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writes: Hi, I just got separated, after six month of marriage which was nothing but hell. well I am going through so much emotions, and it is hard, but deep inside me I know it would have never worked out, and it was just a big mistake. she wanted everythings her way and that was the only way, she never really cared for me and so much more...I want to ask this question how do single/married females view separated/divorce man?I know it depends on personnality and may be not much more, but is it really not somthing negative in their mind ringing about a separated person?thanks for your advice Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): I do not judge someone on whether they are seperated/divorced. We all have relationships throuout our lives and not all of them work out. I would feel compassion for a divorced man, since he would have been through a rough time. This would not influence how I would see him as a partner. I would be open to establishing a relationship with him. It is about the person that he is and not about a past failed relationship.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Well I'm a single female and I don't see a problem with a guy being seperated or divorced as long as it really is over and no intention of them using me as a gap filler before leaving me to go back to what they really want.
Hope this helped :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): Sometimes relationships don't work out. Unfortunately. There are many divorced, now single men and women out there. Women do not have a negative view of separated men as they are more than likely to have been through some relationship break up themselves. It is part of life. The only advice you need is to be sure you are ready to move onto a new relationship. Give yourself time to get over your break up - you don't want to be crying into your soup on your first date or spending the whole evening talking about your ex and what a terrible person she was! That is a definate turn off on a first date! Start getting out and enjoying yourself. Good luck.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (25 October 2006):
 I don't think it matters so much these days as there are lots of separated and divorced people out there! However, if you have just come out of a short traumatic marriage then it is time to reflect on what went wrong, see the danger signs and not end up there again with some other girl in the future. Maybe you don't need to be dating right now but give yourself some time to sort out your head.
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reader, pica +, writes (25 October 2006):
I don't think women will be put off by your marital status, plenty of us have had broken relationships in the past. What does put us off is a guy seriously bad-mouthing his ex and blaming them for the breakdown of the relationship. Not saying you are doing that but you are putting it across that it was all her fault - it does take two. Learn from the experience - about relationships in general and about yourself - and don't let it put you off in future.
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reader, amerthyst0202 +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Hey we all make mistakes you wasnt the first and you wont be the last. women make mistake as well as men so dont worry about it put it down to experience A
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): as long as u have no feelings for ur ex and are looking for true love..it wudnt bother me eitha...divorces happen everyday bcuz sumtyms people are not meant to be..that doesnt stop u from findin the ryt person for urself does it?...so if u really have no feelings for ur ex..and are looking for that special lady..go out n find her...bcuz shes waiting to meet u too! :) good luck..freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): I can only speak for me and my female friends. It really doesnt matter that you have been married and are now divorced. that would have mattered in the 50's. this is the millinium age. as long as you treat a woman well, are considerate, compasionate, and honest..you will get off to a great start. just be you. and next time, before you walk toward that alter, make certain that you KNOW the person you are expecting to spend eternity with. good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Hi again,
I think its down to the idividual. I dont think it would put me off but then it dependeds on what the relationship broke down over.
So in short , No it doesnt bother most women, (only the narrow minded ones!).
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