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writes:so here's the thing... i've known this guy for about a year now, but we just started "talking" about 6 months ago. and ever since then we have only hungout about 5 times. it was nothing big, no intimate contact was involved just hanging out and talking.he is a freshman in college and kinda does his own thing now.he has only had sex with 2 girls before, and that i know for sure.he is a very nice, trustworthy guy and that's what kinda throughs me off a bit. about a week ago we hungout and this time we messed around. he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him.unfortunately i had said yes. i guess just cause i was in the moment.he is my first. things went great i don't regret anything.before this we both had somewhat of feelings for eachother. but after that day it seems to me that things kinda changed. feelings from me to him? have definately changed. i can't stop thinking of him my feelings for him are way deeper. he told me before all this had happened that he wanted to see what the future had in hold for us. but now he really doesn't talk to me as much. i try contacting him everyday by calling or texting. the majority of the time i don't receive anything back. idk if he's just nervous or scared. we did talk once after and he said that he likes me as much as i like him.. but the thing is is that he doesn't show any of his affection towards me.from this point idk if he's just using me for the pleasure, because he did mention tht he thinks we rushed into things just a tad bit. but idk if i should stop trying to make the next step work with our "relationship." or have him come to me as for me going to him. i need help. Do you people have any advice for me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): The guy I lost my virginity on was a total Dick, I only discovered that afterwards, I slipped out of the house with friends went to his house, started kissing, he wanted more, I told him it was my 1st time and he was very understanding and gentle, until he came, lol he passed out 5 min afterwards, it was 3 o’clock in the morning and he would not take me home as he promised before the sex, I had to walk home at 3 in the morning. But angel they not all like that, they not all only sex craving bastards, I think especially with guys the longer you keep that chase going the more interested they are in you, but as soon as you give in to soon to early they feel bored, like they got what they came for, everyone think it’s the girl who sleeps with the most guys that are most popular, but I can tell you it’s the other way around, if they cant have you they want you. So basically what I am saying is play hard to get, coz your body is something sacred, and if every tom dick and his dog had a go at it, who will want that in 10 or 15 years from now, do not have sex with anyone if they cant offer you the love and honesty you deserve, you need to be totally sure about that person and his intentions with you, you are a woman, and yes men crave us, some even lust after us, but play the game and play it clever don’t let anyone use you as this will only hurt you more in the future. From here on try not to have sex with anyone until you are 100 % sure.That’s my opinion angel some might not agree with me but its my view. Good luck and keep your chin up you are a woman and that makes you special, let them work hard and prove themselves before giving in.
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reader, Jager  +, writes (27 January 2009):
ok im not sure how old you are so dont know if your mature enough for this. However from what i can see you calling him and texting him every day your feelings are way deeper he's your first blar blar blar got ya. I understand how you feel dont take me the wrong way im not taking the piss or anything. But look at it from his opinion you had sex, to him it was just sex he thinks your rushing him and you respond by phoning and texting every five minutes. i think you should stop trying to make the next step. enjoy what you have your prob only young. Its your first time so take it really slow ye? dont rush things and make sure you have space from each other spend time with your friends and let him have space from you. if you dont it wont work.turst me ive been there. good luck
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reader, HappySmiles +, writes (27 January 2009):
 how long you know him for..and he is 18 already he shouldnt be having sex with a minor against the law.. maybe he just get caught and send to jail becuz of the sex or he just using you to have some pleasure. He will come back again and want sex thats it.. Your just a sex toy for him.. Lose him and move on.
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