How can I get over my ex-girlfriend?

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Article - (6 May 2009)

2 Comments - (Newest, 18 May 2009)

A male age 41-50, anon_e_mouse writes:

Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands.

No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along the way you may have lost focus with your life. You lost your purpose; or perhaps your girlfriend became your purpose? Perhaps you were doing things for your future together?

So what’s the answer?

Well, you can either wallow around in self-pity, spend your time chasing her, dwelling on the relationship, reading her old emails, check for messages every 5 minutes, or try and analyse what went wrong OR you can take this opportunity to sort your life out.

I think it’s fairly obvious what the right answer here is.

SET YOURSELF SOME GOALS

To be honest I’m a fairly ambitious person and I like to set myself goals all the time. It gives me something to think about and focus on. This will give you a purpose and something to strive for.

I took the opportunity to set a lot of goals including stop smoking, sort out my personal finances and go on a relaxing holiday in the sun.

MY FAVOURITE: THE GYM

This is the best! If nothing else I highly recommend getting down the gym. Not some poncey upper-class gym full of yuppies. Get yourself down a REAL man’s gym where you can Grrrrrrrrrrr as you try and lift heavy weights or where it’s perfectly acceptable to fall over having attempted the superman setting on the running machine.

Why is the gym great?

It’s a great way to work off your emotions. Working out is a fantastic way of letting out those feelings of frustration and stress but in a constructive way. You can use your emotions to push yourself further.

It keeps you occupied. You’re focusing on the work-out which means you’re not thinking about your ex-girlfriend. Whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed go hit the gym.

Working out releases a lot of endorphins which make you feel good and boosts your testosterone levels.

Following a break-up your confidence will likely be rock-bottom. Getting down the gym and losing some weight or buffing up will soon get you feeling good about yourself.

Set yourself a goal and get yourself down the gym;

* great for letting out all those emotions;

* keeps your mind occupied;

* makes you feel good, look good and boosts your confidence;

* meet new poeple and make some new friends

I cannot recommend it highly enough. If the gym really isn’t your thing why not pursue a sport instead?

Of course there’s a lot more to getting over your ex-girlfriend than setting some goals and getting down the gym. I’ve covered a lot of this in a previous article I wrote quite a while ago.

Have a look you might find it useful: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html.

Good luck!

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