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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 11 March 2009: Janet, I'm sorry but you did say "The Army told me that the call was made from their base and it was "extremely vile""
So you implied that it was a phone call from Iraq, where about in Iraq is he based? And what unit is he with?
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Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 11 March 2009: I'm sorry please ignore my original post I actually think I have got the wrong end of the sick here. But your story doesn't add up, and I think this post is a hoax too.
If this is real you have seen my answer and I'm sorry for doubting you, but... (read in full...)
Confused in Iraq
Q. So, Im a US soldier currently deployed to Iraq for the third time. I met my wife in 2006, shortly after returning from my first deployment. We had a very strong, and wonderful relationship. Right before I left in February of 07 for a second ...
A. 11 March 2009: Good for you, I'm pleased we have amused you if nothing else! I really hope you can get what you both want out of this. Sorry for hijacking your post, but there are so many people giving advise to soldiers who really don't know how the Army work, ... (read in full...)
Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 10 March 2009: Hold on you said the CALL came from his base in Iraq, and now you are saying two guys in suits turned up, can you clarify exactly what happened as I'm confused?... (read in full...)
No period since coming off the pill
Q. Hey i've been on the pill and had unprotected sex with my long term boyfriend. I thought it was a good idea to come off the pill as it was giving me spots and terrible mood swings. Ever since i have come off this pill i haven't had my period. Co...
A. 10 March 2009: You could but it is very unlikely. Best thing to do is go and see your doctor, who could also find a new pill for you which doesn't give you the unwanted side effects.... (read in full...)
He loves my best friend
Q. I'm a 14 year old girl whos in love. at least, i think its love, ive never felt for anyone like i do for him, he doesnt just give me butterflies, he weakens my knees and melts me, he sends shivers up my spines and i actually care for him. enough to ...
A. 10 March 2009: I think "TOMMY" needs professional help!(from a psychiatrist) and what do you mean by "i actually care for him. enough to help him hurt me" why does he need help to hurt you and in what sense?
I'm a little concerned with this post, I'm not sure... (read in full...)
No period since coming off the pill
Q. Hey i've been on the pill and had unprotected sex with my long term boyfriend. I thought it was a good idea to come off the pill as it was giving me spots and terrible mood swings. Ever since i have come off this pill i haven't had my period. Co...
A. 10 March 2009: YES you could be pregnant! The idea is when you stop using one form of birth control you use another! For example stop using the pill start using condoms! Simple really isn't it?... (read in full...)
How do we know when enough is enough?
Q. if two people are in love but cant seem to get they're shit together how do they know enough is enough?...
A. 10 March 2009: I think you know the answer, get on with it, it will only get worse! ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on my teacher - but will not act on it
Q. I have a huge crush on my teacher. It's completely harmless and I would never act on it, but honestly, he is exactly what I think a compatible partner should be. Most guys i meet are superficial, or lack hamor and morals. They are not very smart o...
A. 10 March 2009: I'm pleased your not going to act on it, that shows maturity and respect for him and his job. There are far too many girls with crushes/in love with their teachers, that want to make their feelings clear to them.
This normally results in the Teac... (read in full...)
Semen on fingers - could she get pregnant?
Q. Hi,im 15 and my friend, also 15, is really worried that she is pregnant. Her period hasnt come for 2-3 weeks now. She told me she never has irregular periods, but her mum is never on time. She had been with a guy for a while and she had some sex...
A. 10 March 2009: It's VERY possible that she could get pregnant from this. Get her to do a test, find out where your nearest brook advisory centre is and pay them a visit (http://www.brook.org.uk/content/Default.asp) Also tell her to get checked out for sexually ... (read in full...)
Slept with b/f & friend during ovulation time
Q. I slept with two guys around ovulation time. One is my boyfriend who always ejaculates in me and one was a friend. The friend put in his penis for a minute and didnt cum. Now I'm pregnant and dont know who the father is. I'm leaning towards my ...
A. 10 March 2009: Probably your boyfriend but I advise to have an STI screen soon also.... (read in full...)
Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 10 March 2009: As a Serving soldier myself his behaviour is absolutely despicable! I agree with Star. But also, write to his commanding officer (basically replace your hubbies Number Rank Name on the address that you send him blueys to and write "Commanding ... (read in full...)
Confused in Iraq
Q. So, Im a US soldier currently deployed to Iraq for the third time. I met my wife in 2006, shortly after returning from my first deployment. We had a very strong, and wonderful relationship. Right before I left in February of 07 for a second ...
A. 10 March 2009: Well as jessica04 says in the US Army you have to finish your contract, that would be awful for me as I'm on a 22 year contract meaning I wouldn't be able to leave till I was 40!
And you are right they do own you, and for good reason, could yo... (read in full...)
Bad sexual experience!
Q. i would like to ask my question in another form..iam really having a hard time trying to know what exactly happened with me because i cant figure out . I DONT MEAN FOR VIOLATION. i been watching a movie with friend and i was on the bed ..he came ...
A. 10 March 2009: WTF? So this happened several years ago? Where you drunk on drugs at the time? I think you have some deep seated psychological problems and if you can't remember the whole incident, maybe speaking to a psychiatrist will help you!... (read in full...)
He knows! And now I don't know what to do...
Q. Um... okay. I like this boy (call him Danny), that much is blatantly obvious. His best friend (my best friend's boyfriend) found out and has told him and Danny didn't believe him!! I suggested showing Danny the texts on his phone (but then he got ...
A. 10 March 2009: Talk to him!... (read in full...)
Is it true if you haven't yet started your period you can still get pregnant?
Q. Hello, umm is it true if you haven't started your periods you can still get pregnant? of course you ave to use a condom but I was just wondering if this was true. thankz...
A. 10 March 2009: YES technically you can as your first period is expelling your first unfertilised egg so ignore Nikmvu!
And secondly why the hell are you having sex at 13! You haven't even started your periods and you are having sex, that means your body is nowhe... (read in full...)
My face feels numb when we have sex...what's causing this?
Q. When i have sex with my boyfriend i get a pins and needles sensation in my face. Like its numb. Not everytime. But often. I dont orgasm through sex so what is this? ...
A. 10 March 2009: I really don't think the sciatic nerve would give you facial numbing!
I agree with RCN it's more likely that you are hyperventilating. Speak to your doctor it could be something nasty! ... (read in full...)
My husband is adamant that we will not be having any more kids. I don't understand this! Please help!
Q. Hi. I am happilly married with 2 gorgeous kids (one boy one girl) I am desperate to have another baby but my husband has said that he is done. He has said that it is either our marriage or another baby. I put it to him if i got pregnant - would he ...
A. 10 March 2009: We're in the middle of a world recession and kids are bloody expensive maybe now he has two lovely children you can spend time together bringing them up with out breaking the bank.
More kids means to me: Bigger house, bigger car, more electric... (read in full...)
Confused in Iraq
Q. So, Im a US soldier currently deployed to Iraq for the third time. I met my wife in 2006, shortly after returning from my first deployment. We had a very strong, and wonderful relationship. Right before I left in February of 07 for a second ...
A. 10 March 2009: Just to answer Natasia it really isn't as simple as just telling your Sergeant Major (He's the scary one that shouts a lot), "I don't want to play soldiers any more, can I go home now please!" To leave the British Army you have to give 12 months ... (read in full...)
What should we be talking about, how should we be talking?
Q. My gf(23) split with me(39) a few months ago. Recently we started seeing each other again. We discussed why we split, and the biggest reason see said was that we didnt talk. But we both are not the talking type. We can answer a question with on...
A. 10 March 2009: If you can't find conversation, between you maybe you do not have enough in common to actually be in a relationship. I mean what are you going to do while she is on her period? Not see each other, sit looking at one another in silence?
Serio... (read in full...)
Why does she get dry so fast? She says it hurts too
Q. I can usually get my girlfrien wet and turned on. But when we try and have sex she tells me it hurts because she gets dry so fast? She says that it hurts because it gets to dry while having sex? She also says she has had sex with other people i...
A. 10 March 2009: Are you keeping her turned on? Have you tried using lube?... (read in full...)
I think we have tiny crushes on each other!
Q. Wooooooo! I think i'm majorly crushin' on my Band Teach! That's just akward! And since he's my Arts and Hummaities, Band, Music Theroy, Sunday School Teacher I pretty much see him ALL THE TIME. I don't really know why I sorta like him, though. He's ...
A. 10 March 2009: I think you have posted this once too often now! And you have written an article on the same issue!
Come on it's really getting boring now, you've had so much advise on this issue.
You know it's wrong!
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Why can't men understand how women feel about porn?
Q. Why cant men understand how many women feel about porn? Especially after we marry and have babies.Like it or not guys, we mothers often give up a lot when we marry and have kids, Its pretty heartbreaking when we lose our pre baby bodies and end up ...
A. 10 March 2009: Because women don't understand how men feel about porn!
Men are visually aroused, where as women are mentally aroused so YES by complimenting you they would get more sex, but men have to use their eyes and not their imagination to get turned o... (read in full...)
Bad sexual experience!
Q. i would like to ask my question in another form..iam really having a hard time trying to know what exactly happened with me because i cant figure out . I DONT MEAN FOR VIOLATION. i been watching a movie with friend and i was on the bed ..he came ...
A. 10 March 2009: This is the most unclear post I have read so far on this site. Can you give us some background to this situation?
You chose to be in bed with a naked man with an erection! Surly at that point you could have said something.... (read in full...)
He kissed me when he was "high". What do I do next?
Q. hi so ok this question is kinda complicated Lol I don't even know If it's a question but here goes ok so I'm currently 15 and a sophmore in high school. Idk how to say this Lol but ill try ok so when I was in 3rd grade I kissed a boy for the firs...
A. 10 March 2009: Talk to him when he isn't high.... (read in full...)
He ignores texts!
Q. My so called boyfriend ignores my texts when I ask him something like," You want company this weekend?" or somehing of that sort. he replies back when I ask him how his day went. Also, he is saying things like, the reason he isn't dating me, ...
A. 10 March 2009: I've just seen your age! ha ha, I was about to give the teenage boy talk!... (read in full...)
How can you make a woman feel special and sexy and during foreplay?
Q. How can you make a woman feel really special and make her feel really sexy during foreplay?...
A. 9 March 2009: Tell her what you love about her and why you think she is sexy, and how you love making her happy etc, etc...... (read in full...)
Would you stay with this type of guy?
Q. Hey, I need advice from women. Would you stay with a man who: -Smokes around you even though he knows you can't stand it and you are pregnant and don't want to be around that sort of thing (we've been in his vehicle and he won't even let me role dow...
A. 9 March 2009: I'm no woman but seriously sweetheart He ABUSES CHILDREN isn't that enough, let alone the list of other things you have put here! If any woman says she would stay with this guy, she is either MENTAL or LYING!
I don't mean to be cruel but you can ... (read in full...)
A question to all parents out there!
Q. Parents, Is it a wise choice to stand back and refrain from opinion to your daughter if she decides to be a gold digger instead of looking for love? ...
A. 9 March 2009: Opinion is fine! Just remember she might not appreciate it or follow your advise.... (read in full...)
A question to all parents out there!
Q. Parents, Is it a wise choice to stand back and refrain from opinion to your daughter if she decides to be a gold digger instead of looking for love? ...
A. 9 March 2009: Her choice, her decision, her life, if she is old enough to marry, she's old enough to make her own mistakes, support her and give advise and state your opinion, but you CAN NOT control her choices and if she says ""sorry dad, this is my life" well ... (read in full...)
Should I be looking for love at such a young age?
Q. I was reading that "Life is too short" article, and the bit that said "..relationship without love" hit me quite hard. Me and my girlfriend split a few weeks ago and so many thoughts have been running through my head. At first I was thinking "Right, ...
A. 9 March 2009: You can look for love while dating as many people as you like, killing two birds with one stone!... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but how do tell him he is a player not look like I am the insane one?
Q. *deep breath* Here it goes. I'm kind of embarassed to talk about this because I sound so stupid, but I'm stuck.. that's the best way to describe it. I've known Mn for over 3 years now. My school is Mn's rival school, and vice versa. When we first me...
A. 9 March 2009: Who cares if you look insane? It may scare him off for good! Honestly direct action is the only answer here! ... (read in full...)
How to relax when he is fingering me?
Q. Ok, me and my boyfriend have been talking about him fingering me. I just want to know does it hurt and what should I do to help myself relax when he is doing it? Hope you can help....
A. 9 March 2009: Until you have masturbated yourself and found what you like I suggest you don't let him, as he will have less of a clue how you work than you do at the moment!... (read in full...)
A question to all parents out there!
Q. Parents, Is it a wise choice to stand back and refrain from opinion to your daughter if she decides to be a gold digger instead of looking for love? ...
A. 9 March 2009: Third time you've posted the same question!... (read in full...)
Problems with threadworms!
Q. I know this is mostly for relationship advice but I need some medical advice. I had threadworms as a child which went untreated, I had no problems until I started my period when they reappeared, I was so ashamed I didn't tell anyone, I have had no ...
A. 9 March 2009: Once the parasite is in side you it will continue to reproduce. They will normally go after 2-3 months but you are highly like to get re-infected!
# If you have threadworms, it is important to shower in the morning in order to remove eggs and bact... (read in full...)
Would you say find love first?
Q. Mums, If your daughter has children and is on benefits and is very attractive to men. What would you say to her if she said she will look for a man with a good financial position and chose him over love? obviously both would be ideal! but ...
A. 9 March 2009: As I said to your last post!
IT'S HER CHOICE!!... (read in full...)
DAD's!! Should I tell her to marry for love or just a nice credit card?
Q. Dads, If your daughter has children and is on benefits and is very attractive to men. What would you say to her if she said she will look for a man with a good financial position and chose him over love? obviously both would be ideal!...
A. 9 March 2009: HER CHOICE NOT YOURS!... (read in full...)
14 years old with health issue... any medical advice?
Q. Im a 14 year old girl and all of a sudden my vagina has just swollen up like the lips of the vagina and the hole is stinging loads. i cant hardly see inside of it because of how swollen it is i really dont know what it is, also theres white ...
A. 9 March 2009: TELL YOUR MUM RIGHT NOW! DO NOT WAIT A SECOND LONGER... (read in full...)
I wish my teacher knew I liked him
Q. Ok... so I'm 14 years old (I know, I'm "too young for love, shouldn't be thinking about this kind of stuff", but save it for someone else please!) and I have a hugehugehugehugehugehuge crush on my Civics teacher! I was just assigned to his class in ...
A. 9 March 2009: He would report you because you are a mental little girl and you would be jeopardising his career! he also needs to protect himself for girls like you as it only takes one claim against him and he's in deep trouble. Therefore he reports to his boss, ... (read in full...)
I used to mess around with my male neighbour - does this count as my virginity?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a few things and its making me worry and I feel soo guilty. A couple years back I was getting kinda sexual with my nieghbor friend we didnt have sex or anything. just kinda experimented together. like masturbated together ...
A. 9 March 2009: God will forgive you because he's a forgiving kinda guy! Exploring your sexuality is normal and you are a virgin until a PENIS has been inside you or Your PENIS has been inside someone else.
The Christian faith isn't great on exploring sexualit... (read in full...)
She did stuff with an ex before we were married... how do I cope?
Q. After my wife and I had been married for nine years, she revealed to me that she had done everything but intercourse with her high school boyfriend. I thought that our sexual experience was with just the two of us. I have had a hard time trying to ...
A. 9 March 2009: You love her, get over it!
You are a perfect example why the waiting till marriage doesn't work! because if she had kissed a boy before marriage you'd still get upset where do you draw the line? Really what difference does it make?... (read in full...)
Does he like me? No. 89009987987987
Q. I need an opinion, does he like me… There’s this boy that I like and im not sure if he likes me. I don't want to ask him and i'm way to shy to ask him anyway. I would just like an honest opinion so I know. Here are some of the signs: He stares...
A. 9 March 2009: Yes he probably likes you!
NEXT!!!... (read in full...)
I'm not good at giving bj's!
Q. Okay, so my borfriend and I have been dating almost 4 months now. I really love him, and he really loves me. He wants me to give him blowjobs somtimes. He has a bigger penis (biggest I've had anyway) I'm not very good at giving blowjobs, but the ...
A. 9 March 2009: Just search for the word Blow job, this question is asked so often there are lots of answers out there!... (read in full...)
Birthday present for the guy who's got everything?
Q. Hey, Me and this guy have been seeing each other for just over a month now, hes completely amazing! its his birthday soon and hes (no offence to him if hes reading this) basically got everything! i really don't know what to get him. Any ideas gu...
A. 9 March 2009: Sponsor an animal for a third world farm! Oxfam do a great range of these gifts. That way you can both feel good that you have help someone else and have not been materialistic.... (read in full...)
I wish my teacher knew I liked him
Q. Ok... so I'm 14 years old (I know, I'm "too young for love, shouldn't be thinking about this kind of stuff", but save it for someone else please!) and I have a hugehugehugehugehugehuge crush on my Civics teacher! I was just assigned to his class in ...
A. 9 March 2009: You know all the negatives, so DON'T tell him! Because he will avoid you like a hypodermic syringe full of hepatitis!
And he'll have to tell the Headteacher who will tell your parents.
This has BAD idea written all over it!... (read in full...)
I found spot of blood..did I rip my hymen?
Q. i fingered myself and i saw a tad of blood on my fingers my period is due soon but i dont know weather i have ripped my mymen or its just period blood please answer if you have any ideas. if i have it has fot its ups and downs but......
A. 9 March 2009: You're a teenage girl, so far you have not been in to boys and sex, but you will be and your mum knows this. She was a teenage girl and I bet she masturbated! (I know that's not something you want to hear)
Tell her being open and honest with you... (read in full...)
Confused in Iraq
Q. So, Im a US soldier currently deployed to Iraq for the third time. I met my wife in 2006, shortly after returning from my first deployment. We had a very strong, and wonderful relationship. Right before I left in February of 07 for a second ...
A. 9 March 2009: You are in a tough situation here. Talk to your Chain of command, welfare officer and padre and if all else fails go to your field mental health team (Trust me they can pull all kinds of strings!) There could be a way out of this deployment yet.
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I found spot of blood..did I rip my hymen?
Q. i fingered myself and i saw a tad of blood on my fingers my period is due soon but i dont know weather i have ripped my mymen or its just period blood please answer if you have any ideas. if i have it has fot its ups and downs but......
A. 9 March 2009: As Saturnsdesire says!... (read in full...)
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