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*heylymuch
writes:im kinda nervous about this but i need to know.My boyfriend may be ready to have sex,and hes told me he has before.Im still a virgin and I was wondering if i should or not.Ive heard its gonna hurt really bad and i hate pain but im not sure.Any sugestions, just let me know please.
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reader, tazdevil +, writes (30 January 2009):
dont do anything your not comfortable doing!
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (30 January 2009):
if you are not ready for sex, don't have sex. but at the same time the longer you leave it, the harder it will be to get the courage to do it.
yes the first time will hurt, but after that it is amazing. as long as you both care for eachother and he knows to take it slow and gentle you will be fine. sometimes we have to do things that hurt alittle for a good result, such as waxing and giving birth. sex is not as bad as either of those things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): If you don't feel 100% ready - don't do it. If your guy truly cares, he will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): If you are nervous is means stop don’t do it, when you have sex for the first time. Your body mind and heart should be ready, if you go into this while you are not ready, you will mess things up for yourself, I am proud to see that you are still a virgin at this age, and you can be proud of yourself for this, if every part of you is not ready for sex, your BF needs to understand and respect that and if he cant, my dear he is throwing away something beautiful but you will then be getting the opportunity to save yourself for someone who is worth it, if he doesn’t want to wait then he doesn’t deserve it. Yes your first time is gona hurt a bit, and a couple of times after that to, and that is why it is so important for your body and mind to be ready for it, if you rush it, it will hurt even more, and often times young guys don’t understand that, and because of that lack of maturity, your way of looking at sex and the over all experience of sex will suck and could change the way you react to sexual intercourse for the rest of your life. So be sure that you explain to him that you appreciate his honesty but he needs to respect you and wait for you coz love once you lose that you cant ever get it back, its gone forever, and you don’t want to regret that or the person you gave it up to.Good luck and keep thinking the way you are you are on the right track.
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Even if he is ready, it doesnt mean you are ready.Honestly you will know when the time is right because you just feel ready. If you are second guessing it, it would indicate to me that you arent there just yet. The pain depend on many things. Some people it hurts alot, others not, some bleed, some dont. p.s It isnt as easy as the first "women" wrote. ~dee
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): dont worry about the pain or anything... because it feels good hah. if you want it, have it
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Sweetie, if you're unsure, you should wait. A decision like this has to be something that you're 200% certain of. If he's any kind of guy, he'll wait until you're ready. :)
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (30 January 2009):
Well the best thing for your relationship, is to wait until your both ready. You don't want it to be awkward. Otherwise, there is nothing special to it. Just tell him your not ready but you'll let him know when you are. He should understand that. Good luck.
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