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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 5 April 2009: Sorry my research wasn't very helpful, but to be fair I just typed apprenticeships in to Google. Did you bother to look into anything else?... (read in full...)
I don't think my parents will want me to marry till I'm 24 but what if I lose him?
Q. Hi im a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at ho...
A. 4 April 2009: OK if honesty doesn't work, it's time for good old Dishonesty!
You are off to Uni soon so they won't see you texting all the time and spending time with him. When you are at home don't text in their presence. Keep it all low key for now. This is ... (read in full...)
I don't think my parents will want me to marry till I'm 24 but what if I lose him?
Q. Hi im a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at ho...
A. 4 April 2009: It sounds like your parents are actually very understanding, tell them you have a boyfriend, even introduce him to them. I'm sure they would love to meet him.
Just because you are in a relationship now doesn't mean you have to get married ... (read in full...)
How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 4 April 2009: I just put apprenticeship into Google and came up with this: http://www.apprenticeships.org.uk/
Dude you really need to start using your head it's really not that difficult, if you can ask a question on DearCupid you can type a phrase into goo... (read in full...)
I cant drive...does this make me a loser?
Q. Hi,i just need some honest advice. Im 26 year old female and i dont drive. I did lessons a few years ago but just couldn't get my head round them so i quit. Also i suffer with anxiety -on and off and for the past few years i've been on antidepr...
A. 4 April 2009: It doesn't make you less of a person and if you live somewhere with a decent transport system, I doubt it will even effect your life that much.
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How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 4 April 2009: Apply for everything, go to the job centre, join the Army (Very last resort)... (read in full...)
Does he want to break up with me but doesn't know how?
Q. ok...so im 17 about to turn 18 and i have been seeing this same guy on and off for two years. the thing is we have never met. i met him in a chat room and we instantly hit it off. we haven't broken up in over a year so im thinking things are goin...
A. 4 April 2009: Maybe his computer has died? Do you ever call or text each other? or is it a purely online relationship?
Most guys don't see "online relationships" as serious, he has probably found a real girl, that he can hold and kiss, who likes him for him ... (read in full...)
What would YOU do here? My friend is playing mind games with me
Q. What would YOU do here? My friend is playing mind games with me and a guy I really like, and I don't know what I should do in this situation? I am in love with a male pal for the past 1-2 years and he knows this since I had told him at Chri...
A. 4 April 2009: What the hell is IYKWIM? and are you really 26-29?
Oh and as for advise stop being such a busy body, he likes her not you so don't warn them off each other and let them get on with their lives.... (read in full...)
Out of town students put down my home town
Q. i am 20 years old,i was put to this very prestigious school where everywhere comes from a different city and i was the only local,and since its a small town the students used to put this city down and i wasn't ready to accept that i am from here and ...
A. 4 April 2009: Again a poster asking for advice but telling us not to write the best answer!
If you don't want the truth don't ask the question! ... (read in full...)
Slept with mate's boyfriend and then HIS best mate... can I have either?
Q. OK, this is quite a long story, but around 3 months ago I started sleeping with my mates boyfriend. Yes, I know this is wrong but I craved the attention I got from him. Obviously, my mate (and none of our mutual friends know about it). However, ...
A. 4 April 2009: I don't think there is any chance he will be serious with you. Guys do not like slutty girls except to use them for sex, he will have no respect for you and will not will not want to date a serial cheater!
You need to take a good look at your per... (read in full...)
Does seeing my friends bother my boyfriend?
Q. Is my enthusiasm for seeing my friends bothering my boyfriend? When we plan to spend time with our friends..separately I say things we're doing blah, blah and add an exclamation point! But that's just who I am..a positive gal! And he knows thi...
A. 4 April 2009: "OK that sounds good" means exactly that!
Are you really that "Positive" as thinking about changing your whole life style due to an off hand comment sounds a little insecure to me.
I know you won't like to hear this but when you hang out wit... (read in full...)
I am liberally sexual and want to experiment, does that make me gay?
Q. I want to have a full sexual contact threesome with a man woman couple and I want to experience everything there is to do does that make me gay?...
A. 4 April 2009: No not gay, just experimental, you don't need labels to tag to your sexuality, as soon as you do that people try finding cures for it.
Forget labels and have fun! Just do it safely.... (read in full...)
I have huge gigantic crush on my 30yr old teacher
Q. I'm in 6th grade and I have huge gigantic crush on my 30yr old teacher. I'm actually not sure if it's a crush, maybe it's just a huge admiration. Whatever it is, it's kind of annoying. I love this man so much. Too much. He is such a sweet wonderful ...
A. 4 April 2009: I think you have a very mature view on this and too many young girls here on dearcupid don't recognise a crush when it happens and want to do something about it.
I agree with satindesire, talking about it may help. But it maybe one of those th... (read in full...)
I'm loose. Will my future husband be put off by this?
Q. Dear Angony Aunt, I am a 17 year-old high school senior. Last summer I lost my technical virginity. Since then I have had sex with six guys.I start college in the fall and I expect to bed a different guy every Friday and Saturday night.Do you thi...
A. 4 April 2009: Never mind what your future husband thinks! You really need to take a look at yourself, I think you have some massive self-confidence issues and are going to end up with some very nasty STIs or worse still a Baby!
And as for the male view on this:... (read in full...)
He wont come back to me
Q. My bofriend and I had been together for 2 and a half yrs. 3weeks ago he left I am in love with him but I now question how he felt and it is killing me I have ask him to come home a number of times and he want. He just says once he has had it he is ...
A. 4 April 2009: If he says it's over for good even after you talking to him and trying to fix things then maybe you should give him some space, or even move on.
The last thing that will make him want you back is if you are being needy and begging for him to come ... (read in full...)
Do women brag about their sexual experiences too?
Q. Do women brag about their sexual experiences the same way guys do?...
A. 3 April 2009: Not in the same way or to the same extent.... (read in full...)
She doent want to post our pics
Q. what kind of relationship do we have if we have sex go on dates but she dont want our pics on myspace?...
A. 3 April 2009: Look at the title of that web site "myspace" not ourspace!
What you should be asking is "What kind of relationship do we have when I over analyse silly things?"... (read in full...)
Love with a professor. What should I do??
Q. Im an college student and have been attending college for about 2 years now. This semester is the 1st time i actually attented full time and made alot of friends and met a lot of people. The question i wanted to ask is: Theres this professor i...
A. 3 April 2009: To be honest, being a teacher she is probably quite clever and mature, and by the way you have written this I guess she thinks you look nice and deep down she is wishing you were a little bit more grown up and clever.
Ditch your stupid friend a... (read in full...)
Could going on birth control make her depressed for a week?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Everything was wonderful up until about a week ago. She stopped texting me and whenever I see her she seems unhappy at the fact that I'm around and she doesn't show any affection to me at all. But ...
A. 3 April 2009: Look up the ingredients and side effects of her pill, I'm sure you can google it!
I think that as she has just started this pill, the side effects will be similar to the nastiest PMT you will ever experience!
Give her time and space to get use... (read in full...)
I have razor rash! How can I avoid this when shaving?
Q. i shave my public hair and now i have gt little red dotes all over .. lots . wtf !! i cant shave now cause it iwll get worse and they will get caught in the razor and i dont think they will go away !! help !! is this common ????? what can i do ??...
A. 3 April 2009: It's normal and will pass with time. Make sure you shave with a clean razor, hot water and a shaving lotion for sensitive skin. Pat dry, and make sure you keep the area clean.
For the spots you have now, wash and dry as normal and you can appl... (read in full...)
Slept with my teacher and his gf found out
Q. i really need some advice. first off i'm 16, almost 17 and im in my last year at high school. im really sporty and a few months ago i started getting friendlier with my male teacher. we always have a joke and a laugh and he pays me alot of attentio...
A. 3 April 2009: He's in massive breach of trust and if he has done this to you he will do it again. This man should not be a teacher!
Tell the head teacher, and your parents! This should never have happened! It is not your fault he should have known better t... (read in full...)
How do I interpret her flirting on the phone?
Q. Whenever she speaks to me on phone she keeeps on laughing and shows much interest in me as if she is responding me, but when I flirt her with soft love quotes she says plz dont misunderstand me what does it mean how do I make move to have her and ...
A. 3 April 2009: If she tells you not to take her the wrong way when you make advances, it normally means she DOESN'T want a relationship with you!
It sounds like she sees you as a freind so don't spoil that by coming on to her.... (read in full...)
Gangbang..who is the daddy?
Q. I am 24 and married fo 2 years. Recently (the last 8 months or so)my gusband and I started swinging with his step bother and wife.We have also has a group ogy involving 5 other men (all unprotected). I just found out Im pregnant and I hvae no idea ...
A. 2 April 2009: Yesterday was April fools day! (you are taking the proverbial aren't you?)
I'm sure your hubby will have doubts to paternity as I assume he was at this unprotected orgy!... (read in full...)
Am I fat?
Q. hi i just wanted to know , im 5"4 tall and i weigh 165 pounds !! am i fat ?!!!!!!!...
A. 1 April 2009: what does your doctor say? If you haven't asked your doc then I suggest you do. There are too many factors that affect the fact that you are fat or not for us to make any kind of comment here.
Speak to your doctor eat healthily and take plenty o... (read in full...)
Could I still have sex if on my period? And what could happen to me?
Q. well my boyfriends birthday is coming up and his gift i want it to be a night alone. and well been a night alone with your boyfriend things might happedn. the thing is that for that day i might be on the last days of my period. or maybe even a day ...
A. 1 April 2009: This is going to be a little graphic: You could have sex with him, although it could get messy and smelly, I suggest if you are going to have sex while you are "on" do it in the shower and definatly use condoms.
It sounds like you guys aren't v... (read in full...)
How do you know if they really like you, or just want to sleep with you?
Q. How do you know if a guy really likes you, or just wants some action? I refuse to be used. I need some advice, preferrably from males. Do you act a certain way, what goes on in your mind? Any signs to look out for.. Ladies, any past experi...
A. 1 April 2009: Make them wait! Any guy who actually likes you will wait until you are ready, the sooner a girl "puts out" the less respect we( guys) have.
I have been in a situation where I liked a girl for a long time and eventually asked her out and we slept... (read in full...)
Should I go see a doctor about this itchniness?
Q. I lost my virginity just over a month ago and we never used protection. I know it was a stupid mistake. I have had my period but i have had excess of clear fluid and it can be itchy at times. Is this normal or should I go and see a doctor? ...
A. 1 April 2009: Go and see your doctor, having unprotected sex is a very dangerous pass time, my advise is the only time not to use condoms is when you are in a loving relationship and you have both been screened for STIs.... (read in full...)
Help! I'm in love with my teacher! Please don't try to talk me out of telling him
Q. Hi everyone! I'm fourteen years old and in eighth grade and I am totally in love with my math/advisory teacher (At my school, advisory is a class you go to for fifteen minutes at the beginning of the day and do activities and stuff). I've had a crus...
A. 1 April 2009: You want to tell him then go for it... However he will go to his head of department, your parents will be informed and you will be taken out of his class.
Or he will take your advances, use you for sex get caught loose his job and go to prison! ... (read in full...)
Why am I always being dumped?
Q. Why are the girls in my relationships the ones who finish it? And why so early in to it?...
A. 1 April 2009: I'm going to be a tad harsh here, but I think the OCD and the fact you have trouble comunicating may put girls off. Are you actually diagnosed as having true OCD? And are you getting specialist help?... (read in full...)
Why am I always being dumped?
Q. Why are the girls in my relationships the ones who finish it? And why so early in to it?...
A. 31 March 2009: You've not given us much to work on here. What did they say when they dump you? Did they give any reasons? ... (read in full...)
Fantasies about my teacher in church!
Q. I have fanices about my teacher and me doing things........ IN CHURCH!!! My teacher goes to my church and he bent over and this thought went thru my mind! Here it is (I wanna play piano and he plays it.) I was at his house and he was ...
A. 31 March 2009: I think you have a crush don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
Student/teacher porn
Q. Hey, I'd like some advice especially from you guys out there about my boyfriend. We've been together 6 years, he's a teacher. Recently, I found he'd downloaded loads of student-teacher style porn films from the internet. Some of them involve the ...
A. 31 March 2009: This is a really tough question to answer, porn is porn and normally just a harmless fantasy. However as he is in a position of trust (I'm guessing he has teenage students) it makes the situation a little more difficult to deal with.
I think yo... (read in full...)
Will this stop her from being pregnant?
Q. We have had lots of problems, all of them stopped =]. Last night we had sex for our first time and we were drunk, i came in her but she is on birth control, will this stop her from being pregnant? She had just got off her period the day before and ...
A. 29 March 2009: You've had some good advise here so all I'll add is in future use a condom too!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't touch me
Q. my boyfriend dont like to be touched. what do i do? he dosnt even like to talk to me i been asking questions then talking. he makes noises when i talk or touch him. what do i do?...
A. 29 March 2009: Time to find a new guy! If this chap is not responding to you, I think you need to move on and find a guy who can meet your needs.... (read in full...)
Could her nausea indicate she's pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend and I don't use condoms but she takes the pill religiously every day, but for the last 4-5 days she's had a stomach ache, could she be pregnant? I don't know if having a stomach ache means she might be or not, all I really know is t...
A. 29 March 2009: She maybe but she may also just have a stomach upset, surely you've had a couple of days tummy ache and not been pregnant. If she is worried see a doctor or get a home test kit.
And if you are just being paranoid use Condoms, then you have eve... (read in full...)
Is it just about sex?
Q. Theres a guy I've become quite friendly with over the past year. He lives quite far away, so I don't see him often. Whenever we're together we act like a couple, with him intiating most things (as I didn't want to seem to keen, as I like him loads) ...
A. 29 March 2009: Some people will disagree with what I say here but I am a Soldier and once was a young soldier who got up to mischief.
He probably does like you but in the coming months of training and going out with lots of other young, physacally fit guys who... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my FWB....he is my ex boyfriend.
Q. I am in love with my friends with benefits....he is my ex boyfriend. we became best friends and then we went to being friends with benefits. the thing is that i have fallen for him and i don't know what to do. he is a really sweet guy. we have date...
A. 29 March 2009: To the anonymous poster: are you 15? No really, if you are going to contradict my answers please don't do it anonymously as it discredits your answers!
If our poster was a crack addict, would it be ok for her boyfriend to give her crack? And then... (read in full...)
Maybe I went too slowly and pushed him into the arms of a hooker
Q. I am in my 40's and only really started dating after my mother past away some 5 years ago. Well 3 years ago I met a guy but wanted to take things slowly since I had a constant fear of someone coming in and taking half my house. Anyway, I went around ...
A. 29 March 2009: HE IS LYING! He would have gone to a prostitute anyway! I would put up more defenses, there is no excuse for seeking sex in this way, if he loved you he would respect you and your wishes and talk about issues instead of going off and paying for sex.... (read in full...)
He wants to get engaged! We're so young!
Q. does he really love me and want to get engaged im only 15 he is 14 he wants to start and family and get married when im 18 and he is 17 what should i do?...
A. 29 March 2009: Well I think it's nice he wants to show his commitment to you.
Of course traditionally he must ask your Dad permission to marry you, before he even asks you. I ask my father in law and my gf and I were both in our 20s. How do you think your Dad... (read in full...)
Why do guys get all two faced?
Q. Why do guys get all two faced? Like why do they talk to there guy friends an say one thing an then to there girlfriends they all nice? For example my boyfriend had said to his guy friend that he doesn't no if he wants a serious gf an all this stu...
A. 29 March 2009: Wow, thanks for your faith in us men, we're not all immature idiots!
Your boyfriend is just immature and doesn't understand the real world yet!
Oh sorry I just read your age (I was expecting 13-15) In that case, I think he was either showing o... (read in full...)
Coach acts creepy
Q. So I'm currently playing a sport at school and I'm starting to get worried about how my coach treats me at times. Here are some of the 'weird' things he has done and continues to do: He'll randomly repeat my name and pretend that he's loo...
A. 29 March 2009: He doesn't sound that creepy to me but then I suppose you have to be there to understand.
If you think he is acting inapproriatly you need to tell your headteacher and your parents about your concerns, also talk to your friends and see if they hav... (read in full...)
He took the carrot out of my mouth and he smiled at me. What should I do now??
Q. hello, So.. I went to a party last night and it was very good. I don't have a boyfriend... but i danced with every boy there. And we played a game, where you take carrots out of each others mouth with your mouth. Lots of boys did it with me. This...
A. 28 March 2009: Ask him out!... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my FWB....he is my ex boyfriend.
Q. I am in love with my friends with benefits....he is my ex boyfriend. we became best friends and then we went to being friends with benefits. the thing is that i have fallen for him and i don't know what to do. he is a really sweet guy. we have date...
A. 28 March 2009: Wow! he's in the perfect relationship sex on tap and none of the responsibility! This is not FWBs, it is using a girl that loves him to have his cake and eat it!
Sweetheart he is using you, he knows you love him so he, can mess you around as much ... (read in full...)
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