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writes: Virginity..How do you know when yuur ready to lose it?How old would be a suggested age and how long should you be with a person.Any tips on the whole topic or virginity and sex at all would be helpful. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): You'll know.
The moment you find no need to ask yourself this question is when you know it's the right time.
So until you can think about this and it seems to be the most natural and logical way of expressing your love for someone, then is when you should give your virginity away.
Not in a toilet in a bar to someone you met five seconds ago and won't ever see again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): Well, I don't know about you, but I think when you know the person well, and you know them inside out and you know what makes them tick, and you're way past high school and college, with a good job, as well as the money to support yourself and a kid if they get pregnant. that's when. It's not an age, it's when you're INDEPENDENT.
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reader, MutantKitten  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 You have to trust him, you have to be protected, and you have to be comfortable!
1) trust.
- This means you are emotionally ready for sex, and know and trust each other to be conscientious of each others feelings during and after sex.
- It means that you both discuss what you are comfortable with before sex, and agree to stop at any point if one of you is uncomfortable with what's happening.
- This also means that you have both gotten tested for STDS and have both come up negative. After that, you've got to trust each other not to cheat on each other, which could potentially bring STDs into the relationship.
2) protection.
-You have to discuss what methods you're going to use, agree to always use them, and to use at least two methods (IE pill and condom)
-Obtaining and using protection, and being responsible about it (IE always having condoms on hand, taking the pill at the same time every day)
-Talking about what to do if the protection fails (Ie thoughts on abortion, adoption and or whether you'd both try to raise a baby)
Most of all, you have to feel ready and comfortable! Don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't want to do.
Another thing you might want to think about BEFORE sex is getting Gardasil. It's a vaccine that protects against four strains of an STD called Human Papilloma Virus or HPV (cause of genital warts). The shot prevents against the four most common/deadly strains that cause warts and Cervical cancer. It will be covered by your parents medical insurance. There's lots of literature online about how to talk to your parents about getting it. It works best before the first time you have sex, so it's best to get it now.
Since you're Canadian, this might help ya, too.
Average age of first sex in Canada is 17, so you're still a little early.
You might want to check out your Sexual Health Clinic. They can provide you with birth control pills for about $7 a month if you don't want to go through your parents insurance. Once you're in University or College, you can put it all on your University health plan and pay even less. ^_^
Honestly though, since you're 13-15, I might suggest waiting a little longer. Honestly, sex causes more headaches than it can be worth. There is NOTHING as bad as wondering if your period is late because you're stressed about tomorrow's exam or because the condom slipped off (It's happened to me, TRUST me it's not fun)
Also, after you have sex, you also have to remember to go for PAP smears every year, to make sure you're not getting cervical cancer. It's a necessary evil, but not so comfortable, and might be worth delaying sex for a while not to have to face the cold metal beak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): dont push the fact just because of peer pressure youll know when the right guy comes around. guys love girls who are virgins the longer you keep it the more guys will be chasing after and want to take it away dont give them the chance to.
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reader, Chata  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 My boyfriend and I were together over a year before we had sex. (Which was very recently). Losing your virginity is not really something to take lightly. There is a lot that comes with it.
I don't believe that there is any age, really or time qualification with your boyfriend. I think that if you really honestly love him, then you will not question whether you are ready or not.
To me, it was a very very big step. I do not regret taking it in the least because I am very in love with the man that I am with, and I have the intentions of marrying him.
If you question yourself, don't. You'll know when you're ready.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (20 January 2009):
I was 15 and i had been dating the guy for three months but had been talking to and seeing him for 7 months. I knew I was ready because I knew he was the kind of guy who wouldn't leave me right after. We just broke up yesterday and still live together and we were togther 4 1/2 years so i feel i made the right choice. You will know if you try the guy.
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