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writes:Parents, Is it a wise choice to stand back and refrain from opinion to your daughter if she decides to be a gold digger instead of looking for love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe kind of father I am is one who cares deeply about his girl and wants the best for her like any good person.The problem is that so many parents are telling there daughters that the guy they are with is no good for them because they have no money.Thats the reality. We live in a media fueled image driven society based on consuming and being the best, looking the best.My concern is that I want her to be truly happy and not happy with full filling societies pressures.If you tell someone 'thesedays' not to do something they will try and prove you wrong.So, do I refrain?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I would like to think she will choose true love. But it looks like she'll probably get what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA bird with inadequate wings that uses another bird's wings to fly is taking a great risk.
A bird that decides that anothers wings are unsuitable and ditches them whilst in flight is a dangerous bird!
A bird that uses anothers wings and takes them for granted/abuses them is asking for the wings to be re-possessed at any given time. (Dropped)
A bird that is flying with it's own wings can fly as high as it likes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): How about some respect for herself? Clearly she could do with some of that. Lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Steve don't worry about me! lol I am Mr Kool and she has all the slack. Its her legs that carry her and her head they have to support. Anyway, I'm not the shotgun type. (",)ps, Its all good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat is exactly what I did say dear. But, it looks like, however, that is the job she might choose as there are not that many jobs about at the moment. She's been offered 25 - 30k jobs and she wouldn't be any better off than she is now really. who would she get respect from if she took the job. Friends GovernmentPeople she don't knowIts a joke!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Ok, why don't you tell your daughter to get off her backside and get a job if she is unhappy with her financial situation? She wouldn't be the first woman with children to do it. A lot of women manage perfectly well working a part time job alongside bringing up children. And it would earn her more respect than tax payers money being wasted on her benefits while she searches for a rich man to look after her lazy ass.
Just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response and it has been noted and I can appreciate it has truth. But, nevertheless, That is not the situation here. The person in question had both parents all her life and has never been spoiled as a child with gifts.
It simply is that she was spoiled in her last relationship and has been accustomed to wealth.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Why is she putting money (and all the things it can buy) before love?
Peer pressure?
Financial hardship in life?
Disillusioned by past love/relationship?
Or something else?
Don't many parents say what they think about their single children, regardless?
I think it is not what they (parents) say, but how they say it, Most importantly though, how good/bad the parents-children relationship or communication channel is.
Asking for your daughter's reasons to chose one option over the other might work too, to understand her. But ultimately, it is her life. And as a mother, who in theory has unconditional love for your daughter, would you be there to hug her and love her if things did not work out for her? (whether she chose money or love)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Opinion is fine! Just remember she might not appreciate it or follow your advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, your saying that it is not a wise choice to stand back and refrain from opinion. Thanks for your reply.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (9 March 2009):
Her choice, her decision, her life, if she is old enough to marry, she's old enough to make her own mistakes, support her and give advise and state your opinion, but you CAN NOT control her choices and if she says ""sorry dad, this is my life" well it's one of those things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWho's choice was it! and who's decision was it?
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (9 March 2009):
Third time you've posted the same question!
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