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writes:My partner and I split up in February. We didn't live together or anything but we had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split. Things hadn't been good for around 6 months before the split and I felt we were at different points in our lives. We got together quite soon after my marriage ended and I'm not sure now whether that was a good thing or not.Anyway, he kept texting me after the split and desperately wanted to give our relationship another go so at the beginning of September we started seeing each other again. BUT:. I know deep down that I wouldn't have contacted him to try again and find myself in this position now because of the contact from him;. Things aren't the same between us as we don't chat the same - I'm just not happy. I'm not really that bothered whether I spend time with him. I'm not physically attracted to him anymore after the time apartHe's 7 years older than me and I think he is happy to 'have someone' rather than no one but I feel too young to feel like this. Will the feelings I need return with time or has this relationship reached the end of the road?Has anyone else been in the same situation?
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 I havent been in this situation either but what i do know is that you shouldnt feel obligated to be with someone for the sake of their own feelings. Go with what your heart tells you. IF your not happy anymore, then dont force yourself to feel something for someone that is impossible to ever feel again. If you've lost that old spark then its just not worth another try. Talk to him and explain to him that there is nothing there anymore as you thought there'd might be so its time to just let it go for good. No matter what his reacctions may be, think of yourself and dont let him manipualte you into giving this relationship another try if there is just no hope. Good luck and follow your heart.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Hi,
I have not been in that situation so all i can offer is my opinion if it will help any.
I say that you should talk with him about how you are feeling tell him its not what you want anymore, & what you once shared together has gone, its no good staying with him for the fun of it as it will only make you more unhappy in the end!
You go and get the life you want & deserve, lifes to short to waste time on things that make you miserable!!
Good luck x take care
Lu x
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