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writes:Heya,the thing is that i have been meeting a guy on and off for about two years. He'd be the guy that id always be able to talk to and have a laugh with. We have both had other relationships in this time aswell. There have been a few times when we could have hooked up for a date or a night out but neither of us did anything properly about it and I think we gave each other the impression that we didn't care what happened between us. We were together last saturday night and i really enjoyed myself with him. He told me that i confuse him as i give him mixed signals which i know is true but I think he has been doing the same to me. He said i am gorgeous and a lovely girl and that he really liked me. Then i probably made the mistake of telling him he is only alright as i have been hurt before and dont want to tell guys my feelings if they are just going to hurt me which has been my experience. I do like him but am unsure as to what i want as im not sure id like a relationship but i know id like to keep seeing him. Do you think I should make the first move or wait for him to? Like maybe ask him for a drink or whatever as I think he thinks I dont fancy him after what I said? Im pretty confused as he says he likes me but I dont know if he wants a relationship either. I think there must be something between us if we ended up together the other night and all the other nights aswell. Maybe im wrong. What do you think? Any help would be great guys, thanks a mill xx
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Well sometimes things just dont cut out for us as we want them to. Its just risks we have to take. That was pretty rude what he did so take it as a sign as he just isnt worth it. Move on and dont feel low for anyone that treats you that way. Im sorry it didnt work out well and i hope the right person comes for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help with my problem. Well I did what you said last night as i saw him out. I told him I like him a lot and then he asked me to meet up with him tomorrow. I said yes and then we went our seperate ways. Half an hour later he kissed another girl right in front of me. Today I feel like a right fool!!
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (26 December 2007):
Well i think the only way you will truly know that he is really feeling you is if you spend a lot of time with him and take notice of his behaviors with you. Ask him for a drink like you suggested or maybe grab a bite. It isnt wrong of you to ask him to company you somewhere. If you dont spend time with him, you wont be able to tell if he likes you or not. You'll always have that " What if" thought. IF your scared of being hurt again, take things very slow. Its doesnt matter how long you've known the guy. Take things on a slow paste to get your mind straight from all the doubts that you have. Make the first move because somebody's gotta do it....You be the BIGGER person. Good luck!
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