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writes:I'm in between two men,I'm 30 one is 53 years old and the other one is 35. The 53 year old is set up in life and we have o much fun together. he is black and I'm latina and we have such great chemistry and he loves my son and also my son loves him. he is just a blast and is really in love with me to the point to move to east coast so I can be close to the ocean but since I caught text messages of him with a 19 year old escort I have been having a hard time believing he would not screw up this again.In the beginning of this relationship he was so arrogant about me and my age that I was really impressed. when I caught him ding what he did and the lady even knew who I was but the time passed and I figure he realized my values nd wants to take things really serious but deep inside of them the doubts...he cheated in the beginning what could he do more ahead! thats a killing feeling. The 35 year od one met through friends,he is an airman and has an child that really loves me,we are taking things slow because he is going to deploy and I don't know what is on his head? I never dated a military before. we have good times and I felt really miserable when I tried to break this off so I ended up back to him,he is worried about his career and me I'm about to joy the military also,since we are taking it slow. I'm scared to decide and stay with the 53 one and find out I id not have patience to see if we could make things work ad vice versa...I don't know who to choose please any advice! the 53 we have been dating since august last year and the 35 before christmas last year.
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reader, nazinha +, writes (27 February 2013):
nazinha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your friendly advise!!! I'm learning how to take things slow :D
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 The fact the 35-year old man wants to take things slow is a good thing and shows his good character. The 53-year old perve is now begging you to stay and he'll change. He won't. He's only saying this because now he's afraid he's going to lose you.
Good for you... If it doesn't work out with the 35-year old for whatever reason or he just doesn't seem right you can always end it and date other guys until you do find Mr. Right.
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reader, nazinha +, writes (27 February 2013):
nazinha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey anon_e_mouse thank you so much and I do really appreciate your response,I always heard that to not date just one person and keep options open,most part of my friends are male but did not feel like sharing his with them because I would like to hear people out of the picture like you that can see better than m that is on the situation!I'm already turning down the 53 year old and just gonna stick with the 35,we are sseing each other for a while and sounds like he is more serious about me but and there's the buts because the old perve found out that I'm running away he wants to be the perfect now...oh geez lol
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (27 February 2013):
I'm not sure where the cheating part comes in to this story. Maybe I'm missing something but I thought you were seeing a 53-year old pervert and then started dating a military man.
First off, to answer your question, you have a child. The 53-year old man is mucking about with 19-year old escorts. Not exactly great material for a role model for your son is he?
Plus there's the obvious; the 53-year old man cannot be trusted.
That's it. He is OUT.
As for the 35-year old. He sounds like the best of the two by a mile. The fact you get on with his kid/s and he gets on with yours shows he more serious and more of a man than the 53-year old fun-time-pervert.
I date more than one girl at a time. When I say date I mean just that. I don't sleep with them. I don't have the time, at 34-years old, to date one and hope she's right. Dating is a numbers game so there's nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time. If you're not interested in one you don't date them again.
In this case if I were dating a 35-year old woman and a 53-year old woman who used male escort services, she'd be dropped right away and I'd be left with the better of the two. If it turned out the 35-year old wasn't right, then I'd not date her again and find more dates.
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reader, nazinha +, writes (26 February 2013):
nazinha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know you are right I'm just having mixed emotions on what to do about this whole situation and being playing back and forth this these two guys,the 35 year old one is cool,engaging his career in the military,single dad and we are friends but dating,taking it slow and I think that's the way it should be since soon he will be deployed and I'm gonna enlist too....my head spins and spins
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): You are dating TWO men which makes you a cheater. Sorry, but you don't deserve either and they deserve better. Break up with both of them, stay single until you're ready to commit, and then find a man whom you're willing to give your all to. The 53 y/o is already bad news before you guys are even together. The 35 y/o will eventually find out you cheated.
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