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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Does he like me or am I just "plan b" if he doesn't get her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - ok so my ex and I broke up and during this relationship my other ex(joe) and I stayed good friends,we often wrote on Facebook, he was often flirty and it seemed like he was waiting for me to become single again.(he is/was making out with a girl h...

Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4680 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...

Did he just want his ego boosted or does he feel the same?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hi All, Over 18months ago, I had a short relationship with a guy I met on dating site which lasted about 4 months. We parted over something really trivial and I did not pursue it any further, we remained friends and lost contact over time. However,...

I resent my boyfried for his past experiences!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and My Boyfriend, we love each other so much. We've been together for 7 gonna be 8 months. And we're extremely happy together. The thing is, maybe two years ago, he had sex multiple times with his ex let's say her name is C. A...

He has images of ex's on his computer, but still says he loves me. Am I right to be bothered by this?

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30 October 2011 (F) - Ill keep it short, I've been with my boyfriend just over a month, but he says we might have well been together a year, because everyone saw it comning but us.. and we both really liked each other... Recently I've noticed that he still has a ...

We meet as friends but I still have feelings. Will I ever be able to heal my heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hi, First sorry for my poor english language. In the last 2 years I,ve read questions and answers in this site hoping to find an explanation for my relationship but I,m still in ,, middle of nowhere,, and I can,t get out the pain from my c...

I don't know whether to continue with my travel plans or try to get back with my ex

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30 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend and i broke up at the beginning of the year - she said that I wasn't enjoying life which is true and that I need to go and do my thing in the world as i am often very depressed and disillusioned with the world (i don't see any point ...

I feel like he's flown off and I'm stuck on the ground

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - So, things are a mess with my ex. Help? I'm sorry if this is one huge ramble, I really need to let it all out somehow. I broke up with him at the start of July earlier this year. We'd been together a while, a year and a few months. Each other's ...

Why would a dumper complain to an ex about their current relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - My mum's friend was married years ago. He retrained as a teacher and she put him through school. After he finished he dumped her out of the blue. No reason, just cut her off. She went to his parents house, but they slammed the door in her face. He ...

Ex is ruining my high school life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - Hey, Dearcupid. I'm really sorry about the length of this, but I desperately need some help. I broke up with my girlfriend of 26 months recently because she cheated on me THREE TIMES IN ONE NIGHT and still had the nerve to get angry at me for ...

It's been one month and a half and my ex has contacted me out of the blue - should I ignore it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Sorry it's long but... help? This guy would wipe my tears away and told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex, he's in it for long-term, and he'll wait for me for as long as it takes. We talked everyday. But then... two and a half mon...

I'm not sure of his ex's intentions...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - i need some advice... ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are living with each other now. one problenm - hes friends with his ex.. well not really an ex, a girl he used to love but she had a boyfriend already while he was "friends" with ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

Got cheated upon once, and now I am paranoid it will happen again in my present relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Is this what one may call trauma? Two and a half years ago, i found out my ex was cheating on me which left me so scarred, it took me a year to accept what happened. He was my first bf. Anyway, i am fully recovered now in terms of any emotion towa...

What do I do? My ex won't be coming back

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - What do i do as it seems my ex wont be coming back. Its been nine months. I know i kept messing up and he doesnt want to trust me. I go out with friends but its not the same without him. I dont want to date another guy as they all seem boring. How ...

Why does my B/f still have pictures of his ex girlfriends on his laptop? Would it be unreasonable if I asked him to delete them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4778 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together one month, but we were seeing each other before that for about 4 months as I moved away and we had liked each other for a year previously, now were finally together I couldn't be happier, although I seem ...

How can I get over this, and still be friends with his brother, and not see my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Hello, I am really having a hard time getting over my ex. I met him thru his brother, aand now it feels like i have to cut his brother my friend off, because things are, well nothing is happening with us. I was doing ok with not communicating with ...

My past is coming back to haunt me.....

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...

Tired of dreaming about my ex boyfriend.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I stopped seeing each other two weeks ago. We were seeing each other for several months. I will admit that it killed me, but in hindsight I have come to terms that our lifestyles weren't compatible and that this would have happened ...

Should I write to my ex first or wait to see if he writes to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - ok my ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago (I am over it already because I know we have no future because we are too different) and a few days later I had a kind of date with another ex (well it actually wasn't supposed to be one) but he was flirty and ...

Am I jealous? Or wrong to feel this way? She took me shopping to find a present for her ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - So, i'm in an AMAZING relationship with my girlfriend. She makes me happier than anything in the world. However, i get so upset about certain things. For example, she speaks about her ex alot. Like, "once we went to this place and it was grea...

New girl I'm dating doesn't know how to treat me like my ex. Should I leave her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4779 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - Im going to try to condense the story as much as possible. I been dating this girl for about a month and a half now. Our relationship is moving very slowly and I'm okay with it. I have some recurring thoughts though. I have a strong feeling t...

Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...

Which guy should I choose? I like them all!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Okay so this is going to be long and I am really sorry for it. Okay so over the summer I ended up breaking u with my ex boyfriend, who is really sweet, kind and funny. I broke up with him because I was constantly mad around him and have no idea...

How could he lose feelings for me then fall in love with someone else two days later?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Hi my ex dumped me over the phone last month, I found out from a friend a week later that he was in a relationship with a girl he'd been txting while we were together. I asked him about it and he said they had only been together for a week so he ...

What does he want?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - my ex and I broke up a week and a few days ago but I am already over it because I know it`s better and we are not meant for each other! so my other ex(let`s call him max) and I stayed good friends even during my last relationship. he seemed pretty ...

Is there any way to get my ex back? I'm not willing to let go of something this powerful.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Everyone I know tells me to just move on. Even if my future self went back in time to tell me that it's not worth it, I would still continue. I've always took pride in having no regrets, but I'm at the point when I realize that there are special ...

My ex left me because I'm a wuss.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - So lately I have been thinking about my ex and how she left me. Basically it was a LDR and we always tried to make time to see each other every day. She's pretty much moved on but I still miss her a ton, and think about her everyday. At one point I ...

Got together with my ex on Friday, but he hasn't called since?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - So I've started seeing my ex-boyfriend, we broke up 6 months ago and we were also together for that length of time. We broke up due distance and a petty argument. So it was really no big deal. Basically I stayed in his house Friday night, it's...

Is he still a player or is he a player

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - my ex whom I haven't seen for almost two years and I have a 3 day getaway together. I think I got lonely and he charmed me into sleeping with him. When we're saying goodbye to each other, and on the first day of leaving we're talking and he s...

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex and I'm eaten up by guilt!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Im new to this "going to the internet for help" deal, But i am being tortured everyday and night and im in desperate need for help. :( So here's a little background info before i get into what i need to say. I dated a guy for 3 years ...

Should I tell my current girlfriend that I was seeing my ex when we first got together? I'm afraid she'll dump me too!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - I have never told my current girlfriend of 10 months that I had a girlfriend before her and I always say that she’s my first love. My ex-girlfriend dumped me when she came to know that I was seeing this current girlfriend of mine behind her back...

Would you be okay with your bf if they were divorced for over 10 years and still really good buddies?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - My BF has been divorced for 10 years+ approx. The problem I am having is he is friends with the ex wife. I try to be okay about it but really I am not. I have just given birth to his son about 20 days ago. Bf doesn't have any kids with her but they ...

Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...

Boyfriend seems to be focusing way too much on his ex and I can't stand it anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - I would be very greatful of some help please, this problem has dragged on in my mind for far too long and I'm becoming more and more depressed in my relationship that I'm not sure if it's worth continuing it anymore. I've been with my partner for ...

He says he really loves me but is he over his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - Dear cupid, I've met the most amazing man and we just totally click, we have the same thoughts and same tastes in music and film. We are very easy going people and have been very open with eachother for the whole month we've been together. I love ...

I regret the moment I cheated and am broken hearted, I need help from open minded people about what I can do now?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4781 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - Hello all please don't hate or judge me for this as i hate myself enough i need urgent advice here is the story: I had a ex for 8yrs and had two great kids the relationship broke down and i left but supported my kids i met a new girl who helped m...

Even though I love my new boyfriend to bits is it possible I still love my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - Hello, just a short question. Even tho i have another boyfriend after my ex i think i still love him. I love my new boyfriend, but we have had some arguments. My ex hasnt spoke to me much since the break up he siad he still wanted to be friends, and ...

Why would my girlfriend say that her ex was "just too huge"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - I've been going out with my GF for about a year, and we're discussing marriage. I've done quite well in my career, and some of the things my GF has said have given me the definite impression that this is quite important to her in a potential husb...

I fear I only love my wife as a friend, and to make things worse I have cheated on her with my ex....who do I really want?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - I am in my mid 30's. I have been married for 18 months to a woman I have been with for several years. Our relationship is fine but I fear I only love her as a friend. We have no kids. We rarely have sex and when we do it feels very unatural. I ...

When my ex said "I met a nice guy", was that her way of trying to make me jealous? Or does she really want me to leave her alone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - So I recently am going through a break that happened about 2 months ago or so. I was with this girl for about 8 months and I still miss her. The other night I got drunk (yes stupid) and texted her. I guess I just wanted to text her when I was sober ...

My girlfriend is focusing more in her ex's problems and I feel like she isn't paying attention to much else. What should I say about my feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - Okay, so I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now. She has always kept in contact with her ex. I haven't had a problem with it too much because I know she really doesn't want to be with him and he lives on the complete opposite side of the ...

My ex girlfriend wanted to have a look "down there" after knowing I had some complications with my circumcision. Platonic or something more to it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - I split with my girlfriend six months ago and still enjoy hanging out with her. Before the relationship, we were always close, open friends so decided to revert to that. Anyway, I recently had a circumcision and following that were some ...

Is it worth persuing this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4783 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Story: My ex and I got together after being friends for a couple weeks. He's 25 and I'm 19. It was very unexpected since I just got out of a 2 year long relationship a couple months before and had dated someone else for a few weeks. Our relation...

Should I take my ex to court for slander?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - My ex and I broke up for about a year now, we broke up because she cheated, so I move on with my life. I have found recently she has been lying about me, like she did about her ex husband... she keeps telling to people I am a violent person, she is ...

Ex in town...should I call?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Hey, just a quick question.. My ex is in town for the next week, and I was wondering if it is ok for me to call him. He knows I am here obviously, and hasn't contacted or done anything.. I leave on tuesday to visit my boyfriend who lives in another...

What do you do when your ex turns everyone against you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - I ran into my ex mutual friends with my ex today. It's the first time I've seen them in over a year. They didn't even Acknowledge me at all. It was weird. I can't believe I used to be friends with these people, let alone close friends. My ex dumped ...

My ex will not leave me alone. And I'm afraid I'm letting things move too fast in my new relationship. Is my new relationship the answer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4783 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months a month and a half ago. I guess you could say... I fell out of love. I was miserable, unhappy. Kisses and hugs felt... absolutely empty. I wanted to stay to make him happy but I started reverting back to ...