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I am a high school teacher in the UK so come accross problems every day and feel that often an honest answer is the best. I wont sugar coat things and tell you what you want to hear, I'll give you a frank and honest answer to your problems.
I've been in relationships from a young age and have dated many types of men so I can help men and women with relationship advice.
As I'm a teacher I'm aware of child protection issues and many laws of the UK regarding young people. I'm happy to answer any teens problems!
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Friend starting to get a little more friendly with my backside
Q. Theres a guy at school who I am crazy about and me and him have always acted more than friends around eachother. We always flirt, hug and text eachother etc. We've been like this for a little while now but recently we've become so much closer. He is ...
A. 10 October 2010: Do you like him in a boyfriend way? If you do then give him a cheeky smile and let him know how you feel. If not, give him a dirty look, but smile and say 'eh, get off pervert' and laugh - he'll get the message.... (read in full...)
We're getting close but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. hi m 16yre old gal.i have been chatting this boy for 2 years.we have got many chances to see each other..but due to some problems everytime we havent met each other, until i met him lastnight(09-10-10).i wasn't suppose to get close to him..but ...
A. 10 October 2010: Back away now. Boys with girlfriends are bad news - he's a cheater. If he broke up with her and got with you what would stop him cheating on you? Don't do the dirty on your fellow women - men are perfectly capable of doing that on their own. ... (read in full...)
How can I change our sex only relationship into something more?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got talking to a guy at a bar (foolish place to meet someone I know). One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Since then he has added me on facebook and texted me a few times. We have seen each other on nights ...
A. 10 October 2010: Right, first things first, you CAN meet someone in a club or bar. I met my current partner in a club as a 'one night stand' - five years later he's still here. Now the reason he's still here is because he took the initiative and asked me if I ... (read in full...)
How can I get my mum to want to talk to my boyfriend?
Q. hey guys i dont know how good you guys are at thinking but i need some ideas and fast ... the thing is that me and my boyfriend have been going out for three months now and my mum still doesnt want to meet him and she wont let him in the house...
A. 29 March 2010: Maybe your mum is struggling to come to terms with the fact that you are growing up. Instead of getting him to come round to your house to meet him maybe get her to meet him 'by accident' - see if you can figure out some way of bumping into him ... (read in full...)
Can people change?
Q. My husband had a 3 year affair with his niece who was 15 when it started. He was 30. He says she initiated it and that he was to far in to get out, he said she threatened him with suicide if he left her. He was raped by family members as a young ...
A. 29 March 2010: 15 and 30?! In the UK this is sex with a minor and would result in the older one being put on the sex offenders register. I think your partner has some issues that need addressing through professional help. I am assuming he has spoken to a ... (read in full...)
Torn...do I take her back?
Q. I have broken up with my gf of nearly a year and a half recently. I'm really struggling to cope even thought I finished with her. I felt stuck in a rut and didnt know what else to do. She was always angry and moody with me and i felt so tense when i ...
A. 29 March 2010: Nope - people don't change. It's too easy to remember the good times from past relationships, it ended for a reason now stick to your decision.
Find someone who is fun and good to be around and shares your passions.
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Secret affair with a married straight man
Q. Hey I've known this str8 dude for 10 years now. As kid we've done things together. Sexually and even as adults. There's been a few time I had pay him but it still happened. Now he knows I love him and I know he uses that to his advantage. He has an ...
A. 29 March 2010: Basically you've paid for him to suck your penis?! He's evidently bi-curious and maybe a bit confused about his feelings. What's he getting out of this arrangement other than cash? Like others have said, stop the cash and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me, he teases me so much, please help!?
Q. He is really lovely, and he teases me about random things like my shoes, teasing me about the state of them when they were falling apart on several occasions, then when I wore decent ones for the first time he was like 'oh glad to know you're ...
A. 25 March 2010: Of course you can call it flirting! If he wasn't interested he wouldn't bother talking to you at all, he'd just ignore you. Do you like him? Maybe just keep the conversation going a bit more next time and see where it leads to. If you like being ... (read in full...)
Why do I need to shave everyday, and what can I do to stop this?
Q. hi. i have a bit of a problem, and i dont know if this is normal or not. when i shave my legs, armpits, or anyother part of my body it grows back within the next day, so i have to shave everyday and its really winding me up. the thing i dont get...
A. 25 March 2010: You can't generalise so much! Loads of girls are hairy, I shave under my arms every day and have to get my tash done nearly every two weeks when waxing should last for at least 3/4 and I know loads of my friends are the same.
Laser hair rem... (read in full...)
How can I make up for cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. right i have a boyfriend who i have been with for over 10 months. i cheated on him just before christmas. he knows about this and i was completley honest but feel like i need to make it up to him, how do i do this?...
A. 25 March 2010: You stay faithful now. A relationship will just get back to normal if it's meant to be. If he chose to forgive you then just accept that he's put it behind him and has chosen to live with it, so just be the best girlfriend you can be - don't be ... (read in full...)
Her protective mother made up break up. Should I have gone along with this?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I never physically met. We was going to meet but something always got in the way. Her mum is very protective of her because she got raped in the past and that's why we haven't met. Her mum says she ...
A. 25 March 2010: You've never met this girl? Have you talked over web-cam? If you didn't and it's all based on chat and you've never seen her she may be much younger than she is pretending to be and scared to meet you, or just plain leading you on. Stick to ... (read in full...)
We broke up because I had depression and he cheated, we still have sex, should we get back together?
Q. Hii.. Mmm.. The name is Daisy and nearly seventeen. Me and my boyfriend had been going out for 2 years, we've been having intercourse for one year. we broke up due to me getting depression and i needed time alone and he cheated on me - but...
A. 17 January 2010: As much as you don't think it does sex blurs the issue. I have done exactly what you're doing twice before. One boyfriend dumped me but I kept having sex with him - he never got back with me, I just found out he was sleeping with someone else too ... (read in full...)
How do you truly know when you're over someone?
Q. Recently i think i got over my ex because i've stopped crying over him and the wishful thinkin about us bein together but i dont know if i really am or is it a sub-consious front. I got over him but picturing him with my best friend, because i heard ...
A. 17 January 2010: The most honest thing I can tell you is you wont fully have gotten over him until you meet someone else. At least from my experience I have never felt completely 'over' someone until at least a month into seeing someone else. But don't worry - ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I love my teacher (not IN love)
Q. Ok, so I've been doing as much research as possible over the internet on this topic but none of the cases I found were quite the same as mine, and after months of searching for advice online and finding nothing, I've decided to post my question on ...
A. 17 January 2010: Right my darling. I've read this long and hard and thought a lot about how best to help you.
I'm a teacher myself and love my job so much. I would be flattered if one of my students felt as much admiration for me as you clearly do for this tea... (read in full...)
I want to give my new boyfriend head...
Q. so i want to give my new boyfriend head. we`ve been together 3 months and we have started to get sexual. ive done it before to my ex and the ex before that and they always said it was really good. but the problem is... they were both ...
A. 17 January 2010: One of the best things you can do is wrap your hand around as far as it will go and twist it round whilst moving up and down, only using your mouth on the top, most sensitive part. If you want to try taking it all in your mouth be careful of lock ... (read in full...)
Stay with boyfriend or go to far away college--which do I do?
Q. Hello. I have big ambitions to become a vet and i have the qualifications to go to university and do what i want. I also have a boyfriend with whom i've been with since i was just 13. So we are extremely close. The problem is the uni i want to go to ...
A. 14 December 2009: I was in exactly the same situation six years ago and decided to go to uni, and it was the best decision I ever made. I thought my relationship was unbreakable but it turned out we wanted different things from life. I didn't want to go back to my ... (read in full...)
Things are tearing us apart, how do I fix them?
Q. ive been with this girl for 8 months now, at first it was great...but things in her family and things that happened between us are commanly beign brought up now and it is tearing us apart and i dont want to break up with her, i love her... how could ...
A. 14 December 2009: Be there when she needs to talk, listen when she's talking, don't say you understand or partonise her, just let her talk things through and give her loads of cuddles! Don't be too clingy and bother her all the time, if she's having a rough time of ... (read in full...)
When you are friends with your ex, what is the best way to act to get him to show even more interest?
Q. Well I have a very simple question and I hope I can get as many replies as possible ... males and females pleasssseee ... so here's my question when your friends with your ex and he is giving you mixed signals what is the best way to act to get him ...
A. 14 December 2009: I'm wondering why he is your ex - did you end it with him or the other way round? Best way to get his attention is to smile a lot, look like you're having a great time, and wear clothes that will attract his attention - but don't dress like a slut ... (read in full...)
Masturbation concerns.
Q. I've recently realised that when my penis is erect, it bends slightly to the right, it only bends slightly and i've assumed that it's been caused by masturbation. Is this normal?...
A. 23 September 2009: Can't say anything no one else hasn't said, you're perfectly normal - girls wont even notice! x x x... (read in full...)
She had conditions before she'll give me a bj
Q. hi my girlfriend doesn't give me a blow job if i ask her she tells me first you lick my pussy and anal and suck my breast then i will do for you but i feel awkward to do to her . i really care about her . is it okay to do things what she asked ....
A. 23 September 2009: Your last message is deeply disturbing.... (read in full...)
Will my breasts be a turn-off for all men or is it just bad luck that I'm with a guy who doesn't like them!
Q. I had previously asked a question regarding the fact that my breasts have started sagging as a result of weight loss and my boyfriend hates them and wants me to have surgery. I want to know if d cup but saggy breasts will be a turn off for all men ...
A. 23 September 2009: Sweetheart unfortunately men in the UK see Nuts magazine every day and see images of 'perfect' breasts. Most women have something wrong with their breasts that makes them uncomfortable and I'm certain you wont think that his penis is the most ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend teases me about how small my penis is!
Q. my penis doenst erect properly it is only 4 inches while erecting my gf makes fun that it is very small in parties i cant speak out all make fun of me please give suggestion one of her friends told me why dont you use Viagra i am helpless ...
A. 23 September 2009: Nothing you can do to increase size, it's all time and money wasting crap. Ditch the girl and get someone who respects you and your body.... (read in full...)
I don't understand what she meant!
Q. i have been friends with a girl for quite some time and hoping to get serious. I asked her as a joke how come you don't have a boyfriend and she replies i don't know you well enough to answer that. how am i supposed to understand this?...
A. 23 September 2009: She's being mysterious or she has serious issues. I know a lot of women who absolutely hate being asked this question because there is no reply to it other than 'because no body wants me... why are you single?!'. My main piece of advice is not to ... (read in full...)
First time sex worries!
Q. I just had sex for the first time and we used a condom, but it slipped for a second and we both decided to put it back on the right way of course, he didnt ejaculate and we didnt do much intercourse action, but i was just wondering about it and ...
A. 23 September 2009: It's great to hear you used precautions! Even if a man didn't ejaculate fully they do produce a pre-ejaculation sperm that can be just as powerful as normal sperm but unless the condom slipped fully off you shouldn't be at risk. A pregnancy test ... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance?
Q. I recently ran into a guy that a year ago I had a relationship with for about 6 months and I thought we could become more. We spent 4 days out of 7 together usually on a weekly basis and he called me everyday. He was married for 6 years and just ...
A. 23 September 2009: This guy sounds like he has a lot of issues. Getting out of a divorce he probably naturally wanted to play the field but lying to you and deceiving you is wrong, no matter which way you look at it. He says he was 'relieved' when you and the other ... (read in full...)
She had conditions before she'll give me a bj
Q. hi my girlfriend doesn't give me a blow job if i ask her she tells me first you lick my pussy and anal and suck my breast then i will do for you but i feel awkward to do to her . i really care about her . is it okay to do things what she asked ....
A. 23 September 2009: It is fine to return the favour with oral sex, in fact this would be the polite thing to do. Don't ask her to do something you yourself wouldn't be prepared to do. In todays modern era equality is key. Please each other and don't just work on one ... (read in full...)
Should I break my friendship or break my lover's heart?
Q. My best friends brother has fallen in love with me and he told my best friend and she is pissed and never wants to talk to me again....what am i supposed to do; break my friendship or break my lovers heart....i'm so confused.......
A. 19 August 2009: She's pissed off because it's her brother and it's difficult to think about you two having something between you. You said that he likes you - do you like him?! If you do really like him your friend will come to terms with it if she's a true ... (read in full...)
Can my virginity affect my growth?
Q. hi, I am 22 and I am a virgin. I am slim, I want to ask can my virginity affect my growth? because people say that if u are a virgin that u will not be fully developed. ...
A. 19 August 2009: Hell no! Everyone grows at different rates and it has nothing to do with your sexuality or sexual experiences. Stick to your guns sweetheart! Good on you for not doing things you don't want to do.... (read in full...)
I still love my boyfriend but this relationship just isnt working anymore!
Q. i dont even know how to start this, I will try my best to keep it short telling you my problems it might be a little confusing as i am telling 5 years of built up frustration in a couple of paragraphs, but here goes. Ok well i have been in a ...
A. 19 August 2009: You haven't written one positive thing in that question so I think you've answered your own question sweetheart. You sound miserable and confined within a claustrophobic relationship. He tells you you're a shit person?! You are well within your ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a man has had sex already?
Q. how do you know if a man had sex already? would it take time for them to ejaculate? and if they havent had sex in a while would they ejaculate quicker?...
A. 19 August 2009: Is there a reason you're asking this?! Every guy is different, some can get an erection straight after sex, some can't for hours, some can only orgasm once a day and some can do it twice an hour! However, most guys, if left for a long time and ... (read in full...)
Any warnings or tips about oral sex?
Q. my girlfriend of 3 months recently indicated she would like to move on and have oral in a few days, i was wondering if there are any warnings or tips? thanks...
A. 19 August 2009: I'm assuming this is for you? Either way both make sure you're clean - have a shower or bath just before as oral can be very unpleasant if either of you aren't fresh!
It sounds like you're both willing to talk about things so the most importan... (read in full...)
Holiday romance and the boy back at home.....what do I do now?
Q. im 13 and have just got back from holiday .. on holiday i met this guy ..he didnt really seem my type at first but then we got talking and i realised he was so nice we spent i spent the whole holiday with him from 12 in the afternoon till 1...
A. 19 August 2009: Reading your problem made me feel like I was reading my diary a few years ago. Holiday romances are lovely and I'm so proud of you that you didn't make a move. You've acted very sensibly as if you had made a move on your holiday romance would you ... (read in full...)
I won't swallow, so now he doesn't want oral, is this really a big thing for guys?
Q. I am deeply in love with my man, was giving him head until a week ago when he suddenly said you don't have to. I asked him what that meant, he said it is because I won't swallow, Is this a really a deciding factor for men, He loves the way I give ...
A. 19 August 2009: Do it in the shower! That way when he does come you just keep your head in the stream of water and spit with your head down and he'll never know whether you're spitting or swallowing. Also maybe save oral sex as a special treat, give him chance to ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and pregnant! please help me!
Q. Hi. I am Samantha and im in a terrible situation.... I think I'm pregnant. I'm only 13. I have missed my period for about 2 months, and i am really scared. There are 2 possible fathers to this baby... I have not told either of them... What should I ...
A. 19 August 2009: There are a million things you have done wrong that I could lecture you about but that's too late now so I'm going to help you think about your next step.
Step 1: Check you're pregnant, 13 year old girls have very irregular periods. Go to your ... (read in full...)
Seeing each other too much?
Q. I see my girlfriend almost everyday or every other day as she only lives a few roads away. We love seeing each other but im a little worried were seeing each other too much and that we're getting a bit bored. Is it possible that we're seeing eac...
A. 19 August 2009: Yes this is possible. If you saw a friend every day would you get bored too? What you need to think about is whether this is a serious relationship - are you heading to Uni or drifting apart? If you're bored and want to be together then think of ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my trust issues and start believing there really are nice guys out there?
Q. Hi aunts / uncles. i have trust issues when it comes to relationship and i always second guess myself and the other person. i got bullied when i was younger so i know thats why i dont think a guy will find me attractive and had a few partners who...
A. 19 August 2009: At our age (I'm 23 myself) there is often a large gap between maturity of men and women. 20 year old lads can be willing to settle down and stay in a relationship if they find the right person, but then again some are out for all they can get. ... (read in full...)
My partner keeps having sex with me in my sleep, even if we have had sex before sleeping!
Q. my partner and i have a very active sex life, we have been together 14 years, we still have sex 3-4 times a week, however he goes through phases, of having sex whilst im sleepin, my partner is quite a dominate man, and ive let him be, when i start ...
A. 19 August 2009: This is a serious problem. What he is doing constitutes rape. It sounds like he's controlling you too much. You say when you get 'independent' he starts doing it again; what do you mean by this? By him doing this is he stopping you being ... (read in full...)
Is he a controlling boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, we've been together before but split up for about half a year before getting back together. Lately, I've noticed a lot of things in him that i see in my parents relationship. My mum is very ...
A. 21 May 2009: Sounds like you have some amazing dreams and this guy just doesn't feature in them, and that is your choice. University will change you both. You will make so many new friends who will change who you are as a person (and often in a good way). You ... (read in full...)
How do I heal from a long term traumatic relationship?
Q. How do I heal from a long term traumatic relationship? I just disovered he was always half a person, lieing to me, deceiving me, for 4 years; I left him once but he came back begging an I took him back; he has been sexually abused as a chil...
A. 14 May 2009: This is a harrowing story and I don't feel that anyone on this site has the professional qualifications to be able to help you. Please ring the Samaritans 08457 90 90 90. They have a caring and non-judgemental service and will be able to help you.... (read in full...)
I want to have lots of sex and willing to cheat for it
Q. I'm tempted to cheat on my husband, we've been married for less than a year. While dating we had great sex but now he's not into sex like before and I'm horny all the time. I met a guy and we've talking about sex a lot, he wants me to meet him at a ...
A. 14 May 2009: I'm very traditional and believe that if you're having these feelings then you don't love your husband. If you did you'd be able to talk to him and work through relationship problems. You need to make a decision to save your marriage and work on ... (read in full...)
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