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female
age
26-29,
*ostinyou
writes:Hi, I have a bit of a problem with my boyfriend, who is 25 (8 years in my senior). We've been going out since October. Recently we have been having many disagreements and I find myself craving more from him. We split up recently due to that, but I am having second thoughts.Before I go any further, I should add that I'm currently taking Citalopram 20mg, for anxiety and I had the contraceptive implant inserted into my arm in January. (I know the implant can affect your mood and possibly cause depression). Okay, so here goes.. I know he loves me, I know he cares about me and he has my best interest at heart. I do think sometimes he can be a little thoughtless and inconsiderate of my feelings and what I like him to do. I've told him on many occasions that I love when he holds my hand and kisses my face and neck, you know, normal couple stuff. He didn't seem to hear what I was saying , when I said those things to him, I thought maybe he'd do them more knowing that I really liked them. He didn't though, I felt like I had to ask him. When I did ask him, he took it as criticism and got offended. He read into it that he wasn't good enough for me and he felt like he wasn't fulfilling my needs, when in fact I just wanted him to do more of what he was already doing. I explained this to him but I couldn't get through to him.I tried explaining to him that I've done a lot of things for him that he enjoyed, but he doesn't seem to think he should do anything more than what he's already doing. I think a relationship is all about give and take and sacrifice right.? I tried telling him this but he doesn't agree. I've read a lot online about my problem but I've had no joy. I want to know whether I'm being unreasonable, or whether he's being unreasonable. He is very stubborn and so am I, making this issue much more difficult to solve. Please help.! Any advice is welcome.!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 you have told him what you like and have asked him to provide more of it.
He has refused.
other than sex what do you and this guy talk about?
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 He too old and sounds like an idiot. Go out with boys your own age. You'll be laughing about his guy one day.
Generally, women aren't ready for serious relationships until 22+. Men, probably a little later. Fact is, there's a lot of things to experience out there and I'm sorry but a 17-year old and a 28-year old are just at different stages of their lives in terms of life experience.
If he doesn't agree a relationship is about give and take and just takes then why waste your time with him? He's not interested in making you happy. Get rid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): this man is immature & inconsiderate. as has been said u deserve better than him. leave.
i am 24 & i wouldnt even consider dating a 17 yr old. you are bound to be a great girl but hes a waste of ur time.
jon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): This is bad hunny. He shouldnt even be considering such a young and impressionable girl as a romantic partner.
He also doesnt really care about you as IAMHERETOHELP said because hes taking your care and not really giving it back.
Dump him hunny before you waste your young years trying to change a man whos not worth it.
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