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My gf told me she's torn between me and her ex! What should I do now?
Q. My girlfriend has recently expressed to me that she is now torn between me and her recently divorced ex-husband. She feels that a lot of the bad blood from him was just him getting back at her for leaving him. Now the two are getting along, and ...
A. 25 October 2006: Firstly I suggest you talk and decided that she has kids time, girls time and most of all quality time with you even if its 2hours you 2 hour kids 2 hour mates so its fair when you divorce its like grieving a death its final and no going back it ... (read in full...)
Ladies...How do single/married females view separated/divorce man?
Q. Hi, I just got separated, after six month of marriage which was nothing but hell. well I am going through so much emotions, and it is hard, but deep inside me I know it would have never worked out, and it was just a big mistake. she wanted eve...
A. 25 October 2006: Hey we all make mistakes you wasnt the first and you wont be the last. women make mistake as well as men so dont worry about it put it down to experience A... (read in full...)
I was wondering if agony aunts get paid?
Q. could you please tell me do agony aunts get paid or is it a service they provide for free,thank you....
A. 25 October 2006: No we don't get paid, not in money the reward we receive comes from within its a nice warm glow, knowing you could have helped someone in a time of need, helping someone who doesnt have friends to ask, or are to scared to ask because it could be of ... (read in full...)
Should I wear make-up or no???
Q. Do guys who dislike makeup on women ALWAYS feel this way? (Hope some guy will answer.) This coming weekend am going to a fancy social event with a guy. I've been trying to get back together with him for awhile and at the moment we really seem to...
A. 24 October 2006: just wear a little gloss on your lips clear mascara to open your eyes and try to look natural dont over do it just look natural blend a little foundation with your moisturizer to give a sheer effect a light blusher and have a good time and smile ... (read in full...)
When we was together I put on alot of weight and he cheated on me...now I've lost the weight he is hanging around again!!!
Q. Please help My boyfirend and I broke up 3-4 moths ago, after 6 years being together. We had a very good relationship,but not perfect. Since I started going out with him, i gained a lot a lot of weight and it started to bother him that i was lett...
A. 24 October 2006: Get on with your life he didnt love you for who you where when you had a little more padding, now he is taking interest again, think he was playing the game can I catch her again, since you have had sex with you ex now your saying he hasnt contacted ... (read in full...)
When we was together I put on alot of weight and he cheated on me...now I've lost the weight he is hanging around again!!!
Q. Please help My boyfirend and I broke up 3-4 moths ago, after 6 years being together. We had a very good relationship,but not perfect. Since I started going out with him, i gained a lot a lot of weight and it started to bother him that i was lett...
A. 24 October 2006: Get on with your life he didnt love you for who you where when you had a little more padding, now he is taking interest again, think he was playing the game can I catch her again, since you have had sex with you ex now your saying he hasnt contacted ... (read in full...)
When we was together I put on alot of weight and he cheated on me...now I've lost the weight he is hanging around again!!!
Q. Please help My boyfirend and I broke up 3-4 moths ago, after 6 years being together. We had a very good relationship,but not perfect. Since I started going out with him, i gained a lot a lot of weight and it started to bother him that i was lett...
A. 24 October 2006: Get on with your life he didnt love you for who you where when you had a little more padding, now he is taking interest again, think he was playing the game can I catch her again, since you have had sex with you ex now your saying he hasnt contacted ... (read in full...)
I want to ask this girl to the school dance but unsure whether my mate is thinking the same!!!
Q. hi! there seems to be a trouble with me a friend. i want to ask this girl to the school dance but i think that he does aswell. i haven't said anything to him. he begins to act all strangely around her. he seems to be unsure and slightly nervous...
A. 24 October 2006: Ask her before your mate does or you could lose out if she says no at least you can ask some one else but if he gets to ask her first you will never know will you go on ask her she might say yes A ... (read in full...)
If we keep writing and getting to know each other like this will things be better when he comes home???
Q. Hey everyone, I live in delaware, and this guy I'm seeing is staying in Pittsburg P.A for three months. We hit it off really well before he left, and hes already wrote me 2 times. if we keep writting eachother and getting to know eachothe...
A. 24 October 2006: Get to know each other through letters but dont put your life on hold maybe when he comes back you may feel better about things with him and if you dont what have you lost good luck A... (read in full...)
She was size 10-12... But she can't stay away from cakes and chocolate and her weight has ballooned and I don't find her attractive!
Q. Im 21 and i've been with my partner for just over 4 years now. We've been together since we were 17 and i think we have a good relationship, but i feel very unattracted to her now. when we 1st got together she was a size 10-12 now she is a size 16+ ...
A. 13 October 2006: big is beautiful so they say beauty comes from within if your so shallow minded to think she isn't sexy any more think again your mind has been brained washed by the models of today's cat walk the average woman is size 16 some would say over weight ... (read in full...)
Am I being an idiot here?
Q. Guys, opinions please?? If you are going out with someone for maybe six months and then you get crabs ( havent cheated with anyone) does this mean they have cheated? He noticed he had it first and asked me about it, raised a few questions about ...
A. 13 October 2006: Sorry i am female but yes it is possible to as Dr Psych has said to get them from bed linen towels so he could have caught them from his flat mate. are sure he wasnt the one who cheated and gave them his flat mate you may never know get treated ... (read in full...)
How do I get the relationship I want?
Q. I'm really messed up at the moment! A lot of my friends seem to have boyfriends but I've never been at all interested in having one. There's this boy im friends with he's lovely and we have done some stuff together (not sex) but I was at a club an...
A. 13 October 2006: Tell him that you enjoy his company and his friendship but he must understand cos your mates doesnt mean that you will stop talking to other guys and if he has a problem with that then that's his problem and that's for him to sort out not you and if ... (read in full...)
How do I reach out to my adult son, who appears to despise me? What can I do? Please help!
Q. I am a woman in my early 50's. After 25 yrs married, my husband up and left me and our family in Nov. 2000, which had rocked our lives to the core. I have a teen boy, (still at home), one adult son (25) and one adult daughter (27). When the initial ...
A. 13 October 2006: Your son is hurting, not just from his parents break up however amicable it was but also from his relationship break up and in his eyes all women cause hurt unfortunatley for you, you are on the receiving end of that hurt you are possibly the ... (read in full...)
I feel as if im walking on broken egg shells
Q. Hi i am 29 years old,and have been in a relationship for the past 5 years,it hasnt been the best but i truly love my partner with every thing i am,but no matter what i do or say it seems not be any good i feel as if im walking on broken egg shells ...
A. 13 October 2006: My ex husband was very controlling but i decided i deserved better i left. i loved him more than life its self but i could not do control. but my circumstances were different i didnt have children.
your husband should be with you not going off ... (read in full...)
We've broken up now he wants a casual relationship with me!!
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years six months ago because he cheated. It wasn't the first time, so all my trust was broken and I had a bad time of it. I found it hard to move on but am in a place now where I quite enjoy being single. Not that I am ...
A. 13 October 2006: He wants to able to ring you up take you to bed and then when he has had his way get up and go. basically love he wants to use you if you want that and can handle being just his casual then that's fine but from the sound of things you want more, ... (read in full...)
He wants me to strip on cam for him or he will keep pasting my email addy to everyone!!
Q. well this lad added me annd i ended up arguing with him cos he was really racist ((a didnt no him)) and i blocked him, thn all i get is LOADS of ppl adding me, lyk 50 every minute or summit stupid, he's basically put my addy up on a syt, en loads of ...
A. 13 October 2006: Change your e-mail adress and dont give it him again if he doesnt stop inform your parents ... (read in full...)
He's my boyfriend but he's not....how do we work things out??
Q. I dread being alone. My boyfriend who is not my boyfriend the same way as was real seem to think there's a real possibility we could get back together as a couple, though he's been seeing another girl "occassionally." But in the mean time, ho...
A. 13 October 2006: Admit to yourself he ain't your boyfriend and move on. he is seeing some one else occassionally he want his cake and eat it find some one who WANTS to be your boyfriend not-some one who can't make up his mind and is only your boyfriend when it ... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 11 October 2006: Hi what you are saying is your happy with your new man you love your kids, but don't like the way your husband treats them or you when you lived together you don't want to fleece him but you want whats yours so you can have a comfortable life which ... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 10 October 2006: get yourself a solicitor and sort it once and for all.
you are entitled to half of what he owned when you were married.
Dont let him take away what is legally yours.
you will then have your own inheritance to leave to your sons. what if he r... (read in full...)
His ex gf hounds him a lot and now he's not sure about us! Should I just end this?
Q. I have been with partner for 14 months, before I met him,HE had been in a on/off relationship for 6 years with (S)3mth on/3off they tried livin tog for 1 year it didnt work,he left.that was four years ago and he has had three other short term ...
A. 7 October 2006: Just to keep you up dated we are booking to go to jamica in november he feels terribly guilty that he has hurt me its my christmas treat. and we now seem closer thanks for all you advice ti realy does help when you dont know who to turn to.... (read in full...)
I'm dating this guy but can't stop thinking about my ex! what should I do?
Q. dear cupid, i am going out with a 16 yr oldand recently have been thinking about my ex-boyfriend i dont no what to do help me plz xxxxxx...
A. 6 October 2006: Ask yourself why you and your ex split. were you with him long, why are you dating someone else if your thinking about your ex is it fair to the guy you are dating or yourself to continue with it take time out go out with your mates and have some ... (read in full...)
How do you understand a mans mind?
Q. Help!!!! I need help understanding a mans mind if thats possible. I have a male friend who I have know about three months, I pulled him in a club and we ended up being mates. He stated from the start he wasnt ready for a relationship and just ...
A. 6 October 2006: He has made it clear to you he doesnt want a relationship and just wants to be friends so when he mentions the guys you pulled ask him if he has a problem with this and if so why cos you are single until you decide other wise whether it be with him ... (read in full...)
We love each other, things are great, but the sex sucks!!!!
Q. help me please i am 22 i just got married about 4 months ago my hubby is 27 my prob is that he is very very bad at sex . i would never cheat on him i love him with all my heart and we have talked about this and i tried to help him and every thing ...
A. 6 October 2006: wow slow down ever tried touching each other without having full sex explore each others body with your hands ,fingers tongue ask him how he likes to be touched and touch his body, tell him how you liked to be touched. and let him touch your body, ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and popular with the boys, but end the relationship as soon as sex is mentioned!
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm quite popular with the boys and a lot of boys fancy me. Everytime i get a boyfriend it only lasts a couple of months the longest has been 4 months.. This is because they always want sex. I'm scared to try it and panic and ...
A. 6 October 2006: slow down tell him your not ready for sex yet and if he likes you and he respects your wishes then he will be fine with it. you will know when you are both ready,but dont let him push you into doing anything you dont feel secure with doing, it your ... (read in full...)
We had sex the night I finished my period - could I be pregnant?
Q. dear cupid me and my boyfriend for 2yrs we had sex the night that i came off my period is there a possibilty that i could be pregnant? we didnt use a condom and he did cum inside me....
A. 6 October 2006: go to your doctors/family planning and tell him what you have told us it is likely you could be or not be pregnant they will give you the best advice... (read in full...)
He says hes tired of being in a relationship
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 13 months and we love each other to death .. but he broke up with me becasue he says hes tired of being in a relationship because of all the stress (which is not true because we rarely ever fight) and ...
A. 6 October 2006: if your guy wants out he wants out and sorry there isn't anything you can do possibly he wants some space and its getting to heavy for him go out with friends and enjoy your life if he contacts you go out with him on your terms but don't be a door ... (read in full...)
My army bf says he's changed his cheating ways..do I believe him?
Q. My boyfriends in the army,he's cheated on me before,but said that his changed now and he wants to get more serious,what should i do?...
A. 6 October 2006: They say once a cheat always a cheat but thats not always the case only you can decide if you want to give him another chance then go for it but why did he cheat first time this is what you have to ask youself... (read in full...)
We live together but he still is in contact with her and he won't let me see the e-mails!
Q. My boyfriend just moved to the US to be with me from the other side of the world. We were dating last year when he had to move back home and he has just moved back one year later to be with me. We have been having issues since he got back though. He ...
A. 6 October 2006: I know how this feels as my bf ex still txts him but you have to either trust him or you don't and you can either let this destroy your relationship or dont talk to him
explain that you love him and it hurts that he keeps the e-mails away from... (read in full...)
She want see other people, she lies to me, treat me like crap and expects me to just take it! What should I do?
Q. my girlfriend has confessed to me that she wants to see other people because she has been with me and only me for 4 years.she was 14 when we met and now she is 18.it has been very difficult because she has confessed to making out with a guy in a ...
A. 6 October 2006: move on find someone else, some one who values you and your relationship and if she is making out with other guys and you keep letting her get away with it she wont stop cos every time you forgive. ask yourself would she forgive you if you went in ... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge and ask him out ?
Q. I've meet this great looking guy,he works at a club i go to as a barman,i went there other evening and when i went up to the bar his eyes lit up when he saw me. my friends started calling my name out when he came round to collect our glasses.so i ...
A. 6 October 2006: bide your time, if he like you, he will ask you out, and think what a fool you would feel,if he is in a relationship already. or if you did ask and he said no. you go to the club regularly remember you have to face him every time you go there. ... (read in full...)
We seem to be rowing alot and I seem to always be the B*st*rd! What can I do I really love my wife!
Q. I am having severe problems in my marriage, my wife and I seem to argue most of the time, but I'm not solely blaming her. There are quite a few problems, but one which seems to crop up more often than not is due to my lack of forward planning...
A. 6 October 2006: your wife was looking forward to this trip, and she knows your not a very good planner,so why didn't she do it,to be certain, did she read the small print? ( No ) your the b*S***D because she left you to sort it out and this mistake happened.
... (read in full...)
I just don't think I can continue being with my husband after he looked at these vile porn sites!
Q. Im really stuck and so far ive been given good advice. Ive posted another problem on the site. My partner went on the net to the most vile porn sites you can think of I'm broad minded and the sites made me sick. I showed them to a close male mat...
A. 5 October 2006: if your mortgage is in your name he cannot claim a bean as far as i am aware, but was he just being curious or is it a fantasy ask him what he finds interesting on these sites then you will know and be able to make a better decision every one finds ... (read in full...)
How can a man who professes to love us so much just drop everything and clear off for 'a better life'? Am I a blind fool?
Q. My husband of 10 years, with whom I have 3 young children, has decided to opt for a better lifestyle on the other side of the world as he's fed up with his job, the UK, the weather, etc...He professes to love us deeply and is expecting that we'll go ...
A. 5 October 2006: how old is your husband and yes maybe he maybe chasing rain bows but unless he does this he will always blame you for stopping him let him go and go over you to may fall in love with the place that's what he would like but you can't cos you have to ... (read in full...)
He can be thoughtful and loving, but also tells me im in his face! I want to settle down and be in a loving relationship!!
Q. I have posted here before but my problem has developed and I would really appreciate any advice. I have been with my partner for 2 years. We did live together but he felt that I was in his face too much, did his head in. I had to find somewher...
A. 5 October 2006: you make ground rules then you break em, if your apart for two nights, then you are apart, and no one breaks the rules, you are invading his space and he need this( men do sorry to be blunt but what is a normal relationship each persons ideal of ... (read in full...)
We broke up as hes off to Oz tomorrow!!! Im not going to see him for 2 months and he says see how we feel then!!!!
Q. Ok update on my story so far… As ye all already kno my boyf is off to Australia for 2 months 2morro. And the reason I wrote in the first place was that he wanted to break up before goin and I didn’t want that to happen… So the outcome of it a...
A. 5 October 2006: He his keeping his options open as all men do. build your social life up and go out with friends. enjoy and in time when he realises what a fool he has been you could be dating some one else. but that was his choice not yours, dec isnt the end of ... (read in full...)
Did I sleep with him to early ? We are still together, but wonder if he would feel more for me had I waited ?
Q. Hello, I had not slept with a man for five years until recently. After 3 very intense weeks of dating we slept together, do you think this was too soon and that he will think of me as easy? Im quite naive about everything. He made me feel that ...
A. 5 October 2006: your still seeing each other, so he doesnt think any less of you, so why question it you made him wait 3 weeks but you must have felt right at the time or you wouldn't have done it any way what is time and how long do you wait every-ones choice is ... (read in full...)
Im tryng to get back with my ex, shes having doubts! Should I keep trying or move on?
Q. Hi well im trying to get back with my ex girlfriend since we broke up cause of my fault. She dumped me because i had done twice already and told me she started to have feelings for another guy. This last monday was her b-day, got her some ballons to ...
A. 4 October 2006: Let her get on with her life stay mates but get on with yours to you are still at school you have loads of time yet... (read in full...)
I like him but he already has a gf! How do I let him know how I feel?
Q. I currently work with a great guy- friendly, easygoing, great manners, etc. I used to just be friendly with him but now my feelings for him have started to change, and I don't know what to do. The hitch is that one of my co-workers told me he has a ...
A. 4 October 2006: leave well alone. how would you feel if someone was sniffing around your if he was your guy, if he doesn't love her why does he live with her. find your self another man and spend time with him cos he probably wouldn't leave her your worth better ... (read in full...)
I always thought we would get back together, but now she is engaged to someone else!
Q. Help! My ex-fiancee and I have been broken up for the last 3 years. We still keep in touch, (both sides) and there is 100% a special deep connection (she agrees). I realize it is too length to mention all the particulars, but in a nutshell, I br...
A. 4 October 2006: If she doesnt care for this other guy why, 1) is she living with him 2)sleeping with him 3)has now said she will marry him. looks like you may just have to get over it and move on. it hurts i know
sorry but you cheated on her ask yourself has the ... (read in full...)
I can orgasm through masturbation but I don't think I can during sex - it doesn't feel the same!
Q. How do you know that you're having an orgasm? When having sex it feels really great but i don't seem to reach a definite point in which i reach an actual climax. It gets really good and them i sort of peak and it feels like i've had an orgasm. I am ...
A. 4 October 2006: some women can orgasm through having sex some carnt, stimulate yourself whilst having sex see if that helps, use your fingers or even better use a vibrator, play tog learn what each other likes remember cou.ples who play tog stay tog and relax its ... (read in full...)
His ex gf hounds him a lot and now he's not sure about us! Should I just end this?
Q. I have been with partner for 14 months, before I met him,HE had been in a on/off relationship for 6 years with (S)3mth on/3off they tried livin tog for 1 year it didnt work,he left.that was four years ago and he has had three other short term ...
A. 4 October 2006: Thanks nish+ when you are in the box you know what he ans is for some one else, but not always for your self and if i gave him an ultimatum I no that he would end it he is so scared of losing another partner his wife died eight yrs ago.... (read in full...)
His ex gf hounds him a lot and now he's not sure about us! Should I just end this?
Q. I have been with partner for 14 months, before I met him,HE had been in a on/off relationship for 6 years with (S)3mth on/3off they tried livin tog for 1 year it didnt work,he left.that was four years ago and he has had three other short term ...
A. 4 October 2006: After he dropped the bomb shell i thought that would be the end but now he his planning a holiday with me so who know how the male mind works... (read in full...)
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