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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

I'm scared when its time to have sex I'm going to get sick!

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31 January 2009 (F) - In a couple of months i'm due to get married to my faince, we've been together for a long time, haven't had sex justed kissed, (i prefered to get married and have sex so i stuck to my oath) and then he proposed to me so i said yes. But the problem ...

Typical dating timeline?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have been talking with a guy for a few weeks now. Having never been in a real relationship before I am unaware of the “typical dating timeline.” So far we have made out and done a bit clothes-on fondling, but nothing else. I really want him to ...

I love him but I didn't want to have sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5757 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - im a 22yrs old and i lost my virginity last month to my bf of 11 months. i was saving my self for marriage b\c its part of my religion. my bf pressured me into doing it but i started to cry during it and he stopped. the next day he tried again and i ...

Do guys know if you're a virgin when you have sex for the first time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5771 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - When you have sex for the first time, is there a different feeling for guys like do they feel you a virgin or the feeling is the same to when you are not one? Like how people say I'm tight and you loose? Is that really true?...

Is he using me? What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Ok I lust for this boy in my health class and we started talkin for about 2 months and I decided to give him my virginity which I now regret.after we stopped talkin to each other after we had sex I realize that he used me .a month later he called m...

My virginity... or lack of!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I'm not a virgin and now I'm getting married. Is it possible that my husband would come to know that I'm not a virgin and moreover can it is possible to know all that through a DNA test?...

Have I advertised "I want sex ASAP" because I talked about birth control?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - To start off- I'm 19 and a virgin and my boyfriend is 25 and not. We were talking last night about contraception and I told him that I've just started the pill perscription to be on the safe side but want to use a condom as well. He was a bit odd ...

I think he's ready for sex but I'm a virgin and not sure I'm ready!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - im kinda nervous about this but i need to know.My boyfriend may be ready to have sex,and hes told me he has before.Im still a virgin and I was wondering if i should or not.Ive heard its gonna hurt really bad and i hate pain but im not sure.Any ...

He says he's a virgin, but I don't think I believe him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost six months, and he claims to still be a virgin. I don't know whether I can fully believe him or not because he has told me in the past that he has had sex before, but then one day he tells me that was...

Sex for the first time.... but I've taken my period!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5769 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have never had sex before, and this Saturday was going to be our first time. The only problem is today I have started my period (this morning) and we were planning to have sex either late saturday night or the early hours of...

Am I still a virgin and will I bleed if I have sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5760 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - i have fingered my self before. i once by mistake inserted something thing down there it hurt but i had no blood. i've never had real sexual intercourse with the exception of dry sex with my boyfriend. and my boyfriend might have inserted his penis ...

Help me to not have sex with this guy who just wants to get in my pants!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - So i really need advice because i dont kno if i should lose my virginity right now to this guy..he gets his license in 4 days. only 4 DAYS! and thats how much time i have left to decide because that is when he gets his license. and when he does, he ...

Is she lying to me about her virginity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend is 23 and claims to be a virgin. The first time we had sex, she neither felt pain nor bled as I expected. How can I know if she was telling the truth?...

Is he only going out with me because I'm a virgin?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have my first boyfriend! I graduated early, but when I went to school there was this guy on the varsity football team and he was a senior. I never knew who he was, but He came to one of my friends' parties last week and said he knew me from school ...

Girlfriend not a virgin - but what can I make of this sex act?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - My girl friend told me recently that she had sexual intercourse with a guy before we met. Now stay with me - she explains it like this. He did not ask her to have set, he laid down on her and did it for a few minutes. She said that she had broke ...

Irrational fear about the male body?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and we are very close and open with each other and get on really well. I'm a virgin and he's not, though he has been very understanding about my not being ready to have sex yet and has never ...

He's inexperienced, should I let him go for someone worldly/

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My friend hooked me up with this guy she met at work and we hit it off well. He's a virgin, doesn't drink, smoke or go out. I was fine with it cos I was going through a similar phase. now I'm over it, and I enjoy having sex. What do I do? I really ...

How do I, a man, lose my virginity?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - i am a virgin and i need to look a girl to have sex but i don't know how to ask. ...

He's in a relationship with a girl who hates me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Hi Ok idk how to explain this but I'm going to try ok.I am currently a sophmore in high school and I'm pretty sure I'm in love with one of my best friends.I met him at the beginning of my freshmen year when I joined the swim team.we started off as r...

I want to feel my girlfriend's boobs!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Hey I was just wandering I'm still a virgin and I've never felt boobs. What do they feel like and what would be the best way to feel my girlfriend's tits that would make her happy?...

After sex does he still want the same thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - so here's the thing... i've known this guy for about a year now, but we just started "talking" about 6 months ago. and ever since then we have only hungout about 5 times. it was nothing big, no intimate contact was involved just hanging out and ...

Why is 1st love so hard to get over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Why is it always so hard (so fucking hard) to get over my first love?! It’s killing me inside really. Well, not really, but it’s almost equivalent to something eating me from the inside. Is it harder to get over someone you’ve lost your virgin...

Am I a bad person for losing my virginity while drunk?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - i've been talking to this guy for about a month now, but i've known him for years. he is a really nice guy and i like him. but this past weekend my friend had a party, so i invited him. we both had had a lot to drink, and we ended up in her parents ...

Should I lose my virginity to my friend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Should I lose my virginity to my friend? I'm 19 and I feel it's about time, but I've never been in a relationship loving enough to want to. I kind of want to get it over and done with so its not a big deal any more. And I feel really comfortable ...

I have questions about virginity, please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend who I loved more then anything. He told me he is in love with me, he is totally sweet and all but he lives 500 km away. He is coming to see me in less then a month and I am a virgin but he had sex 12 times already. He regrets ...

1st time sex with experienced guy I feel uncertain

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - im in love with an older guy but i am a virgin. im 20 and hes in his 40s, divorced with kids, his oldest is older than i am. im really scared about having sex with him. I heard that for your first time its better to go on top but im scared i could ...

He took my virginity and my baby

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5779 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - almost 10 months i went to a party with my best friend at her older cousins house her cousin had alot of guys there i had only a couple of beers and i couldnt remeber a thing i sware something happened then a few weeks later i realized i was ...

Should I ask my friend about his sexuality?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5779 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - Hi, i have a friend who is 29 and as far as we know (we've known him since school) is a virgin. He's never had a gf and often expresses crushes on women at his work, etc, but will not ever act upon it, even if a woman asks him out. He's fairly shy, ...

I'm a virgin but don't want to be!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - So, im sixteen and a virgin. I really really dont want to be. Im totally ready but im not sure how to make it happpen. Im not one of those girls who makes a big deal but it just hasnt happened. I don't have a boyfriend and when i do, it usually ...

I'm 24, hot and still a virgin

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 5169 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - I am a very attractive 24 year old female virgin and I’m ashamed that I have yet to be intimate with someone. I have never been in a serious relationship and have never done anything more than kiss. I am worried that when I find a guy I want to have ...

Sex ??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Okay, I've been dating this guy for a year now, I'm in love with him. Please do not give me the bullshit about how 'You don't know what love is' because both of us have been through hell and are mature enough to know the difference. I'm not like r...

He wants to get it on, but I'm a virgin and he doesn't know! What to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I need some help, I am a twenty six year old virgin, there is a guy at work whom I have been flirting with for about a year, he has said to me that on the next night out we should get it on back at his. I am thinking wow because he is gorgeous and ...

Why is it rare?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

23 January 2009 (?) - Why is being a 24 year old virgin rare? Is it a bad thing or a good thing? I'm almost 25. I'm a catholic. I'm saving myself (in a way). I think? I don't have kids yet. However, I have two cousins and a close family friend with kids and a family ...

I feel guilty about not being a virgin, help!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

22 January 2009 (?) - Hey, its very simple, I lost my virginity at 16 with my 2 year boyfreind and Im a catholic who wante tdo wiat for marriage. thing is things got complicated and we broke up. Now I'm with this new guy for three months. he is nice and sweet and a ...

How painful will first time sex be and how can I make it less so?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - ok ive been with my boyfriend for five months and hes been my best friend for ages.Im a virgin but Im sure that i want to have sex with him but im slightly nerous about two things.The first is how much pain it will cause me.From experience how bad ...

How can I make him believe that I was a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - hi,after i had sex for the first time, i realised i wasnt a virgin. my boyfriend does'nt belive me when i tell him he was my first since i wasnt a virgin. i think the cause of loosing my virginity is riding bicycles alot since it was one of my ...

Should I give her another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - for what happened the second time this is the link i ended up giving her another chance but im not sure if i should give her another. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-understand-her-actions.html well anyway when i first met her sh...

Is it normal to feel this sick after losing your virginity?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - is it normal to get really bad stomach cramps and feel sick after losing your virginity? we did use protection and it didnt split so i cant be pregnant, im just kinda worried....

Will I hurt her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

21 January 2009 (M) - This is yet another penis size question folks! Well, I have been dating a girl of over a year now and we have not had sex yet because she isn't ready, but, I am scared I may hurt her since she is a virgin and I am also. My erect penis length is 6 ...

If I lose my virginity to a guy I don't love, won't it be easier?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - Im listening to the advice ppl give me bout waiting for sex, but i have another theory. i know a girls first time is special and something she will remember BUT, i dont know if i can lose it to someone i absolutely love, and then lose HIM. I have f...

How do you tell if a hymen is broken or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - so...i'm not sure if my hymen's broken or not. I know this is so embarrassing but like i've done...alot...but there's been no bleeding or pain when i'm...active....i'm just curious really. i'm not sure how to tell if it is or not....

16 and scared to have sex

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - Im 16(virgen) my boyfriend his 20(not a virgin), we have dun about evrything,but im to scared to have sex with him. His also scared he dosent wanna get into trouble, and his scared to get me pregnat. I dont know what to do, what should i do? ...

I really like him but he's such a manwhore! Lose it? Or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - Ok i REALLY need to hear some advice and decide something. because my friend is gettin his license in a week and a half and he plans on fucking. we met over a year ago and our relationship is purely sexual even tho im a virgin. from sending ...

How to know when the time is right

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5784 days ago

20 January 2009 (?) - Virginity.. How do you know when yuur ready to lose it? How old would be a suggested age and how long should you be with a person. Any tips on the whole topic or virginity and sex at all would be helpful....

Does a guy notice difference if a girl is a virgin or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

19 January 2009 (?) - Hi everyone, I have been curious on whether or not a guy feels a difference from having sex with a girl who is a virgin from having sex with a girl who's not? I know some girls will bleed on their first time, but it their anyother way a guy can tell ...

Questions about first time sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

19 January 2009 (?) - Ok so I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. (He's 22 and I am 18) we have a great relationship, lately we have been making out and one thing leads to another and we find ourselves totally naked ready to have sex. I am still a virgin and he ...

Should my girl's sexual history bother me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - So first off i want to say i am a virgin and this girl and i have been talking about sex. Well she is also technically a virgin guys have never done anything to her but she told me she has done things orally to like 5 different guys. I mean i am ...

Sex is a sacred thing to me and I'm not interested in my fiance's ideas.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - My fiance and I have been together for a long time and, since we are both virgins, we decided that we are not going to have sex until we are married. So, as an alternative we will "mess around" by touching and pleasuring each other, but we are ...

We broke up because of sex and I want her back

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5785 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Me and my gf had been going out foe 5 months ok? We were each other's first make out partner all the way to oral sex in this time. All of the people in school said we were a beautiful couple and we were perfect for each other. Even some teachers ...

I'm a bedroom sissy that fantasizes about being dominated by a man. Am I gay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4880 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Hi. I'll get straight to it. I think I'm straight, I've only ever fancied girls and fallen in love with girls. Even now, I would never enter a proper relationship with a man. But...I want to have sex with a man. I'm a bedroom sissy that fantasi...