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writes: help me please i am 22 i just got married about 4 months ago my hubby is 27 my prob is that he is very very bad at sex . i would never cheat on him i love him with all my heart and we have talked about this and i tried to help him and every thing but he still is awfull i hate it . my husband is so sexy but he dont know really how to be good at sex all he dose is get on top and put all his body wight on my and moves his whole body up and down .... or if we are doggy style he leans over me and it hurts ... ive tried it all on top side ways ever thing and if i tell him to do something that feels good to me he will do it for like a min then go back to his way . i cant take it no more and then he . i just dont get it my husband has a great body he so sexy and he turns me on but its so bad .. ontop of it all sometimes during sex he will just go limp i hate it it makes me feel like i dont feel good to him but he dont feel good to me either
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): He seems to be inept and "mismanages" the whole thing instinctly in an awkward manner but that's O.K. Give hi, time and sopce. Try to adjust your herizones to the level of his skill and dexterity. He needs to be told which way to take and how to work it out.
Do not rush with him at all; do not show him even you're getting peevish about the way his lovemaking style. Let him know what he WANTS from sex and of course from YOU. And this way you both will mutualy have "clear ideas" about each others' wants, expectations and complaints.
Again, do not push him to hard!
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Making Love is not about positions, and it is not some guy's porno fantasy either. To feel fulfilled sexually both parties need to feel the other is enjoying the experience or it is just sex.
It sounds like both of you are inexperienced but want to make this work. I would suggest before you try having sex again read the book 'What your mother never told you about SEX' together.
Once your husband and you understand the basics of sex and how both of you can achieve an orgasm, then one night both of you use what you have learned and work on only you to achieve an orgasm.
Once a woman figures out how she can achieve an orgasm then sex gets a lot easier, she will know what to ask for and how to get it. Then it gets fun and you can be creative, try different positions, exploration and dessert toppings.
Don't give up, keep trying, your marriage depends on this. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006):
"all he dose is get on top and put all his body wight on my and moves his whole body up and down"- hey thats how he Rocks It!
He is bringing sexy back!
Ok, I am done now.
Go on no intercourse for a month or two. After you figure out how to get each other off without insertion, you'll be in the groove.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): guide ur hubby through what you like & what you dislike, tell him when you enjoy something he's doing & tell him when you dont enjoy it. thats the only way he's gonna learn. sex cant be all one sided you need your satisfaction 2. dont be behind the door just tell him how you're feeling, you dont have to be cheeky about it just put it in a way like id prefer if you done this instead of that
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reader, amerthyst0202  +, writes (6 October 2006):
 wow slow down ever tried touching each other without having full sex explore each others body with your hands ,fingers tongue ask him how he likes to be touched and touch his body, tell him how you liked to be touched. and let him touch your body, moan a little if you enjoy what he does and touches and ask him not to if is something you dont like it isn't a race, make time for sex, time for each other, use whipped cream, choc sauce enjoy each other and slow down sex is an art that two people learn to do together buy a couple of videos to compare different sexual positions read the karma sutra and most of all enjoy
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