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writes: Im really stuck and so far ive been given good advice. Ive posted another problem on the site.My partner went on the net to the most vile porn sites you can think of I'm broad minded and the sites made me sick. I showed them to a close male mate and he said they were sick. Now I'm stuck. I've been married twice and each time ive taken more on the morgage to cover the last one and this time i seem to have bitten off more than i can chew. If i leave this man i will end up with nothing to show for the last 17 years. My kids will have no home and i will end up at square one again and after 16 months is he entitled to half my home? Do i try and work it out or do i say bye to everything? please help!
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reader, amerthyst0202  +, writes (5 October 2006):
 if your mortgage is in your name he cannot claim a bean as far as i am aware, but was he just being curious or is it a fantasy ask him what he finds interesting on these sites then you will know and be able to make a better decision every one finds certain things sick each person is an individual and so is he talk to him about it he could have even had the idea put in his head by men at work just for a laugh talk to him
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reader, baby gurl +, writes (5 October 2006):
 i think u should tay and work it out.u should get this guy some help so it doesn't go to far.but u should definatly try to work it out especially if u love him.he needs help so get it for him and try to work this out.hope this answer helps.plz tell me if it does
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):
I dont think we can give you advice on the split of the marital assets- it is what it is and you'll probably waste more money on lawyers trying to change it than it is worth. Maybe you could blackmail him but I doubt a reputable lawyer would get involved and you might get yourself into a situation where you now have legal exposure. Probably better to avoid all this.
I think there are three possible situations:
- you or your children are in some sort of danger- STDs, legal liability, molestation or whatnot. Then you have to have to take the financial hit and split up.
- he has a serious, but fantasy interest in the sites
- among other things he likes, he has a mild interest in the 'vile sites'. He occasionally get off to them but its not a big deal.
In the last case I think you might be able to work out your situtation. This could all be part of a fantasy life that doesnt really reflect who he is.
I guess it would help if we knew more about the sites. I have had friends send me links to all kinds of crazy sites. Bukkake is something that some people might find vile, but guys feel the need to pass it around because it it so incredible. Could it be one of those things?
Personally, I think two people should be able to work out almost anything...if you can keep emition out of it.
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