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writes:I work with this guy for a little over a month now, and were friends and that's good. But we made plans to got to the movies one night, (i backed out), then we made plans to go out to eat (i also backed out). I don't know if it's because, i don't know whether or not if we're going as friends or is it more? Now as i sit and think about it, I'm really starting to have feelings for him, and I don't know what to do. I know he likes me as a friend, but i wonder if i tell him how i feel, maybe he feels the same, I don't know, WHAT DO YOU THINK? Do you think he has feelings for me or do you think were just friends or we're both afraid or what? Any advice???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Why do you keep backing out hunny?? If you like him them surely you should take the oportunity to go out with him whenever you can!!
Seeing as you have only known him for a month then it is probably best just to let things settle before you get too deep into anything. When you really know each other then that is the time to decide whether you really like him and what to do about it.
Meanwhile...Enjoy life!! x x x
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You shouldnt back out from what your invited to just because you are afraid of your emotions taking over. This time either invite or accept his invitation to go out to observe the behaviors between the both of you. This is how things begin most of the time. It starts off as a friendship, and the more the friendship developes, love can begin to start up. Dont get too over your head right now though. It all begins in a matter of time so dont tell him how you feel just yet. Develope a close friendship with him and pay close attention to the tension and behaviors that are between the both you. Then determine if its the right time to express how you feel. Have courage! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Take care that it doesn't become social withdrawal. Pulling away everytime you're in incertitude you risk losing those people before you can even have them in your vicinity. Courage, life can even be rewarding. An evening out would have been a good pretext for a conversation and to observe the enemy's ways." " :-) I'm sure you involuntarily have expectations of every person you meet and every situation, these opportunities are excellent to see how boys of his age and type can act and interact in the new circumstances. Maybe consider inviting him out in your turn too, as if the invoked reason was rather unrealistic he may take it as a form of rejection. You can be friendly and when the foundations of a friendly relationship are laid, who knows what can follow. Let things progress naturally. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): As a general rule, since you don't know where you stand in this, then always expect the minimum, meaning that you guys are going out as friends and nothing more. This doesn't mean that he doesn't like you or that it may not lead to anything more. Cause he may, in fact, like you, but since you don't know, then just go with your expectations at their minimum. Just as a friend. And NO, do not just straight out tell him that you like him. When you first meet someone and not sure where you stand, it is a terrible time to wear your heart on your sleeve. There are much subtler ways to show a guy that you like him which will work 100 times more to your advantage. For instance, flirt with him. Let him catch you looking at him. Smile at him to show him that you like him. Ask lots of questions when he talks. Laugh at him to show that you think he is funny. Just little hints like that, that show him that you like him. But don't just straight out tell him. To him, that might seem a bit pushy and unnatural and it might turn him off or scare him. So just let him know through your body language while staying kind of mysterious. And let him take it from there.And make sure to be confident, FUN, look beautiful, smell really good, have lots to talk about. And if you do go and you see that he pays for you and all that then this outing will have exceeded your expectations and you will see that he did want to take you out on a date. And if it turns out that he really was just wanting to go out as friends, you won't feel like an ass because you weren't expecting anything more anyways.
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