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writes:So I'm currently playing a sport at school and I'm starting to get worried about how my coach treats me at times. Here are some of the 'weird' things he has done and continues to do: He'll randomly repeat my name and pretend that he's looking for me...but he sees me standing right there. After telling me something, he'll wink at me. When we are going over drills, and comes by me, he'll 'walk me' to the spot he wants me in (that includes putting his arm around me or touching my back). He'll tell me strange things that have happened to him throughout his life. He'll some times ask me about my family. He'll comment on the way I'm doing something (like I have the correct body posture, etc.), so that kind of creeps me out that he's looking at my body. He asks me weird things...like if I'm nervous, feeling ok, etc.? But the weirdest thing about all of this is that he's married and has children of his own. If anyone could give me advice about what to do about this (since I'll have to see him for the next couple months), that would be great! Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Most of these behaivors appear at face value to be "normal" coaching tactics. However, anytime an interaction with a coach is uncomfortable athletes NEED to be proactive. I cannot stress this enough. Communication is key. At the collegiate level I've always encouraged athletes to speak directly and frankly with their coaches. This may not be possible for you. If you don't feel comfortable talking to him then use the administration. They will address his general behaivors with him and you can remain annonymous.Our administration takes athlete concerns very seriously, but it must be understood that, while coaches are responsible and accountable for ALL of their actions, they also must be given fair appraisal.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 He doesn't sound that creepy to me but then I suppose you have to be there to understand.
If you think he is acting inapproriatly you need to tell your headteacher and your parents about your concerns, also talk to your friends and see if they have picked up similar feelings about him.
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reader, shades of blue +, writes (29 March 2009):
 The first thing you need to do is get other people involved. Preferably a parent. Do not get yourself in a bad situation where he moves on you and no one else has ever heard of this before.
You can let whoever now that you are not sure, but something just doesn't feel right. Most people will understand and will not attack him. After all, they are not going to be sure either.
The other thing I would suggest is to make sure he is getting the vibe from you that you have no interest at all in him.
Of course, this could lead to him "punishing" you by making you sit out, but if others are involved, you have a safety net.
Good Luck
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (29 March 2009):
Wow very creepy u should talk to someone bout it and tell him to back the he'll off when it happens again;)
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