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writes:my ex whom I haven't seen for almost two years and I have a 3 day getaway together.I think I got lonely and he charmed me into sleeping with him.When we're saying goodbye to each other, and on the first day of leaving we're talking and he seems like he is sincere to want to get and live in together.But there's a lot of IF's.It took me that long to realize I should deserve a better guy, I have severe anxiety/depression because of his cheating, I am not sure it's because I'm not too good with forgiving him before because I was young then and maybe now I can understand better.Should I let him in my life again the 3rd time? both times he only given me severe anxiety/depression and up to now I still cannot find a man like him...so I'm very frustrated.I even feel ugly because I could not find a date like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011): First, I am doing OK with my depression, Ty.
Second, his physical self attracts me most and I have a hard time finding a guy like him.
I sound/love an idiot too, but I don't know why :(
I guess all these time 1yr 8months of not able to find a date I feel like a bad luck, I'm nowhere stable and that's what guys wanted :( and I'm not hot either that's what men around here wanted :(
so it really sucks, I kind of think it's hopeless, he's the only one I got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Once a player, always a player. It's in the genes.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 October 2011):
WHY would you expose yourself, a third time, to this jerk who made you feel bad the first and second times.... AND, your intuition "tells" you that he's going to do it again?????
Get a better B/F....
Good luck....
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reader, deepgemini  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Have you tried asking him the question what has changed about him that should allow you to trust him and try again?
You talk about finding another man like him... why would want another player? it takes time to find the right man and not allow yourself to settle. As you said you deserve so much more, someone to nurture you and support you that you can trust and love entirely as you deserve.
However you need to learn love yourself first and have a fulfilling life as a singleton before that may happen... not an easy thng to do I know... have you tried counselling? Dyu have a close friend you could talk to?
Depression is an incredibly strong and debilitating condition that can take over you completely if you allow it. You'll have to be strong to overcome it and you sound like your a strong woman if you've let go of this guy twice already because you know you deserve better. Think with your head not your heart,
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