his own family, he ... (read in full...)
Will he ever change? Is there any hope?
Q. Will he ever change? I broke up with my emotionally abusive fiance 3 months ago. I recently saw him and he told me that he had changed and how he was going to a therapist. But, I didn't see any change, so I decided not to keep in contact so I could ...
A. 18 December 2007: I believe that its possible for him to change but you shouldnt risk the chance of getting hurt again. Move on and give love another try with someone who will treat you right and appreciate the love you have to give. Yes maybe he still cares about ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, and totally depressed. Please help me!
Q. Alright I dont really know what to do anymore. Im only 17 and I am totally depressed about a ton of thing to its not just one thing. There is school, ive got like 9 credits as a junior pretty much im goin to fail in life. I cant look for god cause I ...
A. 17 December 2007: Dont assume your going to fail in life just because things dont turn out the way you want them to. As awkard as it may be, thats just the way of life. In life there are many disappointments and mistakes that we must go through and learn from in ... (read in full...)
We broke up 9 months ago, but what are his feelings now?
Q. Ok, I am very confused about a situation regarding my ex. We broke up after 3 months together around 9 months ago. We hadn't spoken, even though we study the same degree, and have the same friends. A few days ago, I got an email from him, explaining ...
A. 17 December 2007: I believe he is just trying to hide the feelings he still has for you. I believe the first step into trying to avoid our inner feelings for someone is DENIAL and by the looks of it, he's already been there. Since you didnt respond back to his text ... (read in full...)
I am scared that he will break up with me and/or never forgive if he finds out I cheated on him several times.
Q. My boyfriend and I will have been going out for a year at the end of this month. Our relationship has been really rocky until recently as we had both lived in different cities until a few months ago. Therefore, we are just starting to really get ...
A. 16 December 2007: You should take responsibilty for your actions. Your boyfriend deserve to know the truth about all those incidents and mistakes you committed. You say you love your boyfriend so do him that favor and be fair to him. You know for a fact that is ... (read in full...)
She's my superior at work and I'm her toyboy. Do I keep the status quo, or should I end it?
Q. So im 21 and since augest i have been having an affair with my 41 year boss (MILF), who's husband happens to be the manager of the place where i work, so technically he is my boss where she is my superior, and they have three kids who enjoy playing ...
A. 16 December 2007: I believe you should have more respect for yourself and for her family. You shouldnt continue this affair because you'll just end up hurting yourself in the long run. I dont think what the both of you have will ever be more than what it already is ... (read in full...)
I work, she parties, I get angry. Am I being selfish?
Q. Am I spending too much time at work? I am being selfish? I've been married for a year. Live together and love my wife. She has many close ties with her friends I work for the military which sometimes requires long hours. After work I get hom...
A. 16 December 2007: It seems to me that the both of you are lacking in your communication and this can lead to some serious problems if it is not handled with care soon. I understand how stressful your job maybe but what the both of you need are some "ALONE TIME"! Pick ... (read in full...)
I like a Canadian girl but I'm afraid she'll reject me because I'm not Canadian.
Q. I want to ask a girl out, but I'm afraid of something. She's popular, not too popular but not a noname. This might seem stupid but, i'm afraid she'll reject me because i'm not Canadian. Shes Canadian, and was born here etc. I was born in Ukraine and ...
A. 16 December 2007: Although i dont know much about her, i dont think it'll be a problem that your not Canadian. Your afraid of her judging you but you are doing what your afraid of her doing. Dont assume anything when its too soon to tell. Have some courage and talk ... (read in full...)
Do some relationships just not work out?
Q. is age relevent, im 20 and i dated a 32 yr old with a child. things were grate when we were together and i never had an issue but whenever i thought of introducing him to my friends i couldnt see him fitting in. is it enough for just the 2 of yo...
A. 14 December 2007: Well, i believe that if the 2 of you really care for eachother than thats all that seems to matter. Most people live their lives by following other peoples standards and all that seems to cause is regret and unhappiness. If you love him and he ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to get him back?
Q. hello,i meet this guy a few weeks ago, and he did all texting so he must have liked me eveything was going really well and i did stay round his house a few times where he wanted to have sex and i said to wait a little longer to i get used to him ...
A. 14 December 2007: Sweetie, im sorry to say but this guy isnt worth the trouble. Obviously your too good for him and all he wants is a girl who is sorta fast i should say. He said " you should find someone on your level", in other words that means you should find ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to meet my family - should I break it off?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 1 and a half years. We are in love but recently he moved to another country for work but then told me that he wants to meet my family and wants to make things work. I know I love him but the thought of taking him ...
A. 14 December 2007: Well he isnt doing anything wrong by wanting to meet your family. That just means that he is certain your the one to committ to. If it is such a bother for you then simply pull him aside and talk things out with him. Let him know that you dont feel ... (read in full...)
My new man is so much better and I have everything I could need or want...but I still can't get my ex out of my head.
Q. hi, please can u help me? I met a man last year and i finished my 3 year relationship with my ex for him. Anyway my new man treats me better than i could ever wish for and he is everything i will ever need in a man and i love him so much. Howeve...
A. 12 December 2007: I dont think its such a good idea to meet up with your ex because it will only cause more confusion into your relationship than there already is. If you meet up with him,as much as you say you'll be faithful, we let our emotions take over and we do ... (read in full...)
We broke up a month ago, but I still really love him. Should I forget he ever existed?
Q. Hi There, My ex dumped me after two years a month ago. He said he just didn't feel the same even though I was due to move in with him (he asked me) and we had been going to family dinners etc, a couple of weeks before he was suggesting routes for ...
A. 12 December 2007: In order for you to cope with this breakup and get use to the fact that it didnt work out is for you to just keep a way for awhile. Its going to take a while because you love him and i know you'll never forget the one person you ever loved, but you ... (read in full...)
I got back together with my ex, but I am not sure that was a good idea. I just don't feel the same anymore!
Q. My partner and I split up in February. We didn't live together or anything but we had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split. Things hadn't been good for around 6 months before the split and I felt we were at different points ...
A. 12 December 2007: I havent been in this situation either but what i do know is that you shouldnt feel obligated to be with someone for the sake of their own feelings. Go with what your heart tells you. IF your not happy anymore, then dont force yourself to feel ... (read in full...)
How do I keep up the conversation without seeming I'm interrogating him? (He's good at asking questions to discover more about the other.)
Q. I recentlly met a guy through evening rugby practices. We haven't been goign out, but we've been conversing a bit. HOWEVER!! When we converse, its always him asking all the questions, which I dont' mind, because he's good at it...and it allo...
A. 12 December 2007: I dont think he'll feel that you are interrogating him because that is how we get to know people. We ask them questions. maybe not all at once because friendships do take time to progress. When you are both together and you are speaking of yourself, ... (read in full...)
Hot to stop the teasing.
Q. What if you are really good friends with the boy you like and he likes you and your whole class knows and some people tease you about it how do you hang out with him with out all the teasing...
A. 12 December 2007: I agree with the response below. People tease others because they are envious of that person. You might have something that they want and they are upset because you got it first. They continue to tease when they see that it gets to you so my advice ... (read in full...)
Do other people go through these kind of feelings getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. This is probably a silly question, but sometimes I feel like I never should have explained to my ex why I couldn't be with him (because he was emotionally abusive) because in a weird way I would be very jealous if I showed him the light, he changed, ...
A. 12 December 2007: Sweetie, you feel that his current girlfriend deserves to be treated the same way you were. It wouldnt make much of a difference if he did. You just feel a little unfortunate because you were treated bad and not someone else. Wishing the same bad ... (read in full...)
I can't make sense of his actions
Q. this is over two almost three years with my bf's roomie. I live five hours away from school. First year he liked me a lot, flirted with me and said he wishes he found me first. I ignore this because I love my bf Year later he gets a gf in the...
A. 12 December 2007: There is a little attraction between you both but i believe that if you continue this " frienship" with the roomie then it will just cause confusion in your current relationship. He is coming in and out of you life and you dont need that situation ... (read in full...)
Why have I fallen in love with someone that scares me so much??
Q. I can't stop feeling so stupid that I gave my ex a second chance. We met two years ago and I had just gotten out of a relationship and so had he. Many times I told him we should just be friends, but he kept insisting and I finally gave in. We wer...
A. 12 December 2007: Love can either make us happy or hurt us when we become blind. People sometimes never take the time to realize how much this person can hurt them. You stayed with him not out of love, but out of fear because of what you thought he was capable of. He ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for her to "find herself" before she is ready to committ? She says she knows I'm the one she is going to marry but needs time!
Q. I met this woman a year ago and she is the most incredible woman I have ever met. From the first moment I saw her she took my breath away and the first time we talked she amazed me. We met under circumstances that can only be explained as fate ...
A. 12 December 2007: Give her the time she has asked for and accept that she needs to figure out all these mixed emotions she is having about starting a new relationship. 8 years is a long time and it seems as if she has built sort of a wall as her guard to block any ... (read in full...)
We maintain an innocent friendship but I reason it can be much more! What to do? We already go out but they're not "officially" dates.
Q. I'm 17. I met this girl 2 years ago, who I've liked for a very long time. We've maintained a pretty close friendship since. We talk to each other almost everyday! When we hang out we talk about personal things. We're relatively shy and we only ...
A. 12 December 2007: Seems to me that there can be more to this relationship than just being friends. Ask her out on a date and see if this can go any further. f the date goes pretty well and she is enjoying herself, ask her out on another date. This is a progress that ... (read in full...)
I don't think my grandmother likes me.
Q. I know this may not sound a big deal, but recently my cousin told me that my gran hasn't liked me for the past few years. However recently was starting to think i was "ok" because my cousin "must have a good influence on me". This has reall...
A. 12 December 2007: Well im not quite sure on how she acts with you that makes you think she doesnt like you but i dont think thats the case. Some people just express their love in different ways. Some people have tough love and it seems like thats what your ... (read in full...)
Please advise , would really appreciate it
Q. I'm ready to be in a relationship. What am i doing wrong which is inhibiting me from being in one ? I'm 18 and live in London with an active social life, going to university and previously went to a mixed school. I think I am quite attrac...
A. 12 December 2007: I dont believe you have bad luck on relationships. I just believe that everyone has their own time for love. Its not your fault that things may not turn out the way you wanted it. It happens to the most of us. ITs as if we have to be let down in ... (read in full...)
We made plans to go out together but I backed out as I didn't know if were going as friends or dating. Starting to have feelings for him, should I tell?
Q. I work with this guy for a little over a month now, and were friends and that's good. But we made plans to got to the movies one night, (i backed out), then we made plans to go out to eat (i also backed out). I don't know if it's because, i don't ...
A. 12 December 2007: You shouldnt back out from what your invited to just because you are afraid of your emotions taking over. This time either invite or accept his invitation to go out to observe the behaviors between the both of you. This is how things begin most of ... (read in full...)
She says she likes me too but her parents don't want her to date until she's 16 and also she says she can't bring herself to trust me. I'm confused, what can I do?
Q. I like a girl a lot, and she likes me too, but her parents don't want her dating until she's 16. I feel for her like I have never felt for anyone else before, but she's new to all of this, and I don't quite understand her problems. She moved here ...
A. 11 December 2007: Have patience with her. Not everyone is easy to have their trust right from the beginning. For some reason, some people barely begin to trust their partners after a year or more into the relationship. Pretty rough huh? All it takes is patience. Dont ... (read in full...)
How do people tend to get boyfriends and girlfriends?
Q. Hey i'm just wondering here how do peole tend to get boyfriends and girlfriends? Like how do they do it and what do they do? I'm just curious...
A. 11 December 2007: I believe that if you really love someone, you never get over them. You simply just put them behind in your mind. It takes a lot of time and patience to leave that person in the past but its all in our head. The more we convince ourselves to move on ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the stupid lies in the past and fully trust him again!!???
Q. I'm having a VERY hard time trusting my boyfriend. Last year around this time, he betrayed my trust and then a few months after that, he did it once again. There was never cheating involved, that I am aware of at least, but I don't believe there ...
A. 11 December 2007: You are speaking of this as if its your fault. You dont have to get over anything. He is the one that has to convince you to trust him again, not the other way around. I understand where your coming from because he is the one that lied to you so ... (read in full...)
What is keeping her distant?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me just over a month ago. she said she wanted to be 'best friends' but it doesn't seem that way at all it seems to me that she doesn't want anything to do with me. it hurts so bad.i don't have a clue whats going on i...
A. 10 December 2007: Seems to me that her ignoring you is just her way of getting over you quicker. Maybe she needs to get over the fact that she may still have feelings for you, therefore she is distant from you so that her feelings wont take over her head. Give her ... (read in full...)
I am not the sociable type and the girl I confessed my love eventually said she needed somebody with "more fun in their lives." Advice, please?
Q. hey everyone, i'm sure you have come across this question many times by now, and i'm sure that some of you could actually help me. I have a problem, a socializing problem, and its getting on my nerves. a lot of close people think i'm boring and t...
A. 9 December 2007: First of all, make sure you want to change for yourself before you think about changing for others to like you. Over coming shyness takes a little practice. People who are shy tend to give themselves fewer chances to practice social behaviors. The ... (read in full...)
He left me and the kids for another woman..will he ever see what a mistake he made?
Q. Just want to know the art of love and seperation. Is there a grieving process for the guy who left the relationship as I know that the one who has been dumped goes through many emotions associated with loss. Do you believe in karma? what goes...
A. 9 December 2007: First off, DO NOT EVER blame yourself for his selfish acts. You didnt do anything to deserve this, nor did anyone that have gone through it. He is an irresponsable coward and he is less than a man. So to anwer your question, yes i do believe in ... (read in full...)
I feel invisible and just don't know how to start talking to women! Advice?
Q. ok so here goes, im a 24 yr old male who since his last gf nearly 4 yrs has not been with a female and i suffer such low confidence that its a vicious circle of telling myself im not good enough and nobody will want me. I feel invisible and just ...
A. 9 December 2007: First of all, you must breakdown that wall that has blocked you from moving on with your life and giving love another try. Just because we have one failure in our lives does not mean it will repeat itself and make a continuity of events. Forget ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about him...should I text him?
Q. i was only been with this guy for 3 weeks then we split up,but i cant stop thinking about him,even tho ive not heard anything from him him since we split i really want to text him,is this a good idea or not?...
A. 9 December 2007: Im not quite sure why the both of you have split up, therefore i cant determine whether it would be a good idea to txt, but just so that the urge and curiosity would stop killing you, send him a little message. A message asking how are things with ... (read in full...)
My ex's mixed signals are driving me insane.
Q. Basically my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. We were together for 2 years and i'd been madly in love with her for a year before we got together, when we finally did everything was amazing and she was in love with me just as much as i was with ...
A. 9 December 2007: My advice to you is that you seem like her toy that she can play with whenever she wants and you welcome her with open arms. You gave her time to think but where are the real answers? To me it seems like the distance is what is causing her ... (read in full...)
Talk more about our problem or not?
Q. Hello, I came from a family where you have to respect someone who respect you. I'm a very nice person and seems like everyone around me in general, just doesn't know me the way I want them to. My boyfriend and I though we had something there for ...
A. 9 December 2007: A person can only do so much that if its not meant to be then its better to leave it in fates hands. If you have been trying for so long to work things out and there are no results then maybe its just not meant to be there. Talk to him and let him ... (read in full...)
I always do what I say I'm not going too.
Q. What is up with my ex? I broke up with him about 2 months ago, and he is back in town. He keeps asking me to go skiing tomorrow and I keep saying that I don't want to and that I don't want to be his friend or get back with him or anything because he ...
A. 9 December 2007: Noone can force you to stop responding to him but yourself. Noone can make you forget someone but yourself so all im saying that this is all on you. You control your life as well as you control your actions. You have to try harder to convince ... (read in full...)
Help! I turn into a bumbling idiot just thinking of him!!
Q. I've been a regular patron of a lounge in my area for about 5 years now. In the past I have casually dated a few men I've met there, however try to keep things just friendly as I don't want my life to play out like a bad season of "Cheers" lol. ...
A. 8 December 2007: Simply be yourself. If you try to hide your usual personality and act different, it will make him feel awkward and maybe not enjoy the night as much. He accepted to go out with you on two occasions so this is a big step. IT means he is feeling ... (read in full...)
Help! I turn into a bumbling idiot just thinking of him!!
Q. I've been a regular patron of a lounge in my area for about 5 years now. In the past I have casually dated a few men I've met there, however try to keep things just friendly as I don't want my life to play out like a bad season of "Cheers" lol. ...
A. 4 December 2007: Well you've known this guy for quite a while so maybe its time that you take it up a step. Your being sort of shy but thats ok. Its normal for us to feel this way when we are companied by a person we are very interested in. You'll never know where ... (read in full...)
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