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*br21
writes:So im 21 and since augest i have been having an affair with my 41 year boss (MILF), who's husband happens to be the manager of the place where i work, so technically he is my boss where she is my superior, and they have three kids who enjoy playing with me when they visit work. i have known her for over a decade but really have gottern to know her better over the last 5-6 years and especially the ast 2 years. we used to start of by talking more, and she would sneek me drinks, then one night things happened. eventually we took things further, and now she has said that she loves me, i too feel the same about her. We both care about each other but she is still cool enough to let me date girls my age too. right now we talk on the phone when we can but because of conflicting schedules we have not seen each other in a while, but really miss one another. should i keep this the way it is, keep trying to keep this relationship to see how far it can go, or try a diff. way to end it with out hurting our friendship? i really do like her.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (17 December 2007):
 This IS going to end eventually, and only you can decide how it ends. You know that she will never leave her husband if she has children and her husband is tied up in her livelihood, and this scandal could be a set-back in your career if you continue to pursue it. All of this could blow up in your face. The good thing is that she cares about you, and even if she is in the middle of this affair with you now she also knows it will end. But she probably wants you to be happy in the future. Enlist her help in getting you a job with another company. Get her to give you a sterling reference for your CV. It's time to get out before it ends badly.
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (16 December 2007):
 I believe you should have more respect for yourself and for her family. You shouldnt continue this affair because you'll just end up hurting yourself in the long run. I dont think what the both of you have will ever be more than what it already is so theres no point in waiting around for hope that will just not be there. Im not trying to put you down so much, its just that you should take a minute to think about what your putting yourself in. You are messing around with your boss who has a family and that can lead to some serious problems. You should end this right now, as hard as it may be, and try dating girls who are your age and who can eventually devote themselves to you completely...not just half way. Maybe in time you'll get over this and can maybe give love another try to someone who can appreciate the love that you give and who wont tend to share it or be shared. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): Definitely end this while you still have your dignity of a young man. This woman is using you. You're her "toyboy". Azz on the side if her husband isn't giving it to her. You have put yourself in quite a few perdicaments while sleeping with this woman. She's your superior, her husband is the manager of the store and you also play with her kids...?! OMG! Sounds like Desperate Housewives. He will find out about the affair. Once he does, lets just say you'll be unemployed. It can damage other job opportunities. Young man, end this and move on.
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