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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

It's a rocky relationship and I just learned he's been sexting other women! I need advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - Please I need y'all advice. So my bf and have both live here in the U.K. I came here when I was a teenager and he's only been here for 3yrs now. His mum said I'm a good girl so she set us up. He was not my type so I didn't agree. He pursued me ...

I may have lost the love of my life and perfect girl to commitment phobia! Now that I want her back, she's completely blanked me out!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

31 October 2016 (M) - I think Ive ruined things with the love of my life Ive been with my girl 8 years since school she's absolutely stunning that's why I fancied her initially I just wanted to have sex with her but we were 16 she ended up making me wait 8 months a...

I've never had feelings like this before, but I'm getting whiplash!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - Ok, so here it is: A couple months ago i met this guy, and it was instant attraction from both sides. Physical attraction that i have NEVER felt before, but what was strange is that there was the emotional attraction as well. We are very good ...

I don't want to have anything to do with my family ... ever again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I want to go far away from my family without telling them where I am going and never ever wanting any contact with them again. I don't know if anyone here knows how it feels to be manipulated by family members till you become a dry well then th...

My boyfriend's wife says he is lying about getting a divorce

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - Hi, I am with a guy who is separated from his wife 5 years ago. He came to America as a refugee 3 years ago and she is overseas with their son. All his family and relatives knows about me and the fact that they are separated and he is waiting for ...

Girlfriend of 4 years cheated, I forgave and she's still cheating! I'm afraid to leave home anymore

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2980 days ago

30 October 2016 (M) - Hey guys, Im new to this kind of thing however i don't know where else to turn to for this so figured it's time to ask here. so right to it... Me and my gf have been together for over 4 years now... we've had our ups and downs like anyone el...

Future mother in law seems to have won and talked my fiance into putting off our wedding. I'm pregnant and not happy!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I posted just over a week ago about bringing my wedding forward as I've not long found out I'm pregnant and didn't want to be a due date bride! But was having issues with my mother in law saying she couldn't get the time off work and generally ...

I think I made a mistake moving away and buying a house with my b/f. I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I am 42, and currently in a bad situation with my bf of 6 and 1/2 yrs. I moved 80 miles away from family friends etc to be with him. We bought a house last oct'. However things have got so bad already. He is very strict and sometimes ruthless with ...

What rights do I have as a grandparent?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

29 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a grandparent of a now 2 year old grandson.My grandson is constantly in and out of CPS because my daughter is involved with the child's father and he is the one abusing him.Now I am trying to get visitation rights and she told the ...

I've never dated and have started wondering what's the point?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2982 days ago

29 October 2016 (M) - A bit of background info. I'm a 25 year old guy whose never been on a date or with a girl at all. For as long as long as I can remember i've severely lacked the confidence in myself to approach a girl i like let alone ask her out and the few times I ...

Girls seem to show interest in me, but why don't they want to date me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

28 October 2016 (M) - So I meet this girl at work and we started talking and I was surprised at how easy and effortless it was to talk to her. We seemed to share many same hobbies and stuff. She seemed to like me and was single at the time, anyways while we were talking ...

Why am I afraid of loving him? He's serious about me and the chemistry is intense

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

28 October 2016 (F) - Why am I afraid of loving him? I met him a year and 5 months ago at a salon were he did my hair I remember we had such a great conversion as he was busy with my hair, after that he asked to call me and he took my number from the register, ever since ...

I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend's parenting

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2980 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - I have been dating a man with a 13 year old daughter for 5 months and feel ready to meet her. I thought I was anyway. He is still drying her after a shower on her back and her legs. She is going through puberty and has all the maturing parts of a ...

Does anyone know the signs of a porn addict?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - Does anyone know the signs (no matter how subtle) of a porn addict as im trying to end a relationship as my mans totally given up having sex with me been saying he has no sex drive..the signs so far i have seen..a password has popped up on his ...

Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

27 October 2016 (M) - I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something...

Is my brother in law attracted to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - I've known "BIL" (long term bfs brother) through a friend for a long time but we've never got to properly know each other as I'm quite shy but I have became more outgoing through the years. I also think this is to do with his wife as she is very ...

The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...

His family don't think my family are good enough. Should I hope that he will accept me? I fear this relationship could leave me brokem hearted

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - Hey everyone! I'm a total mess right now and in a desperate attempt to seek advise I'm here. I was in a very serious relationship with a man for a year and half.I met his family,we were thinking of marriage planning kids and then all of a sudden ...

My sister is aggressive and opinionated. Would it be OK if I skipped Christmas this year and stayed home to avoid my sister?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I'm having a dilemma over Christmas Day and I could do with some advice. I have a small family consisting of my sister, mother and grandmother. i didn't get on particularly well with my sister- we only see each other three times a year at family o...

Need advice on dealing with a demanding mother

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - How can I deal with my demanding mother? I'm a 34 year old married mother of three and yet my own mother dictates my entire life. She's had health problems on and off for the last 7 years and when she was at her worst, I had to quit my job and ...

What is this fantasy trying to tell me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I when I was 24yrs old I was in a long term relationship with a man that was very verbally abusice- controlling and manipulatin. The last year of my relationship with him he broke up with me and then essentially came back and begged for me to be ...

Boyfriend won't have sex with me but jacks off to porn

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Me and my boyfriend havent slept together for months due to his depression and no sex drive and its really starting to get me down as i know hes making time to masterbate to porn...we did try to have sex a few weeks ago but he didn't look happy to ...

How can I make my husband forgive my mother and myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - I meet my husband six years ago online. We are from different country and love each other very much. March 2014 we married and I move to his country. I agreed to help him in his business before I get a job there. Therefore I help him. He said that ...

My older boyfriend doesn't put forth the effort and tells me I should find someone else

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Hi all, im in a relationship with a guy for 9 months now. He's 55 years old im 28 years old And he's never suggested taking me out anywhere. He has been married twice. His second wife had her own house he moved in before he got married to her, they ...

Long distance relationship problems - is she as committed as I am?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

24 October 2016 (M) - So i'm in a long distance relationships (different countries). To give some background info, we met while we were both living abroad and were together for about 4 months there before we returned to our own countries, and stayed together ...

How can I cope with my sister in law?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2986 days ago

24 October 2016 (F) - I am really struggling to be civil to my sister in law. I have tried hard to include her, be involved with her and her child, offer to help out with her child, buy the baby presents etc. I have also regularly helped out her too. However she al...

I'd like to keep him as a friend but would like to know what I did wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

24 October 2016 (F) - Aunts/uncles Met this guy at work. Cutting long story short. He noticed me first . I did not find him attractive to begin. Then I spoke to him one day and he smiled andhe melted my heart. The flirting continued with very few words . I went on ...

I'm only important to him at night

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - iam having a boyfriend and I love him ,but he only takes me important during the night for example he can spend the day not calling me or even not sending texts ,he only does during the night,he hides me from his elder family members,does this man ...

Troubling situation with job but I need to stick it out at least a year

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2987 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - Hi erveyone Would love ways of coping or advice on how to get through my situation. I am a director at an ad agency in New York. I started two months ago on six month probation. It's a small company 22 people run by husband and wife and on l...

How do I stop thinking about all the upsetting episodes from the past when I'm upset with my boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2988 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - Every time I'm angry or upset with my boyfriend I remember all the things about him that made me angry or upset in the past, and it makes me feel worse. E.g. I'm upset that he bailed the last minute when we had plans and I'm starting to think of the ...

I think my mom's cheating on my step dad

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I really need some advice right now. I think my mum is cheating, or about to cheat on my stepdad. It sickens me to even think about it. Long story short, last year there was an incident where my mum found out that my stepdad was messaging and ...

What are the signs that a partner has had or is having an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - Has anyone had a partner whos had an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting that can give me advice on what the possible signs are please?... For a long time Ive been extremely worried about a lot of my boyfriends behaviou...

I was completely averse to sex in my previous relationship and though I'm better now, I still have negative feelings attached to it. Any words of advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2984 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I was with my ex for 5.5 years roughly. About 3 years in, I lost my sex drive. It had a lot to do with being on the pill but we also started having problems which didn't help. For the last year of our relationship, I hated sex, truly hated it, ...

Why would a guy keep his GF around if he had lost all sexual desire for her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Can anyone especially men please give me some advice..I'll try+keep it brief... Basically would a man keep their girlfriend around in a serious relationship if they had lost all sexual attraction for their partner?... The reason why i ask is I'v...

My partner is more interested in pleasing his mother than me

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - My fiancé and I have just discovered that I'm pregnant and our wedding was booked for the same month the baby is due so we've decided to bring it forward. We've given our small party of 40 guests the new date which is still 3 months away and ...

Why is my dad so hard on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2989 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Hello :) Recently I moved to another country to take up a different course for university. And well my parents left 2 weeks after my course started and well the first week my dad called me everyday and as time went by I had a lot of work and I wa...

My boyfriend is in jail and I'm lonely

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2990 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - Has anyone ever had a boyfriend in jail before? My boyfriend has been in jail since Sept. 30th,and it has been hard. He is in jail for a parole violation. His lawyer thinks that he will get out on the 25th of this month,but there is a possibility ...

I’m disgusted by his personal hygiene!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 2988 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - I need to start by saying my boyfriend is usually wonderful. He is very sweet, generous and loving. But that just isn't enough. I feel so guilty to admit it, but he disgusts me. He always smells bad and doesn't brush his teeth or shower unless I ...

I don’t feel romantic love for him any longer but he doesn’t seem to listen to the potential for a great friendship. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2971 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - A month or so ago I wrote about having a great connection with a man who was 57 and older than me. I thank all the aunts and uncles again for all the wonderful advice. I sat back and thought everything through and I got to know him better. ...

She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2990 days ago

20 October 2016 (M) - OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...

Girlfriend's clothes are, 'Not acceptable to me'.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2979 days ago

20 October 2016 (M) - Me and my gf are recently fighting over this issue that is her "Clothes". Sometimes she wears disgusting dresses which are revealing and I really don't like it. When I tell her not to wear such dresses she doesn't listen and gets agitated. The dres...

I am threatened because sometimes she masturbates

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2991 days ago

20 October 2016 (M) - i am married and my wife recently told me that she would masturbate from the time of her ex-lover to the time when she had our first kid. What should i do? Should i leave her because she is not that into me?...

We haven't been properly intimate in four months. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2991 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Having a huge problem with my boyfriend of 2 years in that we havent been properly intimate for 4 months..It used to be a big part of our relationship and now its nothing and its left me feeling ugly and very insecure!his reasons for not been ...

I told him that I thought his kids were sabotaging our relationship and now he won't talk to me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2991 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Hi, I'd been dating this guy for 3months. At first we would go on dates about 3 times a week, then it cut down to once or twice a week and thereafter we'd only get to seeing each other once a month. I thought his kids had something to do with this ...

Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...

He's disinterested. Finding it hard to give up on my boyfriend and move on. What should I do ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2992 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - i dont know if i am in a relationship or what? Have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since March 2012 till now. Everything was well and nice suddenly he changed...he no longer calls,the comunication is down..down...its just bo...

My Gf is not talking. Should I consider the relationship is over??? Or could I revive our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2992 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - I want to keep the relationship but she won't reply to texts or take my calls. literally begged to her to talk, but she didn't respond. should I call this an end to this relationship? it's two days since we last talked. we recently fought ...

Where to now? Is my married loved a narcissist? I feel I can no longer trust him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2987 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - I had a year long affair with a married man. I am his tennant in the house that he rents out. He left his wife just before Christmas and came to live with me and my kids in the house. During our affair we had a secret bank accounts, and phone nu...

She'd rather masturbate than have sex with me. Is there a way to resolve this problem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2992 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - A few months ago I bought house and decided to take the leap and move in with my girlfriend. Other than a few kinks things have been good but recently I've found out that she's been masterbsting on a regular basis instead of having sex with me....

He blanked me for weeks then blows up because I was with some one else?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2991 days ago

18 October 2016 (F) - I was texting / meeting a guy (let's call him Fred, this isn't his name) and was seeing each other for about 9weeks.. Then for some reason he stopped talking to me. He said he had family issues and personal problems and can't give me what I want, he ...